Every damn woman is a cock tease.

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Well, I agree that HAHA had/has needs that he needs help with, and I would welcome him back to the community to talk about them. In fact, that is how I answered his other, less offensive, thread. On the other hand, though, I'm not a woman or a rape victim; I can afford to be tolerant of his provocations to some extent. But I would welcome him back only if he's capable of respecting the feelings of others, for two reasons.

First and foremost, because he's not the only person here who is dealing with difficulties, and many of those who "critically parented" him were themselves victims of rape or assault. They have a right to feel safe here, too.

But the second reason why he needs to learn empathy is so that he can use it on himself. Without it, the odds that we could reach him with our words don't seem that high, to me.

That's another way of saying that if he did set up a provocation so he could 'have a go' at the object of his anger, he got what he wanted, but it's not what we're here to provide. If he wants what we are here to provide, well, it's still here waiting for him. But he has to want it, a little bit.

He deserves help, like anyone else. The question is whether this community is the best source of it, for him. And those are my feelings as a person, not a moderator.