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QHello I am new to here I have a penis just under 4 inches erect. I read two newspaper articles recently http://www.dailymail.co.uk/sciencetech/article-2362197/Average-penis-size-study-reveals-SAME-results-previous-research.html the biggest study in penis size every claims that average is 5.5 inches. Even if this study is incorrect we know that average is somewhere around 5- 5.5. So getting to the point. We were having a dinner party with another couple and the conversation turned to penis size and the other man at the dinner party said his penis was 5.4 inches and his wife claimed she enjoys it etc. He then asked about me and my wife said my size of mine. The other couple had a light laugh and I then tried to hide my shame by claiming my size was average but only found 5.5 inches 5.1 inches 5.3 inches. I wish I just had a good 5.5 inch penis to please my wife. After the dinner party I found on the history of my computer a sex toy shop my wife was looking at 5-5.5 inch dildos I have never felt so inadequate to my friend I wish I had his penis. I wigs I was medium sized. Spelling mistakes grammar etc I wrote on an iPad sorry.

Hey, I’m new here so first off let me say hello. The reason I’m here is pretty obvious, so let me just get into it I’m 19 years old, and I never really payed attention to my size until I was 16/17. That’s when I noticed there was something going and and that it wasn’t getting any bigger (it’s about 2.5-3.5 inches max and girth is about the same) It didn’t start to become an issue for me mentally until I was 17, I had recently embraced my sexuality more (just for clarification, I’m gay) and in the process of doing that, it became a huge self confidence and self esteem problem. Over the past 1 and a half years it’s become increasingly difficult. I’ve had nights where I’ve cried myself to sleep, I’ve had suicidal thoughts, you name it. I feel I will never be able to have a sex life, I feel like my options are limited because of my size, and perhaps more severely, I feel like I’m not worthy of being a man, let alone worthy of existence sometimes. It’s starting to become really emotionally painful and I desperately need help. Thanks for any advice in advance!

Feeling small found its way in my head since puberty. One particular way was there from the start. Was anyone else obsessed with the size of their brothers penis? I did everything i could to see his soft and hard and kept trying even after i saw it. Or is this just me? This created a huge amount of guilt and contributed to my depression and shame, even issues with questioning my sexuality. Seeing him and seeing him and seeing he was nearly identical hard just made me feel worse that he seemed fine with it. It kept feeding sexual fetishes and kinks I wanted no part of but could.not escape. No matter how much i knew it was wrong and not important I could not get it out of my head. Even as a middle aged man it comes back and I feel ashamed. Being small effected a lot of my life and obsessions like this always kept it in the front of my mind. Bringing new waves of guilt and shame. Just one more way I seemed never to escape the thought everyone was bigger then me. My desperate need to compare with out showing off was/is overwhelming at times.

