Victimorthecrime Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 I want some female feedback but it's easier said than doneI don't want it to be completely meaningless and random. There's more chance of it being a bad experience and me being more insecure that wayGo to a sorioty and say "listen gals I want your honest feedback on something..." Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robert Posted July 12, 2015 Report Share Posted July 12, 2015 There is no getting over it unless you have sps and think that you are small for us with actually a small penis my mistake a "pee pee" or "weenie" is the appropriate way to say what I have there is no cure life deals shitty hands and we just happen to get one god i swear im becoming more bitter and colder as days go by not at women or men but at life I never was a horrible person even as a kid you know your fucked when you forget sbout your birthday and it has passed already I accept defeat im inferior are you happy now society god ive withdrawn myself from women so long ive started to masterbate to gay porn and you know what I was pretty turned on does that make me who the fuck cares ive caught myself many times checking out others guys packages I cant wait till the day I die im so ready ive become a lost version of my original self or maybe im just losing my mind on a lighter note if I die maybe one of you could us my penis all 4 inches of it if its possible id gladly do it id pay someone to shoot me in the fucking forehead right now Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RandomDude Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 There is no getting over it unless you have sps and think that you are small for us with actually a small penis my mistake a "pee pee" or "weenie" is the appropriate way to say what I have there is no cure life deals shitty hands and we just happen to get one god i swear im becoming more bitter and colder as days go by not at women or men but at life I never was a horrible person even as a kid you know your fucked when you forget sbout your birthday and it has passed already I accept defeat im inferior are you happy now society god ive withdrawn myself from women so long ive started to masterbate to gay porn and you know what I was pretty turned on does that make me who the fuck cares ive caught myself many times checking out others guys packages I cant wait till the day I die im so ready ive become a lost version of my original self or maybe im just losing my mind on a lighter note if I die maybe one of you could us my penis all 4 inches of it if its possible id gladly do it id pay someone to shoot me in the fucking forehead right nowRobert, its cool if you dont want to go into this in detail (of course) but I'm wondering whether you are really as bad as you think?Like, is the 4 inch a bone press measure or normal measure? Are you average girth?I remember seeing the film Unhung Hero by comedian Patrick Moote, and he sees a surgeon who says that anything from 4-6 inch would be considered normal by medical people (as far as I know thats a not bone pressed measure?)I dont know, I'm not saying 4 inch is a good number, but I'm just wondering whether its completely without hope man? In some countries (in Asia maybe) it could be near to average? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robert Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Trust me when I say 4 inches thats all there is. Not much girth either. I used to be upbeat like you and others here but its all just denial. Size does matter it doesn't have to be huge but it has to be enough. Of course in asian countries average penis size is smaller.but how is that going to help me? You want to know details about my penis? Ok here it goes im 4.25 inches bone pressed no much girth. to be honest picture a 10 yr olds penis on a 27yr old man and thats me.ive accepted my fate im not in denial anymore im inferior no person gay or straight likes small penises. if there is a god(im starting to doubt) then this is a curse from him honestly I dont even know why I even come to this forum anymore klingsor, djv22, death and many others have gone. They've probably figured it out the only way out is to die. You dont understand I dont have sps I actually have a toddlers penis and im reminded of it each time I use the restroom I word of advice if your younger than me dont let people bullshit you into thinking "its not that bad" and that bullshit phrase "theres someone for everyone" its all a load of crap many guys on here just have sps but what about the guys who actually have a small dick. Ive never in my life been so ready to die as I am right now in three yesrs ill be fucking 30 yrs old and im living proof it doesnt get better it gets worse there is no hope only death Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robert Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Ps and patrick moote is a fucking idiot I bet he just has sps you know they say as you get older your penis gets smaller so for me its no way but going downhill from here I hate those small penis documentaries the guy always finds out its all bullshit and hes just in denial and afraid to face the truth I pray for death even though it never comes hopefully one day ill finally get what im asking for or I'll eventually do it myself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RandomDude Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 Robert,Okay I hear you man. I was just trying to help in some way, ya know. For sure life can be seriously shitty in all kinds of ways - and this is probably one of the worse ways. I would hope life is still worth living though. All the best in the circumstances. