opulentcello Posted May 6, 2018 Report Share Posted May 6, 2018 Hi, I'm (REDACTED), am from (REDACTED), I'm a teenager, and I go by they/them pronouns. Hopefully this place is supportive/friendly. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted May 6, 2018 Report Share Posted May 6, 2018 Welcome to the community, Daltoid. 😊 I hope too that you will feel supported here. Take care. opulentcello 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted May 6, 2018 Report Share Posted May 6, 2018 Hi, Daltoid, welcome! 🌈 I also hope you'll feel comfortable to share your feelings, problems, and worries here. BTW, I like your 'avatar'! Is it a fox or a dog? I'm just curious because I can't tell ... opulentcello 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opulentcello Posted May 7, 2018 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 @LaLa My profile pic is a fox Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted May 7, 2018 Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 I'm glad my first guess was right. How are you doing, Daltoid? I know that gender dysphoria is often accompanied by depression and anxiety . May I ask how it is for you; have the depression and anxiety been caused by this dysphoria and/or by not feeling accepted by your family and/or peers? Or are there also some other reasons for these issues, unrelated to gender dysphoria? Also, may I ask if you're in some kind of therapy? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opulentcello Posted May 7, 2018 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 Most likely they're related, due to being from (redacted) (where there are stupid "transitioning rules" like how one has to undergo all the surgeries just to change one's gender marker to the opposite gender, and along with that, gay marriage is void, and my mom had to go talk to one of my therapists first (as he's a leader of a local LGBTQ+ organization) to make sure the "youth weren't being corrupted by LGBT+ issues", ugh), even though generally people around me were supportive. I currently go see two therapists, along with a hypnotherapist, and a psychiatrist (am on antidepressants). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opulentcello Posted May 7, 2018 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 and I'm alright, but honestly could be better Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted May 7, 2018 Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 I'm also from a country (in Europe) where all those rules you mentioned are applied and gay marriage (even any legal partnership!) is impossible. Yes, I'm lucky it doesn't concern me in practice, but it annoys me and I consider it absurd and cruel. I imagine it has to be very difficult to consider decisions regarding such surgeries. Yes, some people know very well they want them, but for others, it's more or less hard to decide what to do based on the stupid rules, put in place by politicians who have no idea how it feels... I think that there is probably hope the rules will once change, but I have no idea when it might be, so this uncertainty is also playing a big role... Anyway; I'm happy to hear that you've found good therapists and know supportive people around you! Would you tell us more about them, about your friends and about some activities that you can enjoy? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted May 7, 2018 Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 I recall reading that earlier in the year Indonesia enacted a brutal and humiliating crackdown on the LGBT community. I hope that has ended and I hope nothing similar is brewing in Singapore. Hope things get better for you @Daltoid Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opulentcello Posted May 7, 2018 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 @Victimorthecrime That unfortunately hasn't ended in Indonesia, and thankfully that hasn't happened here, but there seems to be consideration on "crackdown on fake news," which means that more censorship would happen. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
opulentcello Posted May 7, 2018 Author Report Share Posted May 7, 2018 @LaLa Well I like art and listening to music, and the people who have been supportive includes my therapist, named Fiona, who has tried to help me cope with dysphoria a bit more (say via mirroring), and has done research for me to help me, which is nice. Another person would be my math/chem tutor, who happens to be trans, and I met him through a local LGBTQ+ affirmative church, which doubles as a LGBTQ+ library from 2-6pm on Saturdays (but you have to be 18 and older to check out books, so that's a bit annoying). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted May 13, 2018 Report Share Posted May 13, 2018 I wonder if you might ask your teacher for some book(s) that he/she would consider appropriate for your age - you cannot check out book yourself yet, but the teacher might do it for you, as well as help you with your choice. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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