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I haven't posted anything here for a while. Nearlydead and Lifeless, hope you two are still checking in, hope things are as well as they can be. I am now in the military living in Korea, couldn't find work with my ridiculous degree.

I am posting this to see if there are any success stories of people who have a girth 4.5 inches around or below or length below 4.5 inches. (not to downplay issues of folk above these measurements but our situations are different)

I certainly haven't had any success or changes to my situation. My inferiority rests in the girth department. Haven't gotten laid since March of 2010 with a hooker. Haven't been with any women who isn't a hooker. I'll probably take a sleazy trip to the Phillipines in a bit to remedy that.

Anyway, if anyone has made any progress it would be great to hear about it. Somehow I doubt it and think the politically correct statements about accepting yourself are bullshit. (this applies to those who fall into the range of the measurements I discussed.)

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Im a tad smaller than the limits you give.

I have had 4 relationships and a fling.

Whilst they all left me in the end, I can still hand on my heart say I was in 4 proper relationships.

If you go on a 'sex tour' please be careful of STDs and muggings- though Im sure you are already well aware....

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Well there really isn't anything one can do other than accept yourself as you are.

Unless of course, you are one of the extremely few who are able to get larger by

using the voodoo programs such as stretching which can leave whatever you have

as unusable.

I choose to go forward in not looking for any long term relationship and if a lady

I choose to date has a problem with what is offered, I'll just trade her in for a different one.

Since splitting with my ex, I have yet to have even one of the ten gals I have dated mention my

shortcomings and all seemed anxious to continue dating even after I had moved on.

Had any been bothered enough to mention it, I would have fallen back on my new approach and

placed the blame on THEM.

(works for me)

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I haven't posted anything here for a while. Nearlydead and Lifeless, hope you two are still checking in, hope things are as well as they can be. I am now in the military living in Korea, couldn't find work with my ridiculous degree.

I am posting this to see if there are any success stories of people who have a girth 4.5 inches around or below or length below 4.5 inches. (not to downplay issues of folk above these measurements but our situations are different)

I certainly haven't had any success or changes to my situation. My inferiority rests in the girth department. Haven't gotten laid since March of 2010 with a hooker. Haven't been with any women who isn't a hooker. I'll probably take a sleazy trip to the Phillipines in a bit to remedy that.

Anyway, if anyone has made any progress it would be great to hear about it. Somehow I doubt it and think the politically correct statements about accepting yourself are bullshit. (this applies to those who fall into the range of the measurements I discussed.)

According to the stats, guys in Korea are amongst the smallest on earth---have you tried the Korean chicks yet?

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Ha- I have given serious, serious consideration to moving to Korea or China so I can find a girl who could accept me.

Even though I have no family there, cannot speak a word of a foreign language and have no particulars desire to go there.

But my dreams were scuppered when I overheard an Asian girl say that Asian men's smallness is exaggerated- so I dunno what to believe.

I have seen porn films where tiny Asian girls take ridiculously large appendages so I dont suppose its true that asian girls are any tighter.

On the other hand, when I saw the film 'Hangover 2', the asian guy is even smaller than me (and met with derision from the cinema female audience of course :().

If he is typical then Asia may be an option for guys like us- but a mix of asian and non- asian of girls in the cinema and pub after, said he was unusually small for an Asian man..... so again, wtf do you beleive?

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It's sterotypes. Big guys have big penises....big foot=big penis...big nose=big penis....large hands=big penis. B.S.

Same with women in reverse, kinda. Small, petite woman = tight and prefers small penis. None of this holds up in the real world.

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Not only do most stats show that Asian guys, on average, are smaller...but I've seen asian porn in which the "porn stars", by our porn star standards, were very small. Now that doesn't mean that there aren't any hung Asian guys--of course there are--but I'm talking about averages here.

And of course Asian women are capable of taking a huge _______....babies come out of there!

However yeah I agree that the "small girls prefer small penises" idea is B.S. There are plenty of petite size-queens out there.

But anyways, the bottom-line is that most of us are hopeless either way. Our situation, amongst many others, is simply more proof that there's no such thing as a caring deity, lol.

