anna86 Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 Hello, i just found out i was pregnant and im so scared i have had anxiety my whole life sometimes really bad patches and now i can feel myself sinking back into that hell of worry and "what if" thoughts i cant shake them they are constant and im so scared im going lose it and no be able to there for child. I just want to be normal and not worry about such outlandish things someof my thoughts are aweful..... i have so much guilt becouse my husband doesnt understand and trys but i know hes getting sick of my worring constantly i feel lost and that im so scared thatim going end up in looney bin. Is there anyone out there thats had the same thing or can help me i really scared and would so very appreciate a response...thanks anna Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
paula Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 Hi Anna and welcome to our Community,The first thing you need to do is calm yourself down! Breeeath!Could you possibly tell us a little about your past? You haven't really provided sufficient information as of what has been going on in your past/present day's?Hello, i just found out i was pregnant and im so scared i have had anxiety my whole life sometimes really bad patches and now i can feel myself sinking back into that hell of worry and "what if" thoughts i cant shake them they are constant and im so scared im going lose it and no be able to there for child.Are you on any Medications for your Anxiety? Does your Doctor know that your pregnant? Are you under any Psychiatrist for your Anxiety?I'm sorry but I feel that without the relevant information, we are infact trying to look into this blind!Will await on your reply! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted January 8, 2009 Report Share Posted January 8, 2009 Hi Anna and I want to join Paula in welcoming you to our community.I suspect that you are the same person who wrote about this problem under "Ask Dr. Schwartz" which I have not had a chance to respond to as yet.Paula is asking some good questions and would it be OK for you to answer?Also, remember something about fear: You may feel like you are going crazy but you are not going crazy. Do what Paula said, breathe deeply and slowly and exhale slowly too.Do you see a therapist? I would recommend that you go into psychotherapy, particularly with a psychologist who uses Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. CBT works really well with anxiety and fear and that would help you a lot.Allan:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dazed Posted January 9, 2009 Report Share Posted January 9, 2009 Hi Anna!I wish to congratulate you for your pregnancy. Please do not be surprised, I know a lot of couples who cannot conceive a child and is struggling to maintain their married life because of such problem.Women who just found out that they're pregnant has various reactions ranging from extreme happiness, fear, worry, ambivalence, and some may even cry (for no reason). This is fairly normal depending on your background. However, if you're finding it such a struggle to battle out your anxiety pangs, I would also recommend seeing a therapist... an overly anxious mom with a lot of stress also has lots of physiological changes that may harm the growing baby. A therapist would be of great help.As with what Paula said, you might want to inform your health care provide of any medications you have been taking for anxiety (or any other medications for other purposes). Some maybe contraindicated with child bearing and may need to be changed or temporarily withheld.Apart from strongly agreeing with ASchwartz, you and your husband might also benefit from Prenatal classes so that you will be given awareness on what to expect during the course of pregnancy as well as provide a good support group composed of nurses, midwives, obstetricians, pediatrics, and other expectant couples as well.I wish for you a healthy pregnancy and do keep us updated. God bless!- Josh Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tattees143 Posted January 15, 2009 Report Share Posted January 15, 2009 I am having the same exact issue. I have been on and off Anxiety/Depression meds for 11 years. I just found out I was pregnant last night and my boyfriend isn't what you would call excited about it. I am soooo scared I don't know what to do. I want to have a child but i'm just not sure that now is the right time since me and the boyfriend haven't been getting along to well here lately. I am 28 years old and I wanted to have a child before I was 30 but i'm not married and have so many problems by myself do I want to put my child through this? Would I even be a good mother?Oh and because you asked the other girl I am on meds for my depression 20mg Lexapro, 100mg Webutrin and sometimes I have to take Xanax to sleep at night. I also have a therepist but I haven't been to see her in a few weeks.I need advice someone please help me?:confused: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightfalls Posted January 15, 2009 Report Share Posted January 15, 2009 (edited) Hi tattees143,First I will say congrats to you, I know it is a special but scary moment when you first find out that you are actually expecting. I think regardless of who we are, or how we are set up in life, if we are ready, if we are not, stable or not stable, finances ??? whatever that may be lol, there are so many questions and I think every one wonders if they will be a good mother, if they are ready to be, if they can handle it, I think personally that because you are taking a look at your life means that you are caring, and sensitive, qualities that are important in a mom and you are already showing you hold them. I think a big part of parenting is perspective, I think we are never fully ready to be a parent until we are one, because you just can't prepare for all the emotional, and life changes that will be and they are both amazing and scary but mostly amazing, nothing in my eyes can compare to the joy a child brings for this is my reality and my children hold my heart up when I need there strenght. I see that you are scared and not sure you can do it, but life can be amazing and amazing things happen sometimes just when we need them too! Hope and pray all the best to you, take care:) Edited January 15, 2009 by nightfalls Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
confused12 Posted January 15, 2009 Report Share Posted January 15, 2009 Hello, i just found out i was pregnant and im so scared i have had anxiety my whole life sometimes really bad patches and now i can feel myself sinking back into that hell of worry and "what if" thoughts i cant shake them they are constant and im so scared im going lose it and no be able to there for child. I just want to be normal and not worry about such outlandish things someof my thoughts are aweful..... i have so much guilt becouse my husband doesnt understand and trys but i know hes getting sick of my worring constantly i feel lost and that im so scared thatim going end up in looney bin. Is there anyone out there thats had the same thing or can help me i really scared and would so very appreciate a response...thanks annaHi anna86,I just wanted to share that I have survived your fear (including hospital admission after my second and third children). While scary it is you will be able to work through these fears and have plans in place to deal with your 'what ifs'. Just like a birthing plan(which often doesn't go to plan but the baby arrives safely) you could have a mental health plan during and after your pregnancy. Some things may not be planed for but with a support network you can work through these issue as well. It is very important that your pregnancy carers are aware of your anxiety. They may want to refer you for more specialist care. This doesn't make you 'loony' from experience but provides you with the care you and your baby need.Take care and keep us posted.Confused12 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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