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 13, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 I don't think all is lost Robert, Ive read plenty of stories online of people smaller than you with wives and girlfriends (Lawrence b is the perfect example) so don't give up. It may sounds patronising and stupid of me to say that but I genuinely believe it even though I myself struggle with my fears Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RandomDude Posted July 13, 2015 Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 I don't think all is lost Robert, Ive read plenty of stories online of people smaller than you with wives and girlfriends (Lawrence b is the perfect example) so don't give up. It may sounds patronising and stupid of me to say that but I genuinely believe it even though I myself struggle with my fearsIt's true there are guys like Lawrence Barraclough who have won over despite all. But I think Robert has a point - if guys are too far below average maybe it would just be denial to say everything is okay?Its like we were saying earlier on, its one thing to be 0.5 or 0.75 inch below average. Its different to be way under. I can't really imagine that. It must be dreadful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 13, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 13, 2015 It's true there are guys like Lawrence Barraclough who have won over despite all. But I think Robert has a point - if guys are too far below average maybe it would just be denial to say everything is okay?Its like we were saying earlier on, its one thing to be 0.5 or 0.75 inch below average. Its different to be way under. I can't really imagine that. It must be dreadful. I get what you're saying, I think it would be some form of denial to say it's okay but I'm just trying to put over the fact that there is hope regardless of how bad things are.I wish there wasn't such a broad range of penis sizes so people wouldn't have to suffer like this life's unfair Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robert Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 I'm not angry at you guys. I'm just sick of pretending everything is ok. I've been upbeat about having a small penis my whole life. Things never changed though. I cant lie to myself anymore. I really appreciate you guys its just tough going through this alone. Now I remember why I come back to this forum. Because guys like you and everyone here gives me strength. Not to be too emotional lol if you guys can stay strong I can try im just in a deep dark place right now I wish the best for you guys I really mean it ive dealt with sps since I was 13 now im 27 when does it get better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 I'm not angry at you guys. I'm just sick of pretending everything is ok. I've been upbeat about having a small penis my whole life. Things never changed though. I cant lie to myself anymore. I really appreciate you guys its just tough going through this alone. Now I remember why I come back to this forum. Because guys like you and everyone here gives me strength. Not to be too emotional lol if you guys can stay strong I can try im just in a deep dark place right now I wish the best for you guys I really mean it ive dealt with sps since I was 13 now im 27 when does it get betterI completely agree, coming on here and talking is the only way I can relate to my problems. It's almost an escape to come on here as I feel like I'm the only one who has this 'curse'. As someone who has been in a bad place through all kinds of problems,with a major factor being sps, I sort of know what it's like for you Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
themike Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 Yeah, I´m stuck in SPS also. For me, is more a mental than a physical problem. I suppose that I´ve a very bad sexual education...and my lack of self-confidence is the reason I´ve never try to approach to a girl.It´s a shame, I´m 27, and all the time I have lost hurts me so much.Also, it´s impossible to find a person who can understand the really dimension of the problem. No doctors, no therapist, no friends had question me about this. During this time, I think that there is only one solution, to change my mind. There are too many men that have sex with girls despite their size or others problems. So, really, is a mental and a social problem. For example, the fear of rejection by a girl due to size...I put this text in Spanish and then i translate it. This is only one example of one guy who had sex despite his size with his girlfriend...lucky or a brave man?"Mi experiencia personal: Tengo un micropene de 7 cm erecto hace 6 meses conocà a mi novia es una chica muy Alta de 1,85 al principio me acompleje mucho por mi "Asuntito" luego ella me fue dando bastante confianza hoy en dÃa soy un hombre personalmente activo me sigue acomplejando un poco, pero ella me dio a entender que de verdad y se los digo con toda sinceridad el tamaño no importa tanto ella como yo disfrutamos del sexo y nos amamos espero que les sirva de algo mi experiencia"My personal experience. I have a micropenis with 3.5 inch in erection. Since 6 months I´m with my girlfriend. She is 1,85 cm tall. At first, i was scare for my problem, but she gave me confidence. We enjoy sex. She tells me that size really don´t matter when someone fall in love.This is a mexican guy. So, I need to learn how to improve my self confidence. Women had also problems and insecurities...but we need to stop victimize ourselves or accept a lonely live. