Drugs/Alcohol to ease SPS during potential intimacy

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

So, I will be completely honest, I am high on Xanax right now. It's something I don't do often (first time I did it in over a year) but the reason I did is I was hanging out with this old friend-girl who is pretty promiscuous and flirtatious and she had some Xanax she wanted to sell and one of the reasons I bought some from her (besides to help her out) was because if she did want to do something sexually (which I knew was a small chance), I would be on Xanax and Xanax is a benzo which is a class of drugs to reduce anxiety and stress. And it worked. By the time the pills kicked in, I felt like I could talk to her about the problem and even felt comfortable enough to undress in front of her (if she was interested). She wasn't. But it got me thinking how I should save the remaining pills I bought from her for the next time I am in a situation that could potentially turn into fucks and giggles.

I also know that it would help me greatly to also be a little drunk as well (maybe not mix the two, that's how you blackout or even die) but I know that if I ever did have a possible sexual encounter on the horizon, I would try to at least have a few drinks (or a few opiate pills) beforehand to not only help me overcome my SPS, be more relaxed, and also so I could last longer during the sex. This has always been my thinking (this line of thinking didn't just start today). What did start today is thinking of Xanax as another weapon against the SPS in these situations. I can't believe I didn''t think of it sooner. And Xanax (or any of the other benzos) would be perfect for guys that have trouble getting hard if they are drunk.

This got me thinking and wondering if any of you guys do this or have done this in the past. And I'm telling you guys, take some Xanax before you plan to fuck a girl and I bet you will be on here shortly after thanking me.

So, any experiences of using drugs/alcohol for help with sexual encounters? Or any thoughts about anything I just said? In 45 minutes it will be Christmas Eve where I'm at so Merry Christmas Eve everyone!

[LostBoy]

Drugs and alcohol have readily numbed my pain, alleviated my fears, and prolonged my love making over the years. In my younger years it was pot, coke, ,booze and a variety of pills but in more recent years it mainly been alcohol with a pill from time to time.

I've been married for a long time now so I don't need them to overcome the fear of being exposed to someone new, I use them now to simply numb the pain that comes with self loathing and the never-ending feelings of being inadequate. I also use them to help prolong the lovemaking because I've always had a quick trigger.

[Victimorthecrime]

"directly after copulation the devil's laughter is heard" - Arthur Schopenhauer

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

4 hours ago, lostboy1 said:

I also use them to help prolong the lovemaking because I've always had a quick trigger.

I'm sure you don't have as quick as a trigger as me.

But yeah, I mean, it almost sounds like you might use drugs/alcohol a little too much to help with your problem. I mean, I wouldn't ever use them just to "numb my pain" but then again, I am a recovering opiate addict. And you know what, they were always trying to figure out why I got into drugs despite being born into an upper middle class family and having no prior mental health issues or depression. I told them (and I still believe this) that I just was in with the wrong crowd, we experimented with a bunch of different stuff, and then a bunch of us got into heroin (chasing the dragon or what not) and by the time I realized what I was getting myself into, the physical withdrawal symptoms began and became the bane of my existence. Anyways, I wonder if why I have always been keen to opiates is because of my SPS. I never have thought about that. But I kind of doubt it because if that was the case, why do I not like alcohol that much?

[LostBoy]

10 minutes ago, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

it almost sounds like you might use drugs/alcohol a little too much to help with your problem

I drink regularly but drugs, these days, are a seldom occurrence. I don't really have an addictive personality as I have walked away from all of these things for long periods of time before. I don't necessarily crave them but I honestly do miss pot. I would quit drinking tomorrow if I wouldn't get drug tested at work and pot was legal in my state. That was my drug of choice for years.

15 minutes ago, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

I wouldn't ever use them just to "numb my pain"

In my opinion, this is the best to use them. I do have to admit that it was done for "fun" when I was young but now it's my numbing agent.