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Come on, guys!! Your penis is for YOUR enjoyment! If your lady is complaining,

Tell her to put some MEAT around it and ask her to try moving around once in a while, while

you are in her. B)

That's a great attitude.....but without sufficient girth the sex sucks for us too because of the lack of friction. I'm still banging the craigslist chick and must admit that it's not very enjoyable because, as I've often said , it's like throwing a hotdog down a hallway, lol.

I'm still working on the surgery, won't be much longer.

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To all the men suffering from Small Penis Syndrome, please believe me:

I am an attractive blonde woman in her early 30s who has dated several guys with small penises and I am here to try and give you hope.

You might be inclined to think as a guy with a small penis, you have to settle, but this is not so. Honestly, I've had no trouble attracting and dating likewise attractive men. I'm 5'4", 125lbs, pretty (about a 7.5/10), great figure (often complimented on this), fun, well-educated (engineer), great family & friends. My only significant flaw throughout my life has been anxiety, but otherwise, I'm widely regarded as a great catch. I've had 5 long-term relationships, some short-term flings, and some one night stands. I've had 18 sexual partners ranging in penis size from tiny to huge. I know what I'm talking about here.

The ONLY thing that has ever turned me off from a small penis guy has been a bad attitude.

My first small penis guy was Asian. I liked him because he was handsome, smart, quick-witted, well-mannered, well-respected, an all round solid guy. I honestly didn't realize his penis was relatively small -- he was my first sexual partner. What turned me off inevitably was that he never seemed that interested in sleeping with me. It's be willing to drive to his place at night and have sex in my car, but he'd rather download music. I felt really undesirable.

I dated other guys after that who were equally attractive and more endowed and they just made me feel more desirable because they didn't shy away from sex, but with that said, the sex was no better or worse than with the small Asian.

Later in my 20s, I dated a guy with a very skinny penis. He treated me like gold, was good-looking, incredibly smart, had a great job. Sex wasn't very satisfying with him, but he was really on the extreme end of penis skinnyness. I became a bit more size-oriented after that...but only for a short while.

When I was 30, and looking my best, I had the best sex of my life with a guy with a small penis. I was on vacation, so it only ended up a fling, but it was AMAZING. Key to the experience was that he made me feel DESIRED. There were no special techniques or tips, and I'm not much into foreplay, it was just a great connection/chemistry.

A few months later, I met the guy of my dreams. He was everything I wanted on paper. His penis was about 4.5"...maybe 4.25". I didn't care. My vacation fling had proven to me that size didn't matter...but it turned out to be a real problem for him. He was angry, aggressive, mean, and abusive as the relationship went on. Short-tempered, selfish, vindictive, and didn't give a sh*t how I felt in bed -- he would just lay there and let me do all the work. He was arrogant, talked non-stop about how good-looking he thought he was, lied to me about so many things, put me down constantly, criticized me in public...he was a total lunatic. He was OBSESSED with his small penis and I didn't believe that this was the root cause of most, if not all, his insecurities and bad behavior until seeing a therapist after we broke up (for reasons of lying/cheating on his part). My self-esteem was ratcheted down so low after dating him I felt worthless. I had a very hard time believing my therapist that he acted this way in part due to small penis syndrome...until reading through these forums online to better understand this problem.

Now I see how debilitating this can be for guys, how limiting (psychologically) this is for you, and I am sorry to hear it because you are doing yourselves a great disservice.

I would have happily married and had kids with my most recent ex had he only treated me better, with respect, trust, and taken more of an interest in making me feel good rather than bad. But I just couldn't take it anymore; his neurotic bad behavior was too much. Now I just resent him.

It's not your penis size that counts, it's how you make a woman feel at the end of the day. Make her feel like the sexiest woman on earth, and she will become infatuated with how great she feels around you. Care for her, treat her right, be confident that you can turn her on by being a great man of integrity. Touch her in a way that makes her feel loved and valued. Ask her what turns her on. Be kind. Above all, do not shy away from great women and great opportunities for love just because you assume they aren't available to you. They are. Keep looking. Think positively. Be kind to yourself.

Best wishes. I hope I've helped.

