How are you feeling now, Ralph?

(((Ralph)))

May I ask you why you won't admit to your therapist how much have you been / are you drinking? (There's a purpose in every denial and I wonder if you know the purpose of this one.)

I still feel guilty and lost. I'm doing a meditation workshop this weekend though. Maybe I'll learn something there that can help.

I actually talked to my therapist about my drinking this week after writing the above. She doesn't think I have a problem, or rather that the drinking is not the real problem. The purpose of my denial was fear of being treated badly. Because of my guilt, I felt I deserved to be treated badly and

Ralph posted:

The purpose of my denial was fear of being treated badly.

Then the problem would be fear, would it not? The only way to change the truth (of any situation), is to accept and face it. To deny that you drank or how much you drank is to do it again and again until you can stand up and say, "I am Ralph and my drinking affects my life." There is both pain and beauty in the truth but acceptance is the key to deciding which you will observe.

Keep trying Ralph. I believe in you

I hope you feel better, Ralph.

thanks, Frazzled and IJ