Catmom Posted September 2, 2010 Report Share Posted September 2, 2010 I lost my job back in May and found out last week that my unemployment benefits have been denied because my former employer alleges "misconduct" consisting of verbal abuse of a nursing home resident. This is a false accusation but I still have no money coming in at the moment. I struggle daily with a lot of fear and low self esteem. That being said, I want to share something that has helped me look at my situation in a different light:I heard a piece this morning on NPR'S "The Story" about a woman, Jill Hollis, who was diagnosed with ALS in 2004. They interviewed her periodically over the years since 2004 and I was blown away by her honesty and courage.Here's the link to the NPR page so you can hear her story:http://thestory.org/archiveShe died this last Tuesday night.She wasn't some full of it, PollyAnna type, but did see the good that had come from her illness. The part of the story that I could so relate to is when she said that if there were a pill to cure her of ALS instantly, she would not take it! She said this is because she is terrified of losing the closeness with family and friends that she has gained from her illness.She had a wonderful group of friends from her church and a husband and children who were very supportive of her.I don't have the large group of supporters she did, but last Friday, my eldest brother called me to thank me for a birthday card I had sent him. I had just found out about my unemployment benefits being cut off & had not told him yet.I was astonished when he responded with some very kind words about how I have been clean, sober, & gamble free since December 2004. He asked me where I thought I would be if I had continued the drugs & gambling. (In the back of our minds during the conversation was our brother who died of an Oxycontin overdose in Jan 2004). I was so touched by his kindness during the phone call that I started crying.After the call, I was talking to a friend on the phone and was trying to remember the last time this brother had been so kind to me. I am pretty sure it was when our dad died in 1991! My brother had been there holding my dad's hand as he died of Alzheimer's disease and assured me that his passing had been very peaceful.It meant so much to me to have that small interaction with my brother that the financial and emotional price my unemployment has caused was (almost) worth it. I say "almost" because I still might be homeless and the brother may only act nicely every 20 years. LOL Time will tell I guess.Thanks for reading,CatmomP.S. Obviously, if were partaking of drugs or gambling, this connection with my brother would never have happened. I would have been already involved in an intimate relationship with gambling and/or drugs. CM Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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