Guest GingerSnap Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Can someone explain how porn is helpful in a relationship? I don't get it. I have that old-fashioned value thing that says that wanting to have sex with your spouse is wanting to be closer and closer physically to that person, enjoying the warmth and security of that relationship versus lusting after someone with bigger "parts" or maybe someone getting choked or beaten up, imagining my partner was someone else so that I can actually be with him, well, it is time to throw in the towel on the marriage not.......... I mean sincerely and thank God, I don't understand and feel that it is so sad that the partners don't love and value one another enough that they need this "external" stimulation. I am sorry if this offends anyone but............Food For Thought: Since porn is good, clean fun - would you want that to be your child working on the screen? What about mom or dad? Maybe if something seems like it is such a problem that you are asking................Sorry but does mental health just support the "animal" side of the human. I should not have came back to the forum as I just find it offensive to my moral side. My moral side is actually what brought me here in the first place. Funny, huh. Cathy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symora Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Hi Cathy, I am completely with you with regards to porn. I don't see it as something healthy or useful, never have, never will.... I guess I must have that old fashioned value thing too. I find it a degrading exercise for both the person in it and for me watching it... :cool: Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eNIGMA Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 I wouldn't care if my mom was in porn. Or my kids if I had any, and if that's really something they wanted to do. I think people make too big a deal out of sex. If you're hot enough to get paid a lot of money to have sex on film, and your sex drive is large enough to accommodate the schedule... then go for it. It's just sex. Mammals have been having it for an awful long time... Christ, people act like it was just invented in the 60s.Personally, I don't like most porn. Most of the porn with guys in it gets too trashy for my tastes. There's plenty of decent porn that's not degrading or raunchy, but there's also a lot of over the top junk. Some people like that (my ex girlfriend for one). Not my thing.As for 'feeling sad' for couples having a comfortable enough sex life to try different things, everyone has their opinions. I could say I feel sad for people who follow religions like sheep. You can't learn right and wrong by reading it in a book. Or listening to someone preach. It's simple. You're either hurting other living beings, or you're not.There's all you need to know about religion in one sentence. Slap a cover on it, and WHAM - it's a Holy Book.You're welcome. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted June 17, 2010 Report Share Posted June 17, 2010 Well, I feel like this has the potential to become another tinderbox, so I'd like to throw my small change in here before that happens.The primary purpose of this community is not debate. It is to support others with their mental health issues. I understand that many people feel that pornography is closely linked to their issues, and so I agree that it's fair game as a topic on the site. In particular, it would likely be of positive benefit for people to discuss how pornography may have touched their own lives, or those close to them.However, posters should understand that there's little or no guarantee that others will agree with any blanket statements one might make. I was tempted to recommend against such statements altogether (the point is to talk about ourselves, not everybody else.) That didn't seem feasible either, though, so I thought that at a minimum, I would warn everyone that disagreement on this topic is likely.And, it has nothing to do with "Mental Help" as an organization having taken any particular position, at all. All I've seen, on this thread and others, recently, are individuals giving their own opinions. I trust that in return for us each being allowed to have an opinion, others will be allowed that same freedom. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eNIGMA Posted June 19, 2010 Report Share Posted June 19, 2010 There must be a new moderator rule that says "Look for posts eNIGMA has responded to, and come in with the tinderbox warning!" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted June 19, 2010 Report Share Posted June 19, 2010 eNIGMA, I promise it's an effort to keep peace and to maintain supportive conversation. There is nothing directed at you specifically. We welcome your presence here on the boards. I hope that you have been feeling better. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eNIGMA Posted June 19, 2010 Report Share Posted June 19, 2010 Oh, I know - Just making a joke, since I tend to post on the more touchy subjects. I'm getting by, thanks. Now I just need to figure out the work situation before it's time to pay rent =/ Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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