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1 hour ago, Toosmallforcomfort said:

Anyone in here ever hire an escort to momentarily help with their sexual inadequacies?  If so, how did it go?  I've never did this. I'm just curious. I just found out through divorce financial discovery (she paid with credit card) that my wife did 3 days after she kicked me out of the house.

I never used an escort service. 

In the 70s there were bar girls or prostitutes or whores.  However, when it became clear to me my wife was not orgasming and refused to discuss the issue with me, I decided to see what other women were like.  They definitely were a lot hotter and lustier, but I don't think any actually orgasmed from penetration with me.  They could sure fake it to make me cum though.  Prostitution is quite addictive, as I discovered, especially if you can afford it.  Used to be better in the 70s pre-HIV when you didn't have to wear a condom!

I would recommend it for a short term cure to virginity ONLY, but not for sexual performance.  I hear male escort service, on the other hand, are often really great for women, though.  Gigolos can't usually fake orgasm and they really enjoy sex paid or not!

Aren't there sexual therapists that actually have sex with clients under the direction of a psychologist or psychiatrist?  You could probably afford that and possibly get yourself up to speed for real, or at least more confident!

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44 minutes ago, uptight outasight said:

Aren't there sexual therapists that actually have sex with clients under the direction of a psychologist or psychiatrist

Wow!  Perhaps, but that seems bizzare and out of a Stanley Kubrick movie

 

44 minutes ago, uptight outasight said:

I hear male escort service, on the other hand, are often really great for women, though.  Gigolos can't usually fake orgasm and they really enjoy sex paid or not!

Perhaps, but my lawyer said I get half of the money spent back! Lol. My guilty please is Steak and Shake on my credit card. Not YOLOgirls.com.

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2 hours ago, Worthless Life said:

I was just reading up about sexual surrogates the other day. Here's a website for more info.

https://www.surrogatetherapy.org/referrals/active-surrogates/

This caught my eye at the site:  This is the Body God Crafted for You   I guess in the eyes of too many of us see our bodies a "test", "joke" or "curse" instead of a gift, if there is a God.  However, this particular post does not characterize the whole "thrust" of the site, necessarily.  I just happened to read that one.

If I had the money or would presume use my wife's insurance for it, I would do it.  In spite of a really pretty large number of sexual experiences, including 2 wives, no woman has ever discussed with me how she felt about my sexual performance.  I'm really not sure why this might be. 

Women very active in recreational sex on-line say they don't understand it either, especially when long term partners are involved.  But, then again such active women might be outliers.  Not talking might be typical for all I know.

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I haven't had a lot of time to read the site, but there doesn't seem to be any mention of so called sps as a reason for surrogate therapy.  Maybe the focus is only on physical issues in the man like difficulty achieving/ maintaining erection, achieving ejaculation, premature ejaculation, extreme anxiety during sexual attempts, touching phobia, genital disgust, etc., not performance.   I guess maybe sps isn't considered a valid reason for surrogate therapy?!

If TooSmallforComfort looks into this deeply, I think he "owes" us a report, if not a blow by blow, at least in generalities!  (Kidding!  Obviously nothing is owed.)  

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19 hours ago, uptight outasight said:

However, when it became clear to me my wife was not orgasming and refused to discuss the issue with me, I decided to see what other women were like. 

This guy called up his lawyer to tell him he was filing for divorce, and the lawyer inquired as to the grounds for the suit. ‘I’ve got grounds, all right,’ sputtered the irate husband. ‘Can you believe my wife told me I’m a lousy lover?’ ‘That’s why you’re suing?’ pursued his lawyer. ‘Of course not. I’m suing because she knows the difference.’”

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7 minutes ago, Toosmallforcomfort said:

This guy called up his lawyer to tell him he was filing for divorce, and the lawyer inquired as to the grounds for the suit. ‘I’ve got grounds, all right,’ sputtered the irate husband. ‘Can you believe my wife told me I’m a lousy lover?’ ‘That’s why you’re suing?’ pursued his lawyer. ‘Of course not. I’m suing because she knows the difference.’”

Proving you had legitimate expectation of her not knowing the difference might be difficult.

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12 minutes ago, uptight outasight said:

Proving you had legitimate expectation of her not knowing the difference might be difficult.

Oh I did.  Not the size of anyone, but she was engaged before we met and had many bfs before she met me. Given my size, chances are, looking at the bell curve, the vast majority of her previous men, and those during our marriage, where up the scale so to speak.

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17 hours ago, Toosmallforcomfort said:

Oh I did.  Not the size of anyone, but she was engaged before we met and had many bfs before she met me. Given my size, chances are, looking at the bell curve, the vast majority of her previous men, and those during our marriage, where up the scale so to speak.

Durn, no basis for legal action then.  You had no legitimate expectation of her inability to tell the difference!  

We are joking, but historically, men tried to arrange things so they married a virgin and then kept her cloistered from other men. 

That was the desired norm for a reason.  Not advocating it, but it explains a lot.  Probably wasn't achieved that often anyway.

Active women have told me that men have a mental problem that women don't share:  men think "their" woman's best sex has to be with them.  We are weak crybabies if we can't accept the truth.

Hmmm!  I still have trouble with that one!  Maybe it's a genetically programmed instinct for men not to be able to accept the truth.  Too universal to be a social construction in my opinion.

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