Well, and in my opinion, willpower is overrated.

Willpower got me into my marriage, and willpower kept me in it until I was fantasizing suicide. It's only when I cut myself some slack that I realized what the death thoughts were trying to tell me.

Granted, different situations in all sorts of ways. Just wanted to make the point that sanity often isn't in the direction that we will ourselves to go. Letting go can sometimes allow the compass needle to settle on a better direction.

yeah i think the death thoughts are trying to tell me something too, just can't figure out what yet. Or not willing to make the trade off. When willpower keeps one from calling his professor an alien nazi from the future, though, it can be useful.