appleby Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 I've got a suggestion...How about a thread where we list ideas of what can be done instead of self injury....Appleby Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
appleby Posted November 21, 2008 Author Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 1. Call A Friend or hotline2. Write in your journal3. Use an ice cube where you might want to do it instead4. Respond to someone else's post on this forum Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterSky Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 5. Hug someone. Hug a teddy bear even.6. Go out and talk to another human and just shoot the breeze.7. Go outside and collect things that have scents: pine needles, pine cones, flowers, grass...8. Meditate. Take deep breaths. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kay_J Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 (edited) --------------------- Edited March 19, 2009 by Kay_J Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lie_low Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 Good idea Appleby. I was thinking of adding a list of coping strategies myself. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JustTrying Posted November 21, 2008 Report Share Posted November 21, 2008 Great Post!!! Keep it going!!!JT:) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 I was just told that I ought to try A DBT group. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WinterSky Posted November 22, 2008 Report Share Posted November 22, 2008 Watch a sad movie and have a really good cry. That gets the emotions moving along in a safe way... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted November 23, 2008 Report Share Posted November 23, 2008 Go to the Mall, and be around people... You are not going to SI around others, so be safe and never be alone , when triggered to self injure. :cool: Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted November 23, 2008 Report Share Posted November 23, 2008 Even getting A tattoo is so much nicer then Si Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proverbs31:28 Posted March 3, 2009 Report Share Posted March 3, 2009 If my kids are not with me, I go for a drive.Dig a hole. Take a hot bath or shower- there you can cry and nobody will know! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted March 3, 2009 Report Share Posted March 3, 2009 If my kids are not with me, I go for a drive.Dig a hole. Take a hot bath or shower- there you can cry and nobody will know!dig A hole Good one Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nightfalls Posted March 4, 2009 Report Share Posted March 4, 2009 Go for a runDo jumping jacks until to tired to do one morePaint a painting full of colours to express yourself Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lie_low Posted April 10, 2009 Report Share Posted April 10, 2009 ExerciseLift weightsDo yoga tai chi or PilatesStretch your musclesGo for a long walk in a park or someplace else that’s peacefulGo outside and watch the cloudsGo for a jogRide your bikeGo for a swimGo play something that you can do by yourself while no one else is around, like basketball or hitting a tennis ball against a wallGet outside of the house, even if you just sit outsideGet a massageVisit your favorite websitesWatch a funny movieWatch televisionListen to musicCreate your own online blogGo shoppingGo to a libraryGo to the bookstore and readVisit a museum or art gallerySing or learn how to singWrite a songPlay a musical instrument or learn how to play oneTake photographsJoin a clubMake a list of ten things that you are good atMake a list of people you admire and want to be likeWrite a letter to someone who has made your life better and tell them whyWrite in your journal about what has happened to you todayWrite a loving letter to yourself when you’re feeling good and keep it with you to read when you’re feeling upsetWrite a letter to a friend or family memberTake a bubble bath or showerPlant a gardenWork outsidePaint your nailsSign up for a class that excites youDraw a pictureGo for a drive in your carPlan a trip to a place you have never been beforeSleep or take a napCook your favorite dishGo outside and play with your petTalk with a friend on the phoneVisit a friend Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted April 10, 2009 Report Share Posted April 10, 2009 Take the dog out for a walk ... If you don't have a dog, borrow one Pick Roses Turn on MusicVisit Someone Elderly Read a book to a bunch of preschoolers Go to the Library Go on the Computor... Wait.. I always do that, LOL Shoot photography Use your video camera or mini cam. Take a nap Read Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
renol Posted April 22, 2009 Report Share Posted April 22, 2009 I like this thread - very helpful. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted April 22, 2009 Report Share Posted April 22, 2009 Know it's here, But..... I still SI cause just can't help myself, what a fuckin loser Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted April 22, 2009 Report Share Posted April 22, 2009 No, please, Cathy, you're not a loser.You have a problem that you're still fighting. That makes you a human, like all the rest of us.A loser has no idea, isn't even trying. I know that's not you. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted April 24, 2009 Report Share Posted April 24, 2009 No, please, Cathy, you're not a loser.You have a problem that you're still fighting. That makes you a human, like all the rest of us.A loser has no idea, isn't even trying. I know that's not you.Thanks malign. But, honestly I am not trying to stop the SI. SI feels good to do . Not only is it a coping skill, I hardly feel the pain of the burns, I need it, and if calms me. Better than the Anxiety medications could ever do. It is a very different type of feeling. I'll admit it, Self harming, for now, is what i need , it is my drug of choice . It is accepted. It's not against the law. I need to . Cathy Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted April 24, 2009 Report Share Posted April 24, 2009 Okay, then.How about getting rid of the 'loser' tag for yourself?If this is what you want, and it works, at least you don't have to beat yourself up for doing it.(And I'd never tell you that you "can't", like it's against the law, or something. You'll always have SI as a possible choice, no matter what you decide to do about it.) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted April 25, 2009 Report Share Posted April 25, 2009 Okay, then.How about getting rid of the 'loser' tag for yourself?If this is what you want, and it works, at least you don't have to beat yourself up for doing it.(And I'd never tell you that you "can't", like it's against the law, or something. You'll always have SI as a possible choice, no matter what you decide to do about it.)Ok, i'll scrap the loser part out then... No loser for Self harming. However, When I went back and read all the wonderful posts that even I contributed to I really did feel like i lost something after giving into the urge to SI> Sometimes after waiting for so long not to and the build up becomes so intense it is as if a volcano erupts> I do not feel an ounce of guilt or shame for SI. I just need to stay away from this thread after SI'INg. Malign, thank you so much for your kind words and support. They mean so much to me. Cathy ambivaDib 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
OnlyHuman Posted August 15, 2009 Report Share Posted August 15, 2009 (edited) ................. Edited May 21, 2010 by OnlyHuman ................. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted August 15, 2009 Report Share Posted August 15, 2009 Wow. The term "SI-ING" took me forever to figure out what it meant. I guess I still don't know as much about the lingo as I thought I did. Ha! Anyway, I've gotten tattoo's so that I didn't cut.. But really, isn't that the same thing? Kind of? I mean, inflicting pain to feel better.. isn't that what this is about? The only difference is, society accepts tattoo's better than cuts all on the body. I know to rub an ice cube where you want to cut was also mentioned... and I've been told to wear a rubber band and snap it on my wrist when I have the urge.. Isn't that the same concept as cutting (or self harm)? It serves the same purpose! If I had a rubber band on my arm, I'd be popping it all day long. I think it'd not take over the cutting, it would add on to my list of bad habits. Hello OnlyHuman, Having Tattoos is NOT the same thing as self harm . Because , self harm is inflicted by the person doing it to themselves. A tattoo is administered by someone else. Although a Tat can be somewhat painful , it does not qualify as SI, done to the self . The other things you wrote about are actual methods used as different ways of distracting somebody from using a more serious form of harming themselves. Someone who is so use to grabbing a sharp object when stressed out needs an alternative , and those are alternatives for them to use . Not to add to the list of bad habits , but to decrease the urges SI even if it is only temporary. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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