Proverbs31:28 Posted April 24, 2008 Report Share Posted April 24, 2008 I am not sure this is a "disorder" per se, but this looked like the best forum for my question.I am, in medical terms, morbidly obese. 5'8", 200 pounds. I grew up being told I was "fat" and always believed I was. It was not until adulthood that I looked back at pictures of me as a child and teen and realized I was NOT fat. I was literally shocked by the photos because I have very vivid memories of myself as a fat kid.After my second child, I started gaining weight. It was a slow increase at first but then took off with my depression. Mainly because I became an emotional eater and became mostly sedentary. I have been turning to food when I am sad, lonely, frustrated, angry, stressed- you name it! If it is an emotion, there is usually a food to help me deal with it! However, there have been times when my depression is bad that I simply don't eat at all. I have no appetite and can go days without eating until I realize I am feeling weak and run down and will then force myself to eat something. This is where I am at right now. I have not eaten more than a few bites a day for the past week. I am getting that run down, weak feeling and realized today I needed to start eating. But, I can't. I physically cannot bring myself to eat. The thought of food- any kind- is absolutely repulsive to me. I stand in front of the cabinets and fridge and everything is so unappetizing to me. In fact, I literally feel like I am going to throw up if I eat anything.I will admit that, in recent months, I have ocassionally "purged" after feeling sudden, extreme guilt after emotional eating. This guilt came out of nowhere. It happened again a few days ago. I ate a handful of chips and suddently felt so guilty and could not stand the thought of food being in my stomach so I ran to the bathroom and... Since then, I have not been able to bring myself to eat more than a few bites at a time and, now, nothing.Does anyone know what causes a sudden aversion to foods? Is this part of the depression I am in right now, a symptom of my anxiety or something entirely different. I did not do this as a weight loss attempt, by any means, so please do not look to that as an explanation. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jennifer Posted April 24, 2008 Report Share Posted April 24, 2008 I too, get like that.I use every emotion to eat too, and there is alway's a battle within my head if I try to fight it. I know that I suffer as what I like to call the "deep depression" and that is what you are experiencing. I couldn't and didn't want to eat and because of what I was going through at the time, I wasn't even thinking about food(if only it could be like that on a normal basis!) and I lost weight without even trying. I too, felt sick to my stomach. But the good that came out of that for me, was because I was not obsessing over food and my weight, I was able to feel the feelings i was feeling at the time, and deal with them in a proper manner. I began journalling, in which I use to do all the time, but gave up on it. It felt good to let it all out. Eating from emotions tends to numb the pain and bring on guilt,shame and all kinds of crappy feelings. I wrote all kinds of letters to people on why I was angry with them or I wrote my kids to apologize for everything that I thought I was doing wrong in life. And I prayed like crazy and took whatever small amount of relief that I had, and ran with it. I don't know exactly what your situation is but I am sure there is chaos there and a need to just escape...that is what the food unfortunately does for us. I wish I could say that I still do this to get me out of all my problems,but lately, I haven't. I have been doing it all wrong...feeling sad,eat...feeling lonely(I'm always am),eat...feeling pretty good, i deserve to eat!...feeling fat,try not to eat but it backfires everytime. So, I understand but I really don't have many answers. Everything is alway's harder then it seems, but maybe one day, there will be a time when life doesn't revolve around food. I have alway's loved eating food, but I started growing up and it became a monster instead. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Proverbs31:28 Posted April 25, 2008 Author Report Share Posted April 25, 2008 Well, whatever causes it, it is getting worse. I tried to make myself eat a few bites at dinner tonight and felt so disgusted by the taste and feel of food in my mouth. I started feeling like everything was sitting in my throat waiting to be thrown back up. So, I quit eating. Its better than dealing with whatever this crappy feeling is. I have an appointment with my psychiatrist on the 5th. Hopefully, he will have answers. Just don't know if I can go without eating that long? Guess I'll see. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jennifer Posted April 25, 2008 Report Share Posted April 25, 2008 I would very much like to know how that goes.I know that stress can make one not want to eat, it is a natural reaction to it,but the stress is the problem and talking about it should help. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
emily Posted October 13, 2021 Report Share Posted October 13, 2021 my parents wont take me serious on this topic and ive tried to google it and its just so stressful im having a mental breakdown because im so scared im gonna starve to death. everything i eat is just gross now and i gag trying to swallow something. i cant eat anymore i dont know what to do i dont wanna die Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted October 14, 2021 Report Share Posted October 14, 2021 Hi, emily, welcome! I'm sorry you're struggling with this serious issue and your parents aren't helpful at all. I would suggest consulting your doctor or finding a specialist on eating disorders. It is important for you to advocate for yourself and seek help, even though it's certainly very difficult. You can also find reliable ressources and give information about this issue to your parents to help them understand. It is possible to cure eating disorders, there are specialists available. The most difficult part is to seek and find help. Please don't give up. Your life can get so much better... Best of luck! Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted October 14, 2021 Report Share Posted October 14, 2021 If you are in the US, you can first call a helpline: https://www.nationaleatingdisorders.org/help-support/contact-helpline https://www.eatingdisorderhope.com/treatment-for-eating-disorders/get-help https://www.therecoveryvillage.com/mental-health/eating-disorders/related/eating-disorder-hotlines/ https://www.bulimia.com/topics/eating-disorder-hotline/ And I hope this kind of help is also available in many other countries... If there is such helpline for you, please call as soon as you can. Victimorthecrime 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted October 15, 2021 Report Share Posted October 15, 2021 @emily call your health insurance company and ask them to connect you to an eating disorder program in your area. If they don’t have any inquire about your out of network benefits and use those to go wherever you wish. Sadly due to the pandemic many programs are virtual only. However many individual therapists still see clients one on one. I work in behavioral health in a non-clinical capacity and this is what I do all day long. So if you would like more help or have any questions feel free to post them here. Here is another good resource: https://www.edreferral.com LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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