Mark,

I'm always amazed at how much composure you show with respect to your ex. You have a right to be pissed at cleaning up her crap. And for dragging things on. I came across a thread yesterday that I wrote late last year entitled "How to you get your ex to move on?". Unfortunately there were no viable solutions offered. I am now three years and still waiting for him to let me go. He has a new girlfriend with the exact same first name as me. I'm hoping he can feel like he's continuing to abuse me while he abuses somebody else - thinking that may finally get him to move on. I wish I could offer some helpful advice but I can't. I can only offer my support and say "Wow, you are handling this so well" AND "I know exactly what you are going through". Do yourself a favor and try to use whatever methods you can to speed things up. You need to get your life back.

With respect to the house, i was in the same situation. It gave me nightmares. I locked up all my files every time I left the house for more than an hour. You may want to consider a cheap alarm system. One that will blast the living daylights out of her ears should she ever enter uninvited.

I hope you can get some closure soon.