is SPS a perception issue as well?

[Loser84]

Hi guys I've been lurking here for ages and relate to many of the posts on here I'm in my early 30's and hated the size of my penis for years well probably ever since I saw porn which unfortunately for me was at a very young age 10 years old I think I may of messed myself psychologically from nearly 20 years of watching porn and my addiction. I don't know my true penis size anymore because I rarely get a full erection (I'll explain why in a second) but I thought when I measured once in my late teens 6 or 6 and half inches erect. When I was 17 years old my obsession with penis size started I was OCD measuring my penis I couldn't believe pornstars were that big I thought from then on my penis was small, in my early 20's I took things further and being a total idiot didn't look enough into it I tried that jelqing and manual crap and since then I have ED so now I'm more self conscious about my penis size than ever, I often find when I get an erection now the glans don't inflate properly so my penis looks smaller and pathetic then before I tried that PE nonsense. I think my main problem is my penis looks tiny to me whatever angle I look at it and although supposedly the worldwide and UK average erect penis is 5 inches erect I don't actually believe it I feel most guys are packing more than me so I think why bother showing interest in women when other guys can satisfy them more than I ever could? I looked on various forums and it seems with women and amongst gay men 7 inches or more isn't that uncommon I don't know what to think.

Sorry If I post it's written that well I'm not that good in describing myself at times.

Cheers

[Victimorthecrime]

How long were you jelqing for and was it the extreme variety? I was doing a mild stretch for a while but stopped that. Still I am skeptical that jelqing alone could cause permanent ED but I could be wrong. You would have to see a urologist to get a definitive answer. I have said before that I think a lot of SPS issues are ED issues in disguise.

Regardless of the cause of the ED I hope you find a solution because it must not be fun at all to have to confront this condition at such a young age.

[TooOld4This]

L84, there's nothing wrong with you.

You need to take the "Loser" out of your avatar, because you're not a loser.

You just think you are because you've watched too much porn.

You're statistically average; you acknowledged that yourself.

You wrote, "7 inches or more isn't that uncommon."

Where did you get that from? Not from any scientific study, i'm sure.

I also saw your line "I don't know what to think."

Well, how about thinking this:

"Porn is not reality."

Sex isn't like that, just as police work isn't like Die Hard and driving isn't like Fast And Furious.

How about thinking, "I don't live in a movie, i live in reality."

How about thinking, "In the real world, i'm average."

[Loser84]

How long were you jelqing for and was it the extreme variety? I was doing a mild stretch for a while but stopped that. Still I am skeptical that jelqing alone could cause permanent ED but I could be wrong. You would have to see a urologist to get a definitive answer

Hi I only tried jelqing and manual stretching a couple of times only never again. Although I'm soley to blame for trying PE I do believe without a doubt I caused some kind of damage to my penis, luckily not too severe but anyway my penis since trying PE doesn't get as hard morning and nightime wood is infrequent and weak and it's difficult to get 100% erect most of the time because the glans don't inflate properly, I have looked in depth into PE and I believe it's pretty dangerous I would only attempt it if you have say a micropenis 3 inches hard or less but even I'm not sure, you only have to look at PE Gym, MattersOfSize and Thunders Place and see there is hundreds of posts and topics in the injuries sections of the forums of men who have damaged their penises by PE many even permanently I've read plenty of horror stories of men causing irreversible damage even doing light jelqing and stretching where uroligists tell them a penile implant is their only option for a "normal"sex life it's sad really as you can see I'm pretty anti PE and honestly unless you're pretty sure you know what you're doing with PE exercises I seriously don't recommend doing them because you could end up with an injury that most doctors are clueless about and can't cure.

[Loser84]

L84, there's nothing wrong with you.

You need to take the "Loser" out of your avatar, because you're not a loser.

You just think you are because you've watched too much porn.

You're statistically average; you acknowledged that yourself.

You wrote, "7 inches or more isn't that uncommon."

Where did you get that from? Not from any scientific study, i'm sure.

I also saw your line "I don't know what to think."

Well, how about thinking this:

"Porn is not reality."

Sex isn't like that, just as police work isn't like Die Hard and driving isn't like Fast And Furious.

How about thinking, "I don't live in a movie, i live in reality."

How about thinking, "In the real world, i'm average."

The reason I see myself as a loser is because I feel like one, I feel I have nothing to offer people especially women I have no talents, I'm a virgin and live with my parents (although I'm not as ashamed as this used to be), I'm not interesting probably because I spent a lot of my youth addicted to masturbating and watching porn and the major one I feel my penis is small even though I'm supposedly average but it looks tiny to me like barely 4 inches erect no offense to anyone I can't imagine how having a micropenis feels and how it mentally affects them, By the way even men with 7 and 8 inches erect suffer from SPS believe it or not seems ridiculous doesn't it? but I understand because if the person looks down at their penis sees something small then to them it is small even if the ruler says otherwise. It's kind of strange because in porn some guys look so big but as i understand it most men in porn are between over 6 inches to 8 or 9 inches long and men with penises over 9 inches virtually don't exist yet I've seen guys in porn and on webcam videos who supposed to be 8 inches and from certain angle don't look that impressive of course 8 inches, 7 inches is big but I can see why men even this size can think their penises look small. It seems porn and affect men of all size even more those who are well above average.