17 minutes ago, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

they were always trying to figure out why I got into drugs despite being born into an upper middle class family and having no prior mental health issues or depression

I was the same. I think it was boredom on my side. That and hanging out with siblings of friends who were much older and it drugs and alcohol.

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

4 hours ago, lostboy1 said:

and pot was legal in my state.

Yeah, it is definitely nice living in a green state.
 

4 hours ago, lostboy1 said:

In my opinion, this is the best to use them

I would say (well at least for me) that the best time to use them is socially (especially alcohol). I mean, when you get drunk are you ever happy when you're drunk? When I think of using alcohol to "numb the pain", it brings an image of overwhelming sadness. I have never used any substance in that way. Maybe subconsciously, but never "I'm sad about _______ I'm going to just get fucked up."

[YOTH]

We'll, I'm back I guess 😒 lol, I've had a brutal flu all week, it kicked my arse every day 😷. I used Viagra when I first got with my lass. I popped them for a few months until I was confident enough to go it alone. Nothing wrong with juicing your way into the hall of fame imo. It kept me on point without losing any days on Xanax, they always turned my page, most prescription shit spins my head. I wanna know whether I'm feeling something real or if it's the pills. I'd rather take a shit load of acid personally. One time, I bought some German acid online and I was the horniest I've ever been. I had sex like a wild chimp then wanked off about 10 times, it was bizarre. 

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

1 hour ago, YOTH said:

We'll, I'm back I guess 😒 lol

'Bout time.

1 hour ago, YOTH said:

One time, I bought some German acid online and I was the horniest I've ever been. I had sex like a wild chimp then wanked off about 10 times, it was bizarre. 

That is very interesting. I have never heard of acid doing anything like that. Well props to you for having sex with SPS on acid, like, that could turn into a really bad trip for a lot of people (maybe even me as well).

[Victimorthecrime]

3 hours ago, YOTH said:

One time, I bought some German acid online and I was the horniest I've ever been. I had sex like a wild chimp

I really do have to get onto the dark web at some point ha ha. Glad your back and feeling better YOTH. 

1 hour ago, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

Well props to you for having sex with SPS on acid

SPS ends where sex begins.  All I mean is while your actually screwing that should be good enough and powerful enough to knock all other shit out of your mind but I could be wrong. 

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

2 hours ago, Victimorthecrime said:

SPS ends where sex begins.  All I mean is while your actually screwing that should be good enough and powerful enough to knock all other shit out of your mind but I could be wrong. 

I suppose that would be true if you were with a girl who you trusted. All I know is for some reason I ended up with a relative stranger, I would be thinking about it (like which angles or positions and whether or not she is liking it or if it does look like she's liking it if she's faking it).

[YOTH]

Acid has made me horny a few times, it's a very sexual drug, this was something else tho, I didn't realise I physically had it in me. And I don't really suffer from SPS during sex, it kills me flaccid but I don't really have any complaints otherwise. Don't get me wrong, I'd strangle a care home full of OAP's to death for a few extra inches but that's besides the point. 

[LostBoy]

8 hours ago, Victimorthecrime said:

SPS ends where sex begins.  All I mean is while your actually screwing that should be good enough and powerful enough to knock all other shit out of your mind but I could be wrong. 

You would think that this would be the case, and it normally is, but I have gotten into my own head many times during sex. It happens most frequently when my SPS is active.

When I get in my head, I normally cannot cum in my wife for some reason. It's like I just don't feel anything during those times.

On the bright side, I could make love all night without cumming so my wife thinks I'm superman when the SPS strikes during sex. 😎 

[YOTH]

I had this annoying problem at one point where as soon as my gf started to make sounds like she was gonna cum I'd go softer. It was almost as if I'd find the sweet spot and then blow it because it was working. But recently I've been at full capacity and having great sex, mainly because I'm out of my head. It's almost as if there's a sexual me like Krangs robot body from TMNT and then the brain Krang yelling at the body for being a clumsy moron. If you can throw that shrieking brain out for half an hour and just focus physically it really helps. 

