Jump to content
Mental Support Community

Just wondering


Recommended Posts

OK HI EVERYONE,

WELL IVE LOST MY VOICE COMPLETLY, WANT TO SPEAK, INFACT IM DESPERATE TO SPEAK, THE SILENCE OF NOT HAVING A VOICE IS WELL QUITE HONESTLY DOING MY HEAD IN.

ITS BEEN A WEEK NOW SINCE I WAS LAST ABLE TO MAKE A SOUND.

ALTHOUGH I AM CURRENTLY IN HOSPITAL (LONG STORY) AND HAVE DOCTORS AND NURSES AROUND, ITS VERY TIME CONSUMING TRYING TO HAVE A CONVERSATION WITH ANY OF THEM, ESPECIALY SINCE I HAVE TO WRITE EVERYTHING DOWN, AND THEY ARE VERY BUSY.

THEY HAVE ORGANISED A SPECIALIST TO COME AND SEE ME SOON,

THAT TAKES TIME RIGHT, SO I WAS WONDERING IF ANYBODY HAS ANY SUGGESTIONS OF ANYTHING THAT MAY/COULD HELP.

IM JUST DESPERATE TO BE ABLE TO SPEAK AGAIN, IT WOULD MAKE THINGS A HELL OF A LOT EASIER AS IM SURE YOU CAN IMAGINE.

THANKS

TAKE CARE

Jj

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Can you talk to yourself when you're alone? I've been known to do that.

Try making a non-verbal noise, like a "moo" or a squeak. Or a single word, like "aha" or a swear word.

You don't have to communicate information, at first, if you don't want to. But if you can make any noise at all, to start with, maybe you'll find it's not so bad ...

You could also augment this with writing to people. Because what's the difference whether you write it or say it? If you have (your own) permission to write certain things, you might be able to convince yourself to say them instead. Again, you don't have to give a speech. Just say the simple things you would have written down ...

And this is just something to try while you wait for someone who knows what they're talking about. ;-)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Jj,

We need to continue our Spanish lessons... and once your done there, we'll move to Portuguese!!! So, let's begin:

Buenos dias, me llamo Jj (boo-eh-nos de-ahs meh yamo Jj)

Y yo me llamo David

Yo tengo pelo rubio (yo tehngo peh loh roo-bee-oh) I have blonde hair.

Yo tengo pelo blanco (blah n co) (I have white hair--- well, actually peppered)

Repeat each sentence 10 times now. This is a continuation of the pms', so don't give up.

Hasta la vista baby,

David

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Well, geez David... have a keen view of the obvious. mscat asks the question that should have been raised before. I saw it as a sort of elective mutism of sorts (considering what you've been thru and are still experiencing), but if it's physical, all the Spanish in the world won't help you except to keep you smiling a bit longer.!!!

Link to comment
Share on other sites

i know at times a few people have tried to shut me up over the years (ok im old now, many years)....................................

however funny this may seem to others, seriously im not laughing.

it hurts so much being trapped in this way, its scarey , it frightens me so miuch. and i realy am having a harsh time being like this.

it is not a joke. ok, to me this is very, very real.

take care

Jj

Link to comment
Share on other sites

No one's laughing at you, either, Sue.

Not everyone knows what you've been through, so they don't know why you're not talking.

Seriously, even the Spanish might help. You can even make sounds that won't communicate anything, if you need to, at first. It depends a bit on why you're doing this to yourself, and I don't know the answer to that.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

hey there

guess im very over sensitive at the moment , not just today for a while realy. sorry guess my last response was rude.

i dont think that i am doing this to myself, its not like i just woke up one morning , bored and thought hey what can i do today.

coz its not like that, its not that i dont want to talk, its that i just cant. iwant to talk, need to talk, theres just no sound.

take care

sorry

Jj

Link to comment
Share on other sites

I wasn't saying you were doing it for a lark, JJ.

But no one else is there stopping you, is there?

I think it's for self-protection, like someone forgetting part of what happened; it's still there, but they can't get to it, right now.

We were just trying to suggest things that would help.

Quite possibly, especially in my case, we don't know what we're talking about. :-)

Link to comment
Share on other sites

no theres no one here stopping me from speaking so i guess you are right, it must be of my own doing. why would i possibly do that to mysellf, this is horrible.

how can i get my voice back when it was not a concious decision to loose it in the first place ?

its not like i wouldnt like to talk coz i would i open my mouth to speak , its just nothing comes out, not even the sound of the start of a word.

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Think of it like someone with amnesia. There may not be anything much you can do to attack it head-on. It's defensive, after all. It will only resist you if you're too forceful.

People with amnesia don't choose to forget, either. And they can't just remember if they try harder. But they usually do remember, eventually. Usually after some therapy that convinces them that it's safe to remember.

I was just trying to get you to try making some noise that wouldn't be speech, but that might convince you that you're safe to talk, now.

Edited by malign
Typo
Link to comment
Share on other sites

it dosnt feel that way.

i want to speak, talk,shout and scream.

i dont know. ive done some crazy shit to myself over the years, but that was years ago. this is now , nothing like this has ever happened to me before. its scareing me. if its me doing this to me, why dosnt me stop coz i must know im hurting me...right.?

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Well, my guess is that most people with amnesia are dying to remember, too. Forgetting causes all sorts of problems, but that doesn't make them "just tell themselves to remember".

My guess (and it's just a guess) is that somewhere inside, you fear that talking will hurt you even more than not-talking is doing ...

Link to comment
Share on other sites

Join the conversation

You can post now and register later. If you have an account, sign in now to post with your account.
Note: Your post will require moderator approval before it will be visible.

Guest
Reply to this topic...

×   Pasted as rich text.   