very sorry things are so tough for you and your mom shannon maybe the lawyer will have some other suggestions to go along with what Hotspot told ya about

Still sick its only a cold nothin to go to drs for or have anyone be concerned about. only work 2 nights a week at the cemetery until it gets warmer and its not difficult creepy pain in the ass at times but I take walks around property or golf cart rides and view security monitors for $175 for 2 nights short of me bein dead makes sense to go

I took thurs and fri off last week from my old people will go in tomorrow dont want to blow anymore of my paid sick days I can crawl into bed when the day is over will wear my spiderman mask the old people get kick out of it and I wont be breathing all on them

my neighbor been tellin some of you about had her older daughter come over to ask if I had any liquor she could "borrow" for her mother what a pathetic waste of a mother if the girl was a teen would have thought was for her but girl is like 8 or 9 I kind of wanted to kidnap her and bring her to hotspots house least there shed be taken care of Anyway was just a thought Im not kidnapin anyone

Hello outthere

It's nice to see everyone posting, please excuse my absence. Mike, thanks for keeping everyone updated on my whereabouts.

I have not been home in days and am extremely tired. Now that I am home sleep of course is still a major issue.

Anyway, I am sorry Shannon that you continue to be at the overly burnt out stage. I know and truly understand how you want to keep your mother as your primary concern, your constantly being secondary if at all is not going to benefit either one of you. Good to hear you will get Guardianship taken care of. This attorney you are going to see, are they also proficient in the special needs trusts I mentioned? It's difficult not being able to offer you more assistance.

I did manage to visit Jedidiah briefly this evening. He is looking even more pale than he had however, I was told he is stable. His being moved to the CCU from the ICU will be delayed. He is on a lot of strong medications and probably has pleaded with anyone and everyone to take him out of there.

Have a good day at work Spiderman!

OK, well it is 2:35am and my wife wants me in bed with her.

I hope you went immediately, Hotspot.

Mike, you don't normally get a fever like you've had with "just a cold". The fever indicates influenza which shouldn't be messed around with. Glad you took some days off, but be careful, a fever like that can do damage (eg. heart damage) that could be avoided. If your body says "bed", the money isn't worth it and your brain should say "yes, sir". You want to live to watch the creepy ghosts another night. We had a guy here in town who went for a run while he had flu and ended up needing a heart transplant. My doctor told me that when I was trying to go to work while I had flu.

That was the stern nurse Luna speaking.

Shannon, I was thinking after you said respite care was $130 a day - wouldn't it not be worth it, one day a week? I don't know what you have overall, but it sounds as if the need for relief is at an emergency level and has been for some time.

Ok Mike now you have nurse Luna on your case, so you better start minding her..:eek:

Glad you made it through another long..long shift. Now time to recoup. Im glad you saw Jedidiah, Im sure he wants outta there pretty bad. I will make sure attorney is expert in all those areas I need to address. I realize I should of done this a long time ago, I have an appt with pdoc tomorrow, will get through that first..Im sure he is going to lecture me.

Luna I have considered the respite despite the cost, but it would definately be a hardship swinging it finacially. Besides it takes so long to get her up and ready and we have to pay for the special transport at 72.00 round trip..buy the time she got there it would be time for her to come back..thats a lot of money for such a short time.. But will keep it as a last resort. Attorney First!

Its a cozy windy stormy day here, mom is mostly through her episode and is resting quietly, so I took a long long nap, feel much better. Got to go out and spend time with my horses, ahhh it felt so good.

oh..Mike forgot to say, I like your idea of taking the kid of the poor excuse of mother to Hotspots. I know you can't do that but its ok to think it at least.. She needs to be turned in. The gall to send her kid to ask for alcohol for her...makes me mad:mad:

Nice to see ya Hotspot hope you didnt forget mrs hotspot today

good you had rest Shannon

Anyway no worries I always get really high fevers when sick dont get sick lots but when I do always get insane fever

Not sure what Im gonna do about my neighbor had thought I would eventually report her not too sure thats great thing to do Ive had neighbors come over askin for eggs never to borrow booze let alone send their kid felt bad for her she seemed embarrassed to be askin but Domino was quick to give her a greeting which brought big smile

spiderman drove the old people all around I swear they are like big kids they had valentines bash at the center and they had a clown for entertainment

Oops almost forgot a little something else for you Jedidiah a few friends I know you enjoyed

Hippo singin Lion sleeps tonight Doogy um Dancin

More Hippo & Doggy singin in the rain

Yes, of course Luna. Never leave a beautiful woman wanting you in bed waiting, that is on the short list of never dos.

