I was wish I was born asexual.

[dvnJ22]

At 3 1/2 inches I kind of wonder whats point of trying with girls, I mean how could I even properly satisfy them when there guys with so much more to offer then me? I feel like nature did not intend for me to have sex or reproduce or have romantic relationship with a Woman. I have a great sense of humor so mabye I should have been born a medieval court jester or something. I wish I could safely chemical castrate myself.

[Wastedlife]

Chemical castration is a good option for people with less then 5 inches, we are not man or women I don’t know what to classify “ab normals” like us with tinny genitalia. I did some research and side effects are horrible with those pills and I don’t intent on suffering even more...best solution is to completely stay ways from women and not interact with them in any way, it keeps the urges at bay. I see a escort once in a while when I cant keep it together....pathetic fucking life...

[dvnJ22]

I just hate it, I know if I got into a relationship she would just cheat on me. I wana just kill myself, but I'd hate to do that to my 3 sisters. If they dead or something I would just shoot myself with a shotgun like my uncle did. I sometimes hope that one day I can sacrifice my life to save the world or someone else that way I'd be a hero, but that's just wishful thinking. I have been thinkg of going to the park near my apartment building, taking all of my psych pills to OD and just die there, that way my family wouldn't find me. But I take prozac and I heard it's not enough to kill you, but just give you brain damaged.

[IrmaJean]

I know if I got into a relationship she would just cheat on me.

You can't really know, can you? If you are involved in a mutually caring relationship with a woman, she may feel very happy to stay with you. Not every woman thinks about or even cares in one way or the other what a man's penis size is.

You mention having a great sense of humor. Many women would appreciate that.

What about self-acceptance? Can you reach out to someone there if you do not feel safe?

Chemical castration is a good option for people with less then 5 inches, we are not man or women...

Maybe you could challenge this thought? There is much more to being a man than genital size, don't you think?

[Jessie]

There are ways to lower ones sex drive which may help mentally with this type of thing.

There is hypnosis or even chemicals such as Bromide, which WW1 soldiers used to have put in their tea to cope with pent up sexual urges whilst in the trenches.

I dont know if there are any side effects though.

There is also masturbation for release although I know that can be habit forming and depressing for some.

Also Irma is right- there are some women that are not into the sexual side of things in a relationship so much- they like humour, companionship and trust.

I understand you want a conventional sexual union but you need to open up to other possibilities- you want to be a happier person next week than you are today- this takes effort and responsibility ( and yes- I have just come back from a therapist session- haha )

[dvnJ22]

I just don't why I even get up in the morning. I don't have the will to try anymore, and I can't see reason why. I'm such a failure.

[Jessie]

but you are not a failure. you are not responsible for how your body turned out.

and the measure of a man is not just what is in his trousers but he what he says and does too.

Those things ARE in your control.

If you carefully select potential partners and remain resilient you might find a woman who could accept you.

In the past 6 months I think we have had 6 women who have posted here stating that they have been with, and accepted, smaller men.

I suppose you may assume they are posting white lies or are fraudulent but I don't think so. I believe them to be genuine.

So there is hope. i know its hard- I have black days myself, and I sometimes only see the negative in everything but it helps to take a step back and see some light now and again.

[Wastedlife]

Maybe you could challenge this thought? There is much more to being a man than genital size, don't you think?

Of course there is more to being a male then genitalia size but the problem is genitalia size are the key to most of the things that make you a man. You need self-confidence which lets you be funny, interesting and just someone women would gravitate towards. You can never have high self-confidence with small penis or feel good about you're body so it makes all other aspects of your personalty useless. Something like having a Bentley but not having enough money to put gas it it, in turn making it totally useless.

Why are so many women getting breast implants? Well that’s how it is for man the only problem is penis has much more important function for mans self confidence, women vagina and just general arousal knowing this guy is “packing”. And we cant get ours enlarged...

[dvnJ22]

I thinking about trying to do CBT. I talked to one my friends - he said that even if it was only one inches a girl would be lucky to be with me. I went to a dr to check me, she grabbed and everything, and said sex shouldn't be a problem. I hope they are right.

[IrmaJean]

Cbt is a great idea! I hope that you find a good and supportive therapist who helps you.

I wanted to share some of my personal thoughts and experience.

When I consider intimate relations, there is much more to this than the physical sensation aspect of it. There is emotional and spiritual connection as well, and this enhances the physical aspects of it. For me, when I love someone, I want to know and familiarize myself with my partner’s body, just as it is. This is about deeply appreciating, respecting, and cherishing the gift of sharing. Appreciating and respecting that your partner is willing to share his vulnerability with you. So I do enjoy the sexual aspect of a relationship, but this aspect is much deeper for me than the act itself. It means so much more. It’s connective on so many levels.

I’m going to write some about myself. I apologize if it’s too much information, but I thought it might help if I shared. From a purely physical standpoint, it’s difficult for me to feel attractive at this point in my life. I can relate to having those types of feelings. Wasted Life, you mentioned breast size. I'm 34 B. I have had the nerve damage that prevents me from achieving (or even beginning the process of achieving) orgasm for more than 10 years. I have also struggled for many years with dysfunctional uterine bleeding that has worsened quite a bit over the past six months. I’m mostly unavailable to have relations with my husband. I may need minor (or major) surgery to correct this. Still being tested and trying to decide about this…On top of all of this, I developed phlebitis several months ago and still have a large, egg-sized, bruised and hardened lump on one leg with numerous smaller hardened lumps…It isn’t very pretty to look at and even harder for me to feel pretty…Sometimes it hurts, but I know I have inner beauty. I know I’m feminine even though I’m no body beautiful. My femininity isn’t about shapes and sizes or physical issues…it’s about who I am as a person. It’s about shining my light and being true to who I am. Inside, I’m tender, caring, kind, and compassionate. I’m learning how to be strong and confident too. When I connect with and feel these aspects of myself, I do feel pretty. I find now that my circle of friends is growing larger as I have opened up to myself and to life.

The point being, it isn’t about your penis…it’s about your heart and your mind. I know I've said that before... Body parts don’t make you more or less of a man. Be yourself, open your heart, and let yourself be known. When you feel that, others will naturally be attracted to you.

[Notdoneyet]

What a downer! You guys who share this issue with smaller than average junk with the rest of us

need to know that, as stated many times before, your junk is for your enjoyment. You are kidding yourself if you

think that orgasms would feel better for YOU if you had another inch or so between your legs.

The only people who are being deprived of enjoyment are YOU who can't seem to permit a potential partner

to worry about theirs.

Give it a try with somebody and if it doesn't work out, move on to a different one.