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Note to self, next relationship...my own lil list


tourdelove

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I will update this list as I find new stuff...

Physical style

5 1] Well built, athletic

5 2] Eats mostly healthfully

5 3] exercise regularly

5 4] good looking

5 5] cares about appearance

5 6] keeps clean

3 7] no addictions

4 8] dresses well

37/40=93

Emotional Style

2 1] very affectionate, likes touching, kissing, holding me

2 2] supportive of me and my dreams

3 3] Expresses feelings easily

3 4] makes romantic gestures

4 5] committed

4 6] faithful, devoted

3 7] sentimental about special occasions

2 8] proud of me and shows it (tells friends about us)

4 9] doesn't make me jealous

3 10] not grumpy

30/50=60

Social Style

5 1] down to earth/practical

4 2] friendly

5 3] good sense of humor

3 4] kind and sensitive

2 5] likes to play, be light

4 6] as an easy time being with people, not shy

5 7] reliable

5 8] commands respect from others

33/40=82.5

Intellectual Style

5 1] smart

3 2] Interested in culture, music

2 3] likes learning new things

2 4] enjoys philosophical discussion

4 5] creative

5 6] can fix things

1 7] interested in my knowledge

4 8] teaches gently

24/40=63

___ Style

5 1]

3 2] sensual

3 3] sensitive and skilled

3 4] likes to cuddle

5 5] no hang ups

5 6] no deceases/dysfunction [m or p]

5 7] mostly conventional

3 8] makes ... not just

32/40=80

Communication Style

2 1] Loves talking

3 2] Takes feed-back well

4 3] willing to discuss problems

3 4] tells me what's going on inside of him

3 5] doesn't clam up

3 6] doesn't lose his temper easily

3 7] let's me talk - open to my opinions/feelings

2 8] enjoys discussing ideas with me

23/40=57.5

Professional Style

4 1] hard worker

4 2] financially responsible

5 3] generous with himself and others

5 4] honest and ethical

4 5] enjoys good things in life

5 6] has a profession or trade

5 7] finds work easily

4 8] willing to support family/share financial responsibilities and family chores

5 9] reasonably successful

41/45=91

Personal Growth Style

3 1] Committed to learn about self

4 2] Sees own shortcomings

3 3] willing to work on relationship

3 4] makes concrete changes

2 5] enjoys discussing growth

2 6] flexible/willing to change

17/30=56.5

Spiritual Style

3 1] Optimistic outlook on life

5 2] Non-religious

3 3] Open to meditation

4 4] Respectful of all living things

3 5] Compassionate to others less fortunate

5 6] non-metaphysical/astrology/hippy

5 7] non-superstitious

28/35=80

Interests and Hobbies

3 1] Loves entertainment [music, movies]

4 2] Enjoys self-propelled outdoors sports

3 3] Loves to travel

4 4] Loves to entertain, going out

5 5] Loves cooking

2 6] Loves good, ethnic, fancy food, dining out

2 7] loves to ski

2 8] willingly does sports/activities with me without being all push=y

27/40=68

731.5/1000 = 73% over all

wow me and C I guess arent' compatible. Or at least we're only partially compatible. And we would probably have big problems, as he doesn't respect me and doesn't what to hear about my ideas too much. Doesn't have a whole lot of the same interests...

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Wow, I am impressed..... speechless really. The one resounding thing that I learned from my failed marriage was that I have to be with one who is willing to share in creating a new world of our own. Whoever said love is a give & take must have been disappointed, if someone gives then someone TAKES ... If you BOTH SHARE there is integration of a new creation.... A list may help with generalities but true love has no boundaries..

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dang right you are, laughter! Interestingly enough, I know for a fact that I am very funny, most people laugh at my jokes, but C_ only did a lill. I also know he is supposed to be funny, from what people have told me, but, with me, he was always mostly serious and/or grumpy. Ah! What was I thinking. Well, I am still in denial, but more and more I see the light!

thanks for the comment!

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I also heard this somewhere and have held onto it, reminded myself of it many times... You should not FALL in love, like it was an accident, or hazard.. You should be lifted up to more than you were....

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