Hello. First of all I would like to apologise to everyone because I know how annoying this topic can be to some people. I am not sure this will even be approved and posted since there are usually a lot of posts related to this matter and I won't be surprised if mine gets rejected. Nevertheless I need to vent about it. Penis size has been a big problem in my life. I hit puberty around the age of 13 and I started masturbating soon after which naturally coincided with the discovery of porn. Until my mid teens penis size wasn't really a problem so there's not really a lot to mention. I was a normal and happy kid. Fast forwarding until the age of 16. At 16 I had my first girlfriend. My insecurities started around that age and I believe that the main cause for that to happen was porn. I was a regular "consumer" of porn. By the age of 16 I believe I had already seen basically a bit of everything porn had to offer. I used to masturbate a lot during that period but I don't really think it reached the point of becoming an addiction. I believe It was just my uncontrollable hormones and my high sexual desire. Anyway... That girlfriend was the first person ever to whom I shared my insecurities with. For a 16 year old I think she handled the situation quite well at the time in all honesty. She didn't bully me. She didn't jump into conclusions. She probably thought things but was patient and supportive. She was also the first girl/woman that saw my penis fully erect. I remember that when she saw it she said that I wasn't small and if I was small she didn't want to know what big meant. I kind of believed in her despite knowing that there was no way for her to know for sure because she wasn't that experienced. Although she managed to calm my insecurities with it. Maybe she was bullshitting me. I am aware that's a possibility but back then it worked. It didn't "heal" my doubts and insecurities but it did make me feel less pressured about my member (with her). We eventually broke up and after that I've never been the same. I fell into a deep depression. I couldn't finish high school because of it and I didn't have any other partner until now (age 22). I had 5 years of very intense depression with panic attacks in between (which were the worst part because my panic attacks were similar to seizures and it used to mess with my blood pressure). I've been fighting slowly. Finished High School last year. Had my first job and met my current girlfriend. I am drifting away from the main topic. Don't worry. It starts now. I became obsessed with penis size. Paranoid. I kept watching porn and comparing my member over and over and over again. -It reached a point where I measured my member everyday multiple times a day. -I was ashamed of my size. -I was embarrassed of being naked in the locker room although I never hid myself. That's something I take a bit of pride in. -I don't pee near other men. For some reason I can never do it. I can never pee if I feel like I'm being watched. It's ridiculous. -I don't go to the gym because I am tired of comparing myself to others. I do it unconsciously and I am tired of it. Clearly I believe I developed a "small penis syndrome" but I don't think my insecurities are badly supported. The truth is I am indeed small so my insecurities weren't born out of thin air. These are my measurements approximately: BPEL: 15cm-16cm (The lowest I registered and the highest respectively. I don't know if I measured it wrong sometimes or if I was biased but 14cm is definitely the lowest I registered while fully erect.) NBPEL: 14cm - 14.5cm GIRTH: 13.5cm - 14cm So as you can conclude I am on the smaller side. And it has been a very complicated war against myself. The struggle to accept things the way they are. I am well aware that things could have been worse but that thought isn't enough. I tried talking about it with therapists and how deep the problem is but the hints I dropped were probably not loud enough for them to deduct that there was something serious about those insecurities. Truth is I can't talk about it unless someone pushes me to do it. It's a miracle I am doing so right now. To make matters worse I cannot last too long in bed. I am sexually active with my current girlfriend and unless I use those condoms that make you last longer then I can barely last 1 or 2 minutes. Sometimes even seconds. To be fair the relationship is Long distance and we only see each other every 2 weeks. Sometimes we don't have sex. I believe that maybe with some more practice I would improve my time. Plus I do all sorts of things to train my muscles down there. Kegel exercises. I try to last at least 10 minutes while masturbating everytime. I do exercises to my muscles while peeing (which can cause injuries even). I am trying. It doesn't help that I am a very anxious man and I truly believe that anxiety plays a big role in this department. If I am not okay in my mind then that will affect things. Fortunately it never affected my erections yet. Gladly I am still like a 16 year old. This seriously depresses me because I am a fool for love and all I want is to feel like I am what my partner wants and needs. To feel like I can be the best for her and I don't think I will ever feel like that with anyone. Maybe she does indeed feel that I am enough and that I am what she needs and wants but I can't accept it and that's my problem. Not hers. Men that are on the smaller side like me experienced it. They've seen through their own eyes and felt with their own mind how women feel pleasure with above average members. I will never feel what that is like. I am tired. There's so much more to talk about this yet but I can't do it. I am aware that the character of a man shouldn't and isn't defined by the size of his penis but it does make an impact in my opinion. Like that saying goes "Good men don't come with good dick". I am not by any means classifying myself as a "good man" but I see truth in that sentence. I don't know how to fix this problem. Thanks for reading and, again, I am sorry. I am just your typical insecure man about his penis size... Jesus... I am really weak.

Hi All Not more to add than the title, i m in my mid 30's, still a virgin because im embarrassed with my penis. I've had suicidal thoughts in the past, im now taking drugs pretty much every day to mask my depression. I don't know if i can get over this

Do any other curcimcised guys have the issue that because of your flaccid size your skin rolls over like a foreskin? Mine does all the time and sticks to itself in an unpleasant way when i have to roll it back to pee. Its a weird thing but because i'm small enough my cock is totally engulfed when soft and no penis sticks out just skin.

I for sure am a grower. Basily no penis just foreskin when soft. I have always had issues with it. Being very shy, desperately wanting sex but avoiding women and dating out of fear of word spreading. Even eventually trying to avoid letting my wife see it. But as of recently i have sort of become really excited by people finding out. I am talking about it with my wife and making sure she sees me soft. I mentioned it to 3 old female friends (two more sinace i first posted this), on now multiple occasions. I suddenly am getting a sexual thrill out of people knowing and judging me. It's gotten to the point of where I have to stop myself all the time from telling friends and family. I'm not sure where it came from, But its not healthy. Feeling small has drastically effected my sex life and mental health like most people here. But rarely did I worry about it pusing me towards point of no return mistakes. I have always had sexual fantasies and fetishes I think are based in my SPS but I have contained them to masturbation. Having them bleed over into the real world, outside my control, is scary. My greatest fear being I will expose myself to people. And even if I don't the depression and gut wrenching shame that can come from any of my actions.