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 Yeah, I´m stuck in SPS also. For me, is more a mental than a physical problem. I suppose that I´ve a very bad sexual education...and my lack of self-confidence is the reason I´ve never try to approach to a girl.It´s a shame, I´m 27, and all the time I have lost hurts me so much.Also, it´s impossible to find a person who can understand the really dimension of the problem. No doctors, no therapist, no friends had question me about this. During this time, I think that there is only one solution, to change my mind. There are too many men that have sex with girls despite their size or others problems. So, really, is a mental and a social problem. For example, the fear of rejection by a girl due to size...I put this text in Spanish and then i translate it. This is only one example of one guy who had sex despite his size with his girlfriend...lucky or a brave man?"Mi experiencia personal: Tengo un micropene de 7 cm erecto hace 6 meses conocà a mi novia es una chica muy Alta de 1,85 al principio me acompleje mucho por mi "Asuntito" luego ella me fue dando bastante confianza hoy en dÃa soy un hombre personalmente activo me sigue acomplejando un poco, pero ella me dio a entender que de verdad y se los digo con toda sinceridad el tamaño no importa tanto ella como yo disfrutamos del sexo y nos amamos espero que les sirva de algo mi experiencia"My personal experience. I have a micropenis with 3.5 inch in erection. Since 6 months I´m with my girlfriend. She is 1,85 cm tall. At first, i was scare for my problem, but she gave me confidence. We enjoy sex. She tells me that size really don´t matter when someone fall in love.This is a mexican guy. So, I need to learn how to improve my self confidence. Women had also problems and insecurities...but we need to stop victimize ourselves or accept a lonely live.Yeah I agree that a lot of it is mental and how we take rejection etc. My original post touches on that and how I can go from thinking 'oh it will be alright, it's just a penis' to 'holy shit it's a disaster, I'm tiny'. I would implore guys that have confidence and the mindset of not really caring, to just go for it! At the end of the day im sure getting laid will outweigh your fears but unfortunately for me, I don't have that mindset Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ShameOnThem Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 I'm not angry at you guys. I'm just sick of pretending everything is ok. I've been upbeat about having a small penis my whole life. Things never changed though. I cant lie to myself anymore. I really appreciate you guys its just tough going through this alone. Now I remember why I come back to this forum. Because guys like you and everyone here gives me strength. Not to be too emotional lol if you guys can stay strong I can try im just in a deep dark place right now I wish the best for you guys I really mean it ive dealt with sps since I was 13 now im 27 when does it get betterRobert, I'm really glad you can find some help among this community of like-penised people. I feel your pain and I want to tell you that no matter how dark a place you are in right now things will get better and you will find hapiness if you can learn to love yourself enough to accept this hapiness. Nobody or no thing can make us be happy, we have to let ourselves be happy.I've been angry my whole life that my penis size has such an effect over my experiences. I have turned away from essentially every woman who has ever even so much as smiled at me because I don't want to reveal my true self to anyone, and that kind of weight on a person is crushing. It sucks that all of society tells me that I should be ashamed of my body, and that every doubt about myself ("I'll never be able to truly please her" "She will laugh at me either to my face or behind my back" "She'll never actually love me, only what I can offer her in social status and security" etc.) is the truth. But society is 100% wrong about us. Society doesn't want us to be happy, it doesn't want us to love ourselves, it only wants to tear us down so that we need it's products and cliques to build ourselves up. I know this is bullshit because of the 2 out of the 3 sexual partners I have had were left wanting more of me. My first girlfriend cried when I broke up with her, because she was always happy when she was with me. The other was basically begging for a second date after she had seen my 4.25" x 4.25" penis. She knew that I was good person and that I cared about her pleasure, and the pavlovian response to her orgasms didn't care that they were from my fingers and tongue. And yes, the other one went poorly for me, but she was not a good person, and hell, batting .660 will get you into Cooperstown. I am not an overly tall or handsome person, I am not rich or especially confident. But I am genuine, and I care about others, especially those close to me. And for the majority of women who have their heads on straight, that is more than enough.Basically, there is not a single tangible thing holding us small-penised men back from achieving absolute success and fulfillment in life. The only things that constrain us to this misery are our own mental issues of pride and insecurity, and the external social bullshit that tries to tear us down. Without my insecurity, I could pick up women with a smile and a conversation. Without my pride, I could be indifferent to the notion of my small penis being (more)public knowledge and be willing to get intimate with more people. Without socialized masculinity, I could accept that I have to do more than ram my magic dick home until completion to thoroughly satisfy her and be completely fine with having to work to get my partner off. Without my insecurity, I wouldn't have to feel the need to warn her or apologize for my body. Without my pride, I could be willing to involve any technique or toy to completely satisfy her every desire(even if my dick were not the primary focus in lovemaking) and leave her catatonic from ecstasy.But these things are in my head, and I suspect they are problems for a lot of the people on these boards. The good news is that, like many other people are talking about, these are mental issues and not physical ones, so there is hope that we can overcome them with time and self-love. It's not easy to love and accept ourselves, but if we can do it, then finding someone who loves us will be easy. