Hang in, Ralph! Good job!

Could writing about possibilities how to replace your habits help? I mean... making a brain-storming about activities that are available and then choosing some to try them.

What about making friends through drinking coffee with them ? Sorry, I don't want to "derogate" the problem - I know that it's often not easy "just to go and make new friends", but... I want to point out that I don't drink alcohol (just because I don't like it), nor coffee, and I have friends. Yes, they are mainly from school and job, so... I don't have advise how to make friends other then among the people you meet "every day" (at work) . But... there is at least something very optimistic and positive: You are able to make friends as you made friends here, in this community . It might be harder "off-line", but... don't worry and be open to new possibilities, relationships, ...

Take care!

I did make a list of positive activities already. I understand many people make friends without drinking but it's a skill I don't have. I'm signing up for an adult social skills training that is small group therapy if it isn't already full.

Wow! You're nicely pro-active!!! Well done!