I love rowing and running, which demands me to wear tight shorts mainly when I row since loose clothing might get caught under the boat seat and make me capsize. Problem is I have a small bulge due to my small tool, and I feel a bit self-conscious. It's a pretty silly feeling, but most rowers in my club have very large bulges on display.

Here's another poll. Yes, I'm bored because it's quiet on here. We talk about being afraid of being made fun of and our number of partners frequently but I thought I would put it in a poll with a reference to our sizes as well. Enjoy.

Hi I have a micro pens and I have anxiety about it. Its not that i don't like my penis I do .Just it isn't the most normal penis ever. Are their girls out their who could give me advice on dating in my situation and how to pleasure and make the best of my penis and my abilities to fully pleasure a women? I want to know if their are any other people who have a micro penis or anyone who can give me advice on how to approach a situation like this. and if so do they have advice for dating girls and approaching sex. I'm confident in my abilities just nervous I.e I'm virgin. Idk haha it fluctuates. I'm 17 and I want to have sex but I literally have to hold my penis to keep it straight out or else it will just go against my stomach it's 2 and a half inches erect . Is 2 and half inches long enough to pleasure a women ? Idk I just need advice on how to approach sex. I want to be able to have amazing sex and really pressure a girl fully. I have been researching how to be good at cunnilingus and fingering and massaging and pleasuring women sexually as best as I can. Can I do it and keep a girl I love even if I have a small penis? I want to have a long lasting genuine relationship with a girl one day. I just need advice!! Thank you all!

Hi everybody. I am new here and want to introduce myself. I have suffered with a small penis all my life. It's tough to have the smallest one of anybody you know, especially when they know it, too. But the really tough part is with my wife. She was married to a well-hung man before so she had the pleasure of a big penis for several years. And now she gets a small one. I know she married me so that should count for a lot and it does but I can tell she really wishes it were bigger.

Hi everybody. Got bullied a lot growing up, teased in the locker room, etc. Hope to share in experiences, advice, moral support

Is this a life-long worry???? I think about this several times a day.reakin I even stopped looking at this site to free my mind. And then it hits me I bet most really small guys that are relatively young (me) ARE FUCKIN GONG TO WORRY ABOUT THIS FOR THE NEXT 50 YEARS ? A full half a century being worried My whole adult life,,,,

Hi, this is my first post, I don't know how to ask, but yes there is nothing wrong in asking, the worst answer can be NO. I'm 30 years old and I already had 3 breakups just because my of my 3.5 in small penis. Can there be anything worse than this. It has made me so depressed and is not allowing me to concentrate on anything. I just feel like the biggest looser in the world. My confidence level had come low. Unless one has this condition, you cannot understand what it feels like being worth nothing. Do I really have any solution to this.

From another forum. This man was promiscuous earlier, and is happily married now.

I don't even know where to start. I haven't googled for small penis stuff for a while now so i got to this subforum and i think i just need to write something. I have a small penis, obvious. Not just small, also thin. To be honest when i wrote this just now i felt something weird. I don't know. A weird hate feeling. Just throwing it out there. I've had sex with 3 girls. The first one i tried to have sex with i couldn't get hard and it was awkward as hell. I hope she didn't tell anybody about it. This was a couple of years ago. We tried to have sex 2 times i failed to perfom both times. The second one was a match made in heaven. We were together for almost 2 years but broke up. I never satisfied her in bed though. Not even once. I bet our break up has to do something with that. The third one was a younger chick who was totally in love with me and i just took advantage of it (i knew she wouldn't make fun of it and tell anyone etc). I know. I fucking suck. I satisfied her once (if she didn't fake it). My life fucking sucks and i just read a thread in here and i think i'm going down the same path. He said how while his friends were out discovering their bodies and living life. Loving... i was at home smoking pot eating pizza getting fat and not giving a fuck. Girls always wanted me though... i do not know why. Even when i was fat girls were always flirting with me. I was avoiding them because i can't satisfy them and what's the point then? I want her to cum and me. When i broke up with the third chick (never had one night stands. I always had sex only in a relationship. Wanted to make it more real... because i'm fucking small) i started to get more active. I started lifting weights and doing calisthenics. I'm really fucking good at it i might add. I made such progress in 1 year where it would take most people 1-3 years. I was always like that... successful... I also played guitar good. I started thinking... I always occupied myself with some hobbies (guitar for 4 years, now lifting/calisthenics)... i think those are just things i occupy myself with to not think about my penis, finding a girl. Starting a family... I'm 22 years old. I want to be a father. I will be such a good father... the best. I know that. But i also know no wife will be happy with me. I can't satisfy her and i'm really fucked up because of all this already. I have serious anger issues and i even hit my mom sometimes (not lately though). Please don't hate me for this since i hate myself enough already and i also tried to commit suicide a couple of months ago too. I survived but spent some weeks in a psych ward which was everything like movies looked. I'm not kidding. The male nurses even beat up a guy. There was blood everywhere... Enough of this. I know this story makes no sense. I'm high as fuck and crying. My head hurts. I'm thinking about suicide again.... bottom point is this... i can't be happy. Even when i find happiness... it fades away over months/years when i realize i want a family. Should i just occupy myself with hobbies till the end of time? The thing is... i really got into shape. I'm intermediate gymnastics level and i'm afraid of wearing the tight suits because my penis is small... I'm afraid of doing certain exercises because i know how my penis looks in them - small ball. Don't know how to explain it... it's limiting me so much. I don't want to live... and yet i do. I'm 22 and sorry for my grammar. English isn't my native language. It's late, i'm fucked up... i don't even know what i'm doing.