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

It must be nice to be married and to be able to have sex like you guys do. It's like. I get that SPS is a condition for life and what not, but if I were one of you guys and had a wife or girlfriend or even a FWB who accepted me enough (despite my SPS) to fuck me? Well, I don't even think I would have ever even signed up on this website. Like, my problem is that because of this condition, I can never see myself with a woman like that and have no confidence to even get a woman like that. But if I did get a woman like that, ie: had a wife and was actively having sex like most of you guys are? Well, I would be at complete peace with my condition. It would be like "yeah, my dick is small, but oh well, I got this goddess who loves me despite that fact." You guys are so lucky, just wanted you to know that.

[YOTH]

I get that. I said the same thing to a guy who posted here a while back. I said if I didn't look small or have a bulge I was neurotic about I wouldn't post here. And it's true, if I was happy with how I looked in the mirror, I wouldn't post here. 

[LostBoy]

8 hours ago, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

But if I did get a woman like that, ie: had a wife and was actively having sex like most of you guys are? Well, I would be at complete peace with my condition. It would be like "yeah, my dick is small, but oh well, I got this goddess who loves me despite that fact."

It's easy to say this but you never know how you'll react until your in the situation. I have a wife but she doesn't cum from my penis. I'm constantly concerned she'll finally give up and either leave me for a better and more endowed lover or she will just cheat on me to get her fill.

It's impossible to say what you'll do unless you've been their. I say that id be thrilled if I was lucky enough to have a penis over 4" but who knows. I may still be unhappy with an 8" penis.

[Victimorthecrime]

10 hours ago, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

Like, my problem is that because of this condition, I can never see myself with a woman like that and have no confidence to even get a woman like that.

Your choice is your choice but I can tell you that over the years here there have been a number of guys on the small side but that had wives and girlfriends.  In addition to lostboy1, retrojohn, perseverance, urwhatuis, just off the top of my head.  So it can happen. That's my only point.  

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

2 hours ago, lostboy1 said:

I have a wife but she doesn't cum from my penis.

Damnit lostboy, remember when I told you "you make me sad", well you're doing it again. This is the most depressing thing ever. And to think I'm probably going to have to deal with the same reality. Sigh...

[LostBoy]

2 hours ago, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

Damnit lostboy, remember when I told you "you make me sad", well you're doing it again. This is the most depressing thing ever. And to think I'm probably going to have to deal with the same reality. Sigh...

We all have our shit to deal with and yours may be very different than mine. It's highly possible that when you find someone to love that you will no longer have the same insecurities. I just wanted to make sure that you realized being in a relationship does not solve all problems.

[PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero]

7 hours ago, lostboy1 said:

I just wanted to make sure that you realized being in a relationship does not solve all problems.

Yeah, gees, thanks. Man, sometimes I think this forum does more harm than good to us guys. What does my buddy keep telling me about my SPS and this site? Confirmation bias? lol, no I'm glad for this site but man, I bet if I told you guys that I found a dream girl who LIKES small dicks and gets off like crazy to mine and craves mine, someone would say something to be the debbie downer.

[IrmaJean]

I think it would be helpful for both genders if there was less objectifying of others and of self. I see/hear a lot of it (from both genders) and I feel this can be problematic. 

Confirmation bias happens if a person seeks out information that reinforces their beliefs and discounts other ideas, which might challenge their beliefs. 

 

 

[Wayless]

On 12/24/2017 at 2:11 AM, PDXsUnHungAndUnsungHero said:

So, any experiences of using drugs/alcohol for help with sexual encounters? Or any thoughts about anything I just said? In 45 minutes it will be Christmas Eve where I'm at so Merry Christmas Eve everyone!

I almost never had sex without a lot a alcohol!  My drive was NOT high enough to overcome the inhibitions re: size, likely poor performance, and lack of assertiveness.  Alcohol would lower my inhibition to the point I could function!  Without alcohol my poor performance was too uncomfortable.  When drunk, I didn't care, but my performance was still poor.