things to know and think:

“What's the advantage of having this guy around?”

“How do I feel about myself after I’ve been in his company?”

“What’s in it for me?”

Adopt the philosophy of “approval neither desired nor required.”

After all, there will always be someone there to tell you that you aren’t attractive enough, perfect enough, or that you didn't come from the right side of the tracks. True confidence is born when you...Don't believe what anyone tells you about yourself.

Another reason why men marry bitches is because bitchy (but let's think of them as driven) women tend to get things done. Some women complain about circumstances that aren't ideal and then they whine and complain. In short, it's easy to be a victim of circumstance. Bitchy women, on the other hand, acknowledge what is causing their discontent and then they can be counted on to fix the problem.

be as proactive as you can

make a plan: figure out what needs to be done to get what you want