Mike, I did not forget about Valentine's day. Card, flowers her favorite chocolates and dipped strawberries. Dropped the kids off at my parents and took her out for a nice dinner and adult fun. The kids made tons of valentines for her. I have to laugh since they are in the GI Joe, Transformers and Carebear variety plastered all over the fridge.

Shannon, forget about the should haves you did what you could with everything that came at you. Having a new list and taking it step by step sounds like a decent plan of action. Beating yourself up with doubts and should haves will only make you feel worse. Try to remember there isn't any instruction manual to deal with these real life issues that became compounded by further real life issues. Hopefully your pdoc will be of greater help than to lecture you, frankly I don't think a lecture is in order here if it were I could give you one. Let me know I'll squeeze one in.

Mike, somehow I missed the part last night about your neighbor sending her child over to ask for alcohol. How outrageously sad it is for that child to have this kind of parent. I can understand wanting to kidnap her although there aren't anymore vacancies at my place. I've actually told my wife absolutely no more, I don't care what sob story she receives. We have more than enough to deal with already. What are your concerns that keep you from reporting this deadbeat woman? It is disturbing with the amount of caring people that would like to have children that are unable to. Here is this woman with the gift of multiple children only abusing and neglecting them.

It's a good thing you put up some Hippo links I needed a laugh. You are turning Jedidiah into a big warped kid with all this stuff. He might return home craving hippos, dogs and warthogs singing and dancing.

I better get back to bed before my wife wakes and worries.

Thanks Hotspot for the encouraging words, I do tend to beat myself up about things I should of seen coming and dealt with. And you are so right about no manuels to instruct you in these times..thinkin I will right one for those in this situation that can't access assistance.

Mike..I too tend to run hight fevers, in fact my normal temp is slightly higher than what is consider normal, not much but a little, always had.

Happy to hear the that Jedidiah loves the links you provide they are great, love them too.

How did things go at the doctor Shannon?

Spiderman and Luna check in I need something to read.

I agree I enjoy the added links also. It's nice to know I am not the only one listening to animated animals singing. My wife heard me before playing one of them again and came over asking what are you watching? Then she saw the Hippo lol suppose it is better than some other things I could be watching.:eek:

Yeah, Shannon my "normal" temp like yours is raised higher then most shit my normal is probably lots higher then most even with higher ones. 98.7 is supposed to be normal when totally healthy Im always in the low 100. something range anyway Im now in the 101. range its comin down was able to work yesterday and today

My old people are too cute feelin special havin spiderman drivin them around Had to listen to them complain about their driver last thurs and fri which they hate only handful of drivers that work for the various senior centers for the several towns Most dont do stuff I just consider average work day crap Guy wouldnt help them get on or off the bus or with shopping bags or their granny carts etc Now we all know I am not people person but how can anyone watch old people strugglin toget on and off bus hoistin granny carts and shoppin bags and not get off their fucking ass and help

Techinically we dont have to do anything but show up do wheelchair lifts drive and drop offs still though damn lazy fucks then around holiday time when the old people are givin out cards with cash and gifts these worthless humps stand around the depo lounge pissin and moanin because they didnt get nothin I help the old people because they are old and need it the gifts and stuff are nice too but not doin it to get nothin or expectin from them I always have big smile when I walk in to turn in keys for the day and have handfuls of gifts around holiday time and my birthday and through out year they are always bakin or makin me soups and stews sometimes wind up with so much tuppleware in my dishwasher I cant remember whose his whose to return anyway Ive been told by them I cant get sick anymore or take sick days sure would be nice if things worked like that