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To all the men suffering from Small Penis Syndrome, please believe me:

Later in my 20s, I dated a guy with a very skinny penis. Sex wasn't very satisfying with him, but he was really on the extreme end of penis skinnyness. I became a bit more size-oriented after that"

which is exactly what my exes said about me :(

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which is exactly what my exes said about me :(

I'm sorry to hear that Jessie, but please don't take the one *slightly* negative experience of mine as the whole picture. I dated that guy for 4 months, and we broke up more because of it being long distance and me not being really interested in his personality. The sex wasn't so great, but it had more to do with the fact that he'd just get on top of me missionary and jack-hammer away... it wasn't very romantic. I still came though.

Size-wise, he was ULTRA skinny in girth. I don't know how big you are... I can't even remember how big he was... but rest assured this was a very extreme case of narrow girth. I just wanted to throw that example in to provide a balanced view. That I've had both good and bad experiences with both ends of the size spectrum. Most guys on this forum seem to be complaining about penises that are still fairly normal in size...

One of my exes (that I dated for 2 years) had a huge penis and I'd rank sex with him to be fairly low in quality compared to all the other guys, including the ones with small dicks. We were limited in terms of positions because it would hurt and he was just kind've dull in bed.

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I'm at the low end of average and I've been told I was small. However, I didn't let it get to me like it's gotten to others with similar measurement as me. There are enough things in life that have inspired me to be less worried about how diminuitive my flesh is relative to others. Also, it's cool to see an engineer here. I'm a EE major. My problem comes down to being able to meet women and I have nothing in commmon with the majority of women that I've met. I am actaully really depressed about being unable to interact and find a common ground with most women. I'm fairly sexually inexperienced as well and that puts me in an awkward position with most of the women taht I'ma round consideirng that they all seem to have had several partners.

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GoodWoman,

I think your post is very helpful to those who genuinely have small penis syndrome and I appreciate your honesty in your post. It seems like guys who have normal girth and are not under 4 inches in length are fully capable of healthy sexual relations. From the huge amount of time I've wasted reading what women have to say about size, my conclusion is that girth is the measurement they claim is important. For people in my shoes, with a skinny, below average girth, our situations are different than those who are worried about their length. Not to diminish their issues but they have a likely chance of resolution.

This is further evidence of the importance of girth and those of us who lack in this arena need to find ways of leading semi-healthy lives even if intimate relationships and healthy sex lives are not in the equation for us. I would venture to say that we have mild physical handicaps. I would not dare compare myself to someone in a wheelchair or someone who is mentally disabled but I would say that myself and others like me have a mild handicap that prevents us from having lasting relationships.

Obsessing over my size and making myself depressed about it is a vicious cycle. I have read all there is to read about women's size preferences and I won't find the answer I want by reading more because the answer I want doesn't exist. Good thing I don't have any religious or legal morals preventing me from seeing escorts.

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I'm sorry to hear that Jessie, but please don't take the one *slightly* negative experience of mine as the whole picture. I dated that guy for 4 months, and we broke up more because of it being long distance and me not being really interested in his personality. The sex wasn't so great, but it had more to do with the fact that he'd just get on top of me missionary and jack-hammer away... it wasn't very romantic. I still came though.

Size-wise, he was ULTRA skinny in girth. I don't know how big you are... I can't even remember how big he was... but rest assured this was a very extreme case of narrow girth. I just wanted to throw that example in to provide a balanced view. That I've had both good and bad experiences with both ends of the size spectrum. Most guys on this forum seem to be complaining about penises that are still fairly normal in size...

One of my exes (that I dated for 2 years) had a huge penis and I'd rank sex with him to be fairly low in quality compared to all the other guys, including the ones with small dicks. We were limited in terms of positions because it would hurt and he was just kind've dull in bed.

I know but his size didnt satisfy you, so much so in fact you specially tried to avoid skinny penis guys after you broke up.

His good looks, respectful treatment, great job etc didnt stop his thin penis frustrating you.

This guy didnt have Small Penis Syndrome, he just had small penis, like me.

Im afraid quite a few of us here have been very unlucky with our sizes- though one or two are just under average.

ps I think its worth highlighting that this guy did find a new girlfriend soon after you broke up- that IS a comfort for sure- I appreciate you mentioning that :)

pps and I commend your honesty too- I apologise if Im coming across hostile/needy/etc

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Gotcha.