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 Robert, I'm really glad you can find some help among this community of like-penised people. I feel your pain and I want to tell you that no matter how dark a place you are in right now things will get better and you will find hapiness if you can learn to love yourself enough to accept this hapiness. Nobody or no thing can make us be happy, we have to let ourselves be happy.I've been angry my whole life that my penis size has so an effect over my experiences. I have turned away from essentially every woman who has ever even so much as smiled at me because I don't want to reveal my true self to anyone, and that kind of weight on a person is crushing. It sucks that all of society tells me that I should be ashamed of my body, and that every doubt about myself ("I'll never be able to truly please her" "She will laugh at me either to my face or behind my back" "She'll never actually love me, only what I can offer her in social status and security" etc.) is the truth. But society is 100% wrong about us. Society doesn't want us to be happy, it doesn't want us to love ourselves, it only wants to tear us down so that we need it's products and cliques to build ourselves up. I know this is bullshit because of the 2 out of the 3 sexual partners I have had were left wanting more of me. My first girlfriend cried when I broke up with her, because she was always happy when she was with me. The other was basically begging for a second date after she had seen my 4.25" x 4.25" penis. She knew that I was good person and that I cared about her pleasure, and the pavlovian response to her orgasms didn't care that they were from my fingers and tongue. And yes, the other one went poorly for me, but she was not a good person, and hell, batting .660 will get you into Cooperstown. I am not an overly tall or handsome person, I am not rich or especially confident. But I am genuine, and I care about others, especially those close to me. And for the majority of women who have their heads on straight, that is more than enough. Basically, there is not a single tangible thing holding us small-penised men back from achieving absolute success and fulfillment in life. The only things that constrain us to this misery are our own mental issues of pride and insecurity, and the external social bullshit that tries to tear us down. Without my insecurity, I could pick up women with a smile and a conversation. Without my pride, I could be indifferent to the notion of my small penis being (more)public knowledge and be willing to . Without socialized masculinity, I could accept that I have to do more than ram my magic dick home until completion to thoroughly satisfy her. Without my insecurity, I wouldn't have to feel the need to warn her or apologize for my body. Without my pride, I could be willing to involve any technique or toy to completely satisfy her every desire(even if my dick were not the primary focus in lovemaking) and leave her catatonic from ecstasy.But these things are in my head, and I suspect they are problems for a lot of the people on these boards. The good news is that, like many other people are talking about, these are mental issues and not physical ones, so there is hope that we can overcome them with time and self-love. It's not easy to love and accept ourselves, but if we can do it, then finding someone who loves us will be easy.This is a great post. Enough said. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robert Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 You know, reading all of you guys posts kind of puts things in perspective. I wish I had all of you guys outlooks and attitudes about sps but its difficult for me. Living in a society that wants you to feel like crap because of something you didnt ask for. Each time a woman says hi or walks past I feel inferior It Is almost as if she knows I have a small penis so I just keep my head down. Its like having a small penis robs you of your self esteem your happiness your peace of mind it has caused me to miss out on alot in life.I have a question for you guys do you think if you didnt have sps or a small penis that you would be an entirely different person? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 14, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 You know, reading all of you guys posts kind of puts things in perspective. I wish I had all of you guys outlooks and attitudes about sps but its difficult for me. Living in a society that wants you to feel like crap because of something you didnt ask for. Each time a woman says hi or walks past I feel inferior It Is almost as if she knows I have a small penis so I just keep my head down. Its like having a small penis robs you of your self esteem your happiness your peace of mind it has caused me to miss out on alot in life.I have a question for you guys do you think if you didnt have sps or a small penis that you would be an entirely different person? Believe me, I have all of those things you've mentioned! I feel completely useless when it comes to women and talking about them but I know that it's not a complete lost cause.In answer to your question.. Yes. I think I would be more confident in general as I wouldn't have this as a worry. Oh how I wish I had an extra inch on my flaccid and erect size. It would completely change everything for me and I genuinely believe that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
themike Posted July 14, 2015 Report Share Posted July 14, 2015 I don´t think that without SPS I would be different. I suppose that SPS it´s only the tip of another mental problem. Why I was so obsessive in this subject? Why I consider myself incapable to give pleasure to womens? And all of that without sexual experience...it´s unlogic! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