Hotspot I dont know what to do about my neighbor I dont wanna make things worse for the kids who are the ones that would wind up sufferin if they got taken away I do understand you and mrs hotspot not wanting anymore from anywhere dont know how yous deal with 5 as it is

Its a good thing you remembered valentines day sure mrs hotspot deserved all the flowers sweets and time with only you

Have you had chance to read other thread here? Your thoughts are missin

Jedidiah btw is already warped dude too late hes just been undercover warped you and shannon likin the links is good to know wondered if either of you would think Jedidiah and me were really insane with the singin and dancin cartoons I bet your wife was relieved to see a singin hippo instead of well you know oh he asked on phone tonight if I could put the ones you showed us of houses you work and worked at think he just likes seeing the trucks leave told him Id ask

Just so everyone knows thats panda mobile malign stuck in the corner with his car Luna is still doin circles and lightenin bolt shannon is on your tail hotspot better watch out :eek:

Hi all, went and saw pdoc yesterday, he didn't lecture me but did stress the importance of taking regular times off,mmmm gonna have to work on that one.

Went to see attorney today, kinda concerning when you tell someone your situation and then they answer back, wow. Anyway he suggested some calls to make regarding medicaid. I called a specialest about medicaid and they said I first need to work with attorney to get a income cap trust, then called senior and disabilty and they said the same thing..once we have a income cap trust, it lowers her income status then they can provide services. So at least there is a forward direction. Even better, the attorney I saw today, recognized me from my days working with the DA's office working as an advocate. He saw me often at the court house, he didn't charge anything for consultation. Little does he know Im heading back his way now that I know what to ask for.

Mike I had to laugh when you and I talked about our high temperatures..the Foriegner song "Hot Blooded" came to mind,,been playing in my head all day.

Oh and thanks for the play by play calls for the bumper cars, Luna and her circles are really something...Im really revving up lightening bolt..so watch. Jedidiah better start gettin better soon so he can come out and play.

Forgotten to you how much I love the links of the Lion Sleeps Tonight..makes me think of my childhood everytime when I hear that song. We had a crossed eyed siamese named Ralph, he was a bit dim..but when you played that song he would start strutting around house with kinda swagger,,bein real cool.

the dog could be my goofy dog Ringo..I loved it and thanks for sharing them with us all.

Oh yeah.. and my caregivers friend has offered to pay her to stay the night with me and and also pay from a hotel room for me go get some rest,,I hope there will be a sauna or something..that would feel so good. The more I think about it the more I like it..even if its for one night..my pdoc would be pround.

I wish to learn how to navigate this computer better,, would like to Skype like everyone else, will have my caregiver show me how...I would like to sype with you guys, when you thinkd its time and only if you are ok with it.

Happy to hear you had good day shannon with people wantin to help you out like hotspot said sounds like good steps

I know what song your talkin about not a bad tune and I LOVE the movie the lion king my favorite disney movie its got some of the best catchy little tunes in it I think I got Jedidiah hooked too it was first disney movie hed ever seen The Hippo and dog song parodys are good for a quick laugh and pick me up I even had my old shrink laughin at them

Skypein with us all would be nice least I think so especially since you are in Guam probably would help ya not feel as out of it. Its not hard to do either like I keep remindin Jedidiah none of this computer stuff is hard Id really like to see your furry family

Jedidiah is doin good just gonna be slow recovery from this last surgery he has times when hes real good and times when hes not I should be well enough by the weekend to go see him have felt horrible that I got sick and couldnt go see him

Think will have to send Domino after Luna and Malign you stay on hotspots tail

Lt. Hotspot, you called, sir?

Down, Domino, down boy! Good boy.