I am a female who prefers a smaller size penis . Smaller equals more fun and excitement for me. I dread the thought of pain. My husband is not small but i wish he was. If he were smaller, i would enjoy sex more and would have it more frequently. My ex had a small size. He would not let me see it, because he was so shy. But he was my "fit". If you have a small penis, dont let it bother you. Every girl is different and we all like different things. Love and appreciate yourself. Nothing is wrong with having a small penis. You just have to find the right girl for you. I hope if you are a guy who have a small penis, you will understand that there are women out there who would appreciate you. Sex is special and it should be with someone special. When i have a son, i will encourage him to save his virginity for the "right one"--- for marriage.

Asked my wife whether she had cheated on me with her ex partner who has a 5.25 inch erect penis and she told me outright "what did you expect me to do just fake my organism with you pathetic miniature penis" I have decided I am going to divorce her after 20 years of marriage. The last 3 months she has been proud to humiliate me and my penis. Insults during sex "is it in" she has been having sex with her ex partner for the last 4 months. I asked her what do you expect from a man she said a "average 5-5.5 inch penis" I then asked her what more do you want she said a non anorexic man (I am quite skinny). To be honest I glad Im getting her out of my life she is just a toxic person. She has been so mean in the last months insulting me all the time well I'm glad I'm leaving her. My second paragraph is on my friends my life has been made worse by these so called friends. All my friends are 5inches to 5.5 inches and they have been sending me abuse about my penis after my wife told one of them my size at a dinner party. Although they have almost stopped now. Thirdly I'm pissed off at the internet. I have been reading forums and all the girls are like under 4.5 is *** *** ****** and then countless under 4.5 is this and that. Fourthly I'm pissed off at mums forums like netmums and mumsnet the same as the other forums just you expect better for mothers. Lastly I'm worried for my son he is 16 and done puberty (looks like a man) he is small like me. He heard my wife and me arguing. Now I looked at the search history and he was searching up about penis size. I talked to him cause he has not been himself and he is small (same size as me half an inch smaller) I explained 5-5.5 is average and I said "never let anyone put you down because they can only do that if you let them". A Roosevelt said that (not sure which one) he said he knew he had a small penis etc . However I'm worried for him in the future what are they going to do in the future stop him reproducing or even worse. Finally I would like to thank you guys and the people that stand up for people like us. No one should be picked on no matter what. Ps message me if you want to know what the girl said its not swear or anything but I just think is really offensive.