robert Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 You and mike make great points. I guess for me I would of had more confidence and self esteem. I often wonder will I ever get over this. So it's official im 27yrs old still a virgin and never had a girlfriend.I try to stay busy and not think about sps then out of nowhere I come across a website or im watching tv or reading a magazine and penis size comes up its like sps follows me everywhere I go.sps has effected me alot but porn & lockeroom is what put the final nails in my coffin.I wonder how men of ancient times dealt with sps? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 15, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 I'm a virgin in my early 20's and I can't see me getting the confidence to lose it anytime soon. I ignore porn because they're all 8 inches plus and quite rare according to the stats but yeah im reminded constantly by the lockeroom and in the toilets in clubs where everything is close quarters. I know flaccid size doesn't determind erect size but it's not great when nearly everyone is bigger. There must be millions out there suffering in silence that we just don't know about or maybe they just don't care and it's not that much of a problem for them.. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
u.r.what.u.is Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 I have a question for you guys do you think if you didnt have sps or a small penis that you would be an entirely different person? I can answer this because I believe I've overcome SPS. If I had to be naked in front of a crowd, I would still be apprehensive - especially with how small my flaccid dick can be. I would still expect to be laughed at by at least a few people. However, I no longer feel like less of a man when it comes to relating to women. I will never be a bar-hopper or a party animal, but I believe that I can give a woman what she craves in bed. That is absolutely, 100% life-changing.That said, it does not erase 40+ years of feeling inferior and lacking confidence in other areas. I still find confrontation to be abhorrent, even when I am clearly in the right and need to stand up for myself. SPS does not account for all of my trouble in this area. Darren15 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RandomDude Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 That said, it does not erase 40+ years of feeling inferior and lacking confidence in other areas. I still find confrontation to be abhorrent, even when I am clearly in the right and need to stand up for myself. SPS does not account for all of my trouble in this area.This could be a chicken and egg question?What Im saying, is it the lack of confidence that first causes (and then worsens) the SPS? Or is it the SPS that first causes the lack of confidence?I've thought about this, and I reckon there must be thousands of dudes in the world who are the exact same size as me (like average girth with a length average minus 0.5-0.75 inch) who have never ever felt any kind of cockpit inferiority. Its weird when you think about it. Sometimes Ive wondered if Id feel bad about some other thing if Id never had SPS issues? Its part of my screwed personality, I guess UPDATENow I think about it, I could say its even in the family. Ive a sister who has had body image issues too. (But obviously penis size doesn't come into it for her LOL) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest RandomDude Posted July 15, 2015 Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 im reminded constantly by the lockeroom and in the toilets in clubs where everything is close quarters. I know flaccid size doesn't determind erect size but it's not great when nearly everyone is bigger.I'm still not convinced whether a lot of this isn't in the mind, Darren?Like, if your looking for one split second out the corner of your eye at the guy taking a piss next to you, how much do you really see? How clear? How accurate? Isn't your mind just giving you what you already think? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 15, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 I'm still not convinced whether a lot of this isn't in the mind, Darren?Like, if your looking for one split second out the corner of your eye at the guy taking a piss next to you, how much do you really see? How clear? How accurate? Isn't your mind just giving you what you already think?I think a lot of it is in my mind and Some people would think I'm just being paranoid although I also think, if I was naked in a crowd, there would be laughs.I guess some of what you said about just a glimpse can blur what's really there and my mind has made its mind up but sometimes people are just genuinely bigger, Infact Id say 80% of penises I've seen in the lockerooms etc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Darren15 Posted July 15, 2015 Author Report Share Posted July 15, 2015 I'm still not convinced whether a lot of this isn't in the mind, Darren?Like, if your looking for one split second out the corner of your eye at the guy taking a piss next to you, how much do you really see? How clear? How accurate? Isn't your mind just giving you what you already think?I think a lot of it is in my mind and Some people would think I'm just being paranoid although I also think, if I was naked in a crowd, there would be laughs.I guess some of what you said about just a glimpse can blur what's really there and my mind has made its mind up but sometimes people are just genuinely bigger, Infact Id say 80% of penises I've seen in the lockerooms etc Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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