ChasingDreams Posted September 14, 2010 Report Share Posted September 14, 2010 I'm so desperately trying to find a reason (excuse?) for why my boyfriend acts toward me the way he does... I have a really hard time accepting that he is purposely trying to hurt me... It's easier to accept thinking that he has something going on with him that is not in his control... So what I'm wondering is:Does having some kind of mental illness excuse/explain abusive behavior? Or is it just that abusive people always have some sort of mental illness going on? Is there ever a time when abuse is forgivable because it can be blamed on mental illness?Having seen my brother go to prison for domestic violence, and yet knowing the man behind his abusive behavior and the insecurities that led him to rage has I guess given me a different perspective and perhaps tolerance toward this kind of behavior. I tend to want to see what is behind the behavior... It's hard for me to believe people can be mean just for the sake of being mean:( Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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