Just thought I'd warn you that I'll be off from Friday through Monday. Let's call it time off for good behavior?
I finally managed to write an e-mail to the wife to warn her that I'm giving up on negotiating with her, and will be starting the court filing. It was very difficult: I've spent a year trying, only to realize, recently, that even if she gave in on everything, I still wouldn't trust her to follow through. Add to that the fact that there's really very little incentive for her to move forward, and you can see that I've pretty much despaired of ever making negotiations work.
What annoys me most is the part of this that's mine: I genuinely thought it was better to talk, and all I've succeeded in doing was postponing the final decree, while I paid for everything. It just makes me wonder whether I've really learned the lesson, that there's no chance of me ever getting her to see my view of "reason".
I don't much like the fact that I'm basically going to end up paying a lawyer to get me a solution that will bankrupt me. But at least it's a solution, rather than this slow evisceration.