So hello, yeah I have a very small penis. Fully erect on a good day it is maybe 3 3/4 inches that includes the unfortunate foreskin so realistically maybe 3 ½ inches with no worthy girth. I hate it, it has utterly consumed my thoughts about how shamefully small it is and destroyed any confidence I maybe would have ever had, because I have never had any. I am 28 and still a virgin, never dated and my lack of confidence has me lowering my head in shame every time a woman walks by, let alone those few times I have to talk to a woman while at work or something. Talking to people in general is painful anymore, I come from a very alpha male level family and I have become the creepy silent one who never talks to anyone and has been skipping more and more family gatherings because I just have nothing worthy of alpha male status. Recently my only friend was left by his girlfriend and was complaining that he was annoyed at all the girls flocking to his newly single status. I got really pissed off by this and just started texting attacks to him telling him to stop complaining when some people would kill to be in his shoes, I will add he is also a guy who in high school frequently bragged about his large penis size. So I have just basically become a bitter old a-hole that is knocking on the door of 30 and finding myself consumed by fact that I will be alone and never get to enjoy a huge part of life, or life at all. I know people will say "it’s not the size, it’s the person," or stuff like that but has someone who has spent over ten years intensely consumed by internet searches and post regarding small penises and the non-effects, I will say that yeah in the end it matters. The worst stories I have ever seen over the years are those from almost success stories, guys with small penises who have married but after years of being married, kids and things, the wife ends up cheating or leaving because he cannot satisfy her. I have found a lot of stories over the years like that and it has left me just realizing that in the end size does matter. Anyway if anyone has any real words of wisdom or maybe just let me know if I am really doomed I would like to hear it all because this is the first real time I have ever been able to put words to my problem. Thank you.

So I have no idea how I ended up on this the forum last night, maybe it was meant to be, but after reading some of the threads I decided to sign-up and share my thoughts. I should start off my saying that I am a 25 year old gay guy; therefore my POV will be skewed towards gay men, although I am sure that heterosexual men can find some relevancy. I am not sure how many gay men are on this section, but I am specifically talking to you. In the gay 'community' there are mainly three types of guys: Tops (those who penetrate during anal sex, give), Bottoms (those who are penetrated, receive), Versatile (those who like to give and receive). I happen to be a Bottom guy w/ very little Topping/Versatile desire. When I am having anal sexual desires, I mostly imagine the other man penetrating me. Okay, that was the background, now back to this topic: Although, I am 98% bottom, I would NEVER reject a guy for his penis size! I don't care if you are 1", 3", 5", 7", 9", it doesn't matter. If I go out with an individual and I like the guy, I will work with anything. If someone is "unable", for lack of a better word, to Top me, then that's okay since this is only one aspect of our sexual life. I am not going to be unhappy if a single aspect of our sexual life is a little different than the 'norm'. Even at 1" you can have sex with any man you want. Sex is not only about penetration - in both straight and gay relationships. If you go out with a man, you like him, he likes you, there is no shame in telling him of your smaller than average penis if this is going to make you more comfortable. I think many of your are obsessed with the porn-filled world. Men and woman are sexual, but they aren't out there, in the real world, looking for the biggest penis that they can find. If my 'soulmate' was destined to have a 3" penis then so be it, I will love all three inches of him. I know the gay 'community' comes off as very judgmental. We mostly are. You know why? For the same reason that everyone judges us, it's a defense mechanism. In the end, many would not reject you for your penis size. Those that do reject you don't matter, move on, it's life. Additionally, some might say that I am an exception and not the rule. This may be so, but think about it we are out there! Wouldn't it be worth it to go out there, take a chance, and maybe get rejected a few times (as we all have been for other physical characteristics: too thin, too tall, too fat, too short. It's the name of the game, we all get rejected) in order to find a guy who is more than willing to love you for YOU! Maybe you feel like very few guys will 'like' you, always remember you only need one man at a time to date/have sex with/partner with - ONLY ONE. I noticed that the gay men that post here are mostly virgins or have very little experience. I get it, you have a syndrome. But I think it's time for you guys to put yourself out there! There is nothing wrong with your small penis! I have been through my own struggles in life, we all have, but it's time for you guys to start using your peckers - no matter their size! I feel similarly for straight guys. I have so many girl friends who have told me that they find it hard to get orgasms through penetration, so their partners must do other things (foreplay, fingering, etc) to stimulate them. Any one of you is capable of all that. If you search, you will find someone. It may be a little harder for you guys, but life isn't easy, even for the guy with the 9 incher. I will be checking back on this thread to answer any questions or respond to comments made. I don't know if this is appropriate, but if anyone wants to e-mail privately do so at <email removed>. I hope that my post will help some of you take one step forward. Best of luck!

I probably have the smallest penis at the gym. I started going to the gym after following the advice of a member here to make myself feel good. But after seeing all those penises hanging out just depressed me further. Merry Christmas

Hey there, after googling 'Small Penis Support' this site comes up first... I am 5'8" tall and weigh 100kgs, my erect penis is 4 inches long and 4 inches circumference. I am 35 years old and a virgin. I kinda feel like time has run out. I don't believe in sex before marriage. I do have a lot of anxiety attached to my size. Just looking for others struggling with the same emotions and desires.

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