Hey...I just thought of something after reading this this morning...make her pay rent.

I know you don't want to play her game, and this may fall under that heading, but still....she wants to make all these rules in her favor...if you make one in your favor does it still enter into the trappings of her "power play" she's trying to lead you into? "Entitled" projections. Malign let's go for a hike!

Mmm, yeah, it crossed my mind. This financial arrangement can't hold. I'm starving myself rather than charge meals or groceries to a credit card when I don't have access to the joint accounts to pay it off ...

But I'd have to grow a spine to change something, and if I had one, I'd probably change more than rent.