So yep, that's true. The one with the skinny penis moved on after me to a pretty italian girl he's been dating for 1-1.5 years now.

Again, I was unsatisfied because of him jackhammering away. I still had orgasms though.

I did want to avoid a similar experience after that... I ended up having 2 flings with big dick guys (better looking guys with equally good jobs). I got bored of one of them fairly quickly, and the other I had no desire to sleep with again. IE, their big penises didn't matter in the end. Both still call me (2yrs later), and I don't take them up on their offers.

The best sex I've ever had was honestly with the small dick guy I had later, on vacation. I raved about him for months afterward.

The next guy I dated long term also had a small penis. On par with great-sex-vacation guy. I was excited to date him, excited to sleep with him, and definitely wanted a future with him...but his Small Penis Syndrome got in the way and, ironically, he turned out to be the biggest dick I've ever known.

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dvnJ22, dude, that's actually AVERAGE for a lot of races. I work with a hot Korean girl who reiterates all the time that she likes "small Asian penis". Her bf is small, they've been together for years.

Lol, no it's not. Not trying to be mean here, just real. Sure, Asian guys, on average, have smaller penises.....but 3 1/2" penises? No.

However, dvnj22, while we're certainly cursed..... I'm discovering that the key to this thing is to flaunt it shamelessly and let the chips fall wherever they may. As guys with small dicks, we can't afford to be sensitive.

We only have 2 or 3 choices here:

1. We can pretend that women aren't important ( as one or two here have) and occupy ourselves with other stuff and end up being that weird guy on the block whom never has any women. Note:While I agree that there are other things to life than women, it cannot be denied that we--like most humans--need love, affection, sexual connection with others, something that cannot be fulfilled by education or hobbies (but, of course, there are alternatives, I mean you could join a theravadan buddhist monastary and make overcoming all desires your pursuit in life)

2. We can allow ourselves to be paralyzed with fear of rejection/humiliation, isolate and die in misery.....and, in the mean-time, be that socially awkward weird guy on the block whom never has any women or hardly any friends over, if any at all.

3. Or we can bang chicks and let it lead us wherever it may, lol.

Adopt a "I have a small penis and don't give a **** what you think about it" mentality, and chances are you can make the best of this cursed situation. Remember, life is short and the size of your penis will mean nothing in the grave, ya know?

Here's that Howard Stern "small penis contest" video that I like to post. It is, in an odd sort of way, sorta inspirational, especially the first guy and the other guy with glasses. Look at how shameless and confident that they are, lol. Try to be like most of these guys. And notice how the extremely confident micro-penis guy gives a shout out to his girl-friend of 8 years, lol. If he can do it then so can we:

http://www.wcqj.com/...est-full-video/

By the way, the full 52 minute episode can be found at "xvideo" for free on-line...I didn't link there because it's a porn site with very explicit advertisements on the page.

Peace.

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...I dunno. From my female point of view, being confident is one thing but acting really brash is obnoxious.

I Wikipedia'd the penis stats a few months ago...or Googled. Either way, I'm certain I read that several races are between 3-4 inches.

I wish my ex had been confident and upfront about things. I wish he'd said, "Hey, I'm self-conscious about my small penis, but as long as it's not an issue for you, lets have a great time. Tell me what you like in bed."

...something along those lines.

I would have felt so much more at ease.

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3.5 is micropenis for any ethnicity

the lowest asian average quote I could find is 4.9 in

the average range for Caucasian is 5.5-6.2 though most women I know insist its 6-7 (like the Kinsey stats)

for afro Caribbeans- Tracy Cox (uk sex expert) says its about 8in but some studies put it at 7.2in average.

If I could accept it then thats one thing but you have seen what Janet thinks of small guys- shes the overwhelming majority and thats why its hard to be confident...

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I dunno where you got your numbers... But I'll just say from personal experience, I've seen several from all ends of the spectrum.

I've been with 3 guys around the 4" mark

About 2 guys at 5" mark

3 guys around the 8" mark

...and I don't know/remember where the others fell.

I feel like if around 4" (+/-) 0.5" is what you guys are complaining

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