Things aren't going so well, I'm being ground down by this nasty tenant. I so badly need peace and good vibes in my own home and she is toxic. She went to a lawyer and tried to dictate to me how and when and how much she would pay to me, and threatened me with all sorts of things. Eventually I realised I would have to go to a lawyer myself if I was to have any chance at her stupid game. My lawyer wrote her a scathing letter and she has been very quiet since then, but smouldering. I'm a little afraid of what she might do, not sure if I already told this but she was once found guilty of lighting a match in an arson case. A nasty piece of work.

This lawyers game is so stupid - it's like she's picked a fight with me in the playground and then runs and fetches her daddy to sort me out so I have to get my daddy to defend me and get me what I am entitled to in the first place and to get her out of my face. So childish! She can play it because she has a free lawyer, I have to pay, just to get her to do what any honourable, decent person knows they must do - behave like an adult.

I swore it wasn't going to get to me, but it has. I can't believe how cold-bloodedly she is using me, I feel violated. And she is living in my garden; I feel sick going outside. This is a depressive episode in the making, as much as I may try and fight it. I just have to hang in.

Sorry to go all morose on you all. I'm struggling to deal with this.

Luna,,so sorry she is playing this nasty game, however I am glad you got your attorney involved for you protection. Its like my pdoc told me today, he said that he isn't changing my meds because he thinks my stress is appropriate in my situation...I think yours is too. Very hard to have toxic people like this tennant holding you over a barrel. Sounds like you are having your own conflict going on without resolution until you can be rid of her...I bet she has done this in the past with other landlords, to bad you couldn't find them to talk to, to see what they were able to do about her. Maybe your attorney can.

Hello Everyone,

I am not feeling well but I wanted to say hello.

Mike, thank you for all of the links they make me laugh and pass some time. Please do not feel bad about not being able to visit. I know you would if you were not sick yourself. I can picture you driving the elderly around wearing your Spiderman mask. If you are feeling up to it I would love to see more links. I can not remember all of the ones you have shown me to ask for specific ones right now, surprise me.

Luna, thank you for pointing out the link I missed sorry. I do not feel comfortable at this site or with posting out in the forum. I do not want to be rude ignoring anyone wishing me well. I am not sure what to do.

Shannon, from what I have read it appears you could be on the road to being helped. I am happy for you and your mother, I know how much you need assistance. It would be neat to talk through skype with you.

Hotspot, I want to say thank you for everything you and your crew has been doing for me. You are a kind giving person that I am honored to know. You have limited time but never seem to forget me.

I do not know why but I did not see your new post Luna until after I posted. I am very sorry this lady is causing you such problems. I know it is hard but try very hard to not allow this negative person to dictate your well being. There are too many negative people with cold hearts. I do not understand these kinds of people. I am wishing you the best.

I agree with you Jedidiah, the people we live among out here is mind boggling at times..seeing the cruelty the enflict on others for no reason. Its hard to wrap ones brain around it..especially when I see how some parents treat their children, who are truly a gift. I sure wasn''t raised to treat others rudely or cruelly yet I constantly see people setting bad examples for their children....right Mike..such as the neighber lady of yours. anyway Mike I hope things are peaceful with them and that you are well enough to see Jedidiah soon.

Shannon, it's great to hear you are going to get some help and rest. I know it's stressful to be making all the calls and so forth but they will bring you further relief you deservingly need.

Luna, what a piece of work your tenant is. I agree with Jedidiah in that I know it's difficult but try to not allow her crap to get you down. Some people are simply leaches of humanity. Anyway, glad to see you posting even if it isn't all perky after all life isn't always. btw it will be Captain Hotspot soon I wonder if that means extra slobbering from Domino for me.

Mike, I would report your neighbor. I understand your concerns about the children but how are you going to feel if/when something happens to them while living right next door with that neglectful woman?

I did read the other thread here however, between work and at home responsibilities I have not had a chance to put together my thoughts. I will add to it maybe sometime this weekend.

Also I don't mind your putting the links I showed you and Jedidiah here. I showed you guys so, many I don't know which if any would be worth another look though. Youtube is now filled with so, many responding and returning calls. I know Jedidiah enjoyed the one as he put it "where the truck sounded angry pulling out." After all these years I'm still slightly amazed at how many need added incentive to get the hell out of the way.

Jedidiah, I'll probably come visit this weekend also. My crew and I like you, helping out anyway we can is something we enjoy doing. Just wait until you are well enough to tour my house. We are all looking forward to that day.

Now I see Shannon is on my tail in her fancy car, I just might have to use my nitro. Mike, I gather Malign is still stuck in the corner have not heard a peep from him. Maybe Domino needs to get on his ass ASAP.

Hello,

Shannon, the further I try to understand the negativity some have within themselves the more I am learning it is an unwise use of time.

Hotspot, when are you going to become captain? That is really awesome congratulations! Do NY firemen make a lot of money? Do you get more money depending upon how many years you have worked? Do Lt and Captains make more than firemen? I am curious. I do not mean to be nosey. I was reading the magazines you gave me and in the back of one it listed all the calls the city fire department goes on every year. It looks like you guys are always very busy.

Its good to see posting more Jedidiah, you are so right about negative in some people being nothing more than a waste of time, they choose to live their lives that way and nothing seems to help them change...so sad, because there are wonderful things out there as well.

Congratulations on becoming a Captain, now we are both Captains:D...even though mine is with a volunteer department and there are just a handful of us senior firefighters...just got a call from the chief, we got some new sweatshirts and tshirts..get to pick them on Monday. As far as what NY firefighters make..Im sure its still not enough for what you do.

Mom is back to her old self, hoping to have a peaceful weekend...I just woke up from a long nap, it felt great.

Have a good weekend everyone

Shannon, what is the reason for the new shirts, just to have new ones or did you guys get revamped insignia? Ours hadn't changed in decades before 9/11 and the post 9/11 one will probably stand again for decades.

Thanks for the congrats however, it isn't a big deal. I've been asked to promote 3 times over the last 5yrs. I let my wife decide this time for me. Firefighters in NY make a little under 40 grand their first year on the job. Every year after that they get about a 5 grand increase until their 5th yr which is than about a 15 grand increase and remains that way until promoted. There are of course fringe benefits of overtime and Holiday work. An LT makes anywhere from 125 to 140 grand, Captains make about 15 to 25 grand more and so, on and so fourth. Nothing secret or nosey about it. All civil servants pay is public knowledge.

The pay is obviously decent but the medical benefits are substantial for the lifetime of the FF and their families.

We do get a lot of calls yearly which is why NYFD is considered the busiest of all the States. We are also one of the first to be called when other states have problems or need additional education. Our fire academy is also one of the most demanding around. Departments from all over learn from ours and ask for our instructors to visit their departments.

We are a small rural fire department, everyone except the chief is volunteer. We work with neighboring RFPDs as well. Even though we are volunteers we are required to have the exact same training as career firefighters. We have a board of directors who oversee the business end.,,they are our bosses.

We haven't changed anything about our insigna's, the board just likes to spoil us with different types of sweatshirts and Tshirts...The Tshirts bear the number of the vehicle we are in charge of.

Only a small portion of our district has firehydrants, the rest we have to do water shuttles with tenders, for those areas we have dry hydrants in ponds and water tanks to draft from. You should see our water shuttles go, its quite something, we never loose pressure as water is being shuttled at such a fast rate.

Anyway, thanks for talking fire stuff with me, it took my mind off of things for the moment. I am having a terrible terrible day. Its so bad I feel as my spirit is slowly dying off.

Shannon, hit your restart button after doing so, I think the new data of your now being on the road to getting help for yourself and mother will be listed. As lonely and depleted as you feel you also need to feel and remember there is a different future for you coming. Yes, it has taken a while and isn't going to happen overnight but you are on the right path now. You still have a lot of life left in you! I know you can't change feelings that come up however, you can redirect those thoughts to what will happen..all the things you will be able to return to or try on for size. It's easy to get swept into the horrible feelings but you can kick their asses. Let's not forget here all the good you have done for others besides only your mother. Those together alone are more than many do their entire lives.

Wishing you well