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I think one of my biggest frustrations is how this whole situation is questioning something so close to me, something so intimate, something I know is good and true and without gaining any real knowledge judging us and through that judging has caused us to be apart, has caused me to lose my job, has caused massive stress to both of us and our families.

All this for something I know is right. We know is right. I am the last person to harm someone or to take advantage of them. I always give people choices and my girlfriend even though depressed is one of the strongest willed people I know. She is intelligent, determined, stubborn and skeptical.

It is hard when people attack something so powerful in your life. It is horrible when people say things like, it is hard to defend you when this was a long on-going relationship that you show no remorse for. Why would I show remorse for such a wonderful relationship. They refuse to listen to any real details. All they need to know is my age, her age, the nature of the relationship and the fact she had emotional issues. Once they know that there is not more to hear. I am a monster. It must be exploitive.

And so far I have not really been able to even try to defend myself. I must patently wait while the justice system screws things up, fails to deliver a summons that delays the whole case 5-6 months. I must wait while the prosecution delays and delays in giving us full disclosure. I must wait as I read messed up summaries of interviews.

I am tired of waiting. I am tired of people picking at something so significant in my life without even looking at the details.


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Your situation reminds me of an old joke: "What do you call a bunch of lawyers at the bottom of the ocean?" Answer - "A good start". They are absolutely blinded by the letter of the law. Like robots, they do not question. I don't know why they get paid so much, they don't seem to have an original thought in their head and they make tons of mistakes. I'm so sorry you have to endure this.

(my apologies to any lawyers viewing this who are NOT like the stereotype described above)

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LOL. Thanks again Athena. At the moment I am very thankful for Lawyers. Without mine I would be frantic, but he certainly comes at a steep price.

I will get through this and we will be happy again. Just a matter of time.

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Thanks. The trial is at the end of January. If all works out that will make things much better, then I just need to resolve my human rights cases, but we will be back together anyway, which will be wonderful.

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Hello, W.,

I don't know what to say, I've replied some time ago to your thread about this issue, I just wanted to say I've read your blog, too and am still sad that they've done this to you... :)

Good luck! You both deserve to be happy again!


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Thanks LaLa,

You don't need to say anything. I just find that I need to vent. I need to express my feelings and so I decided to start blogging here.

I hope we will be happy at the conclusion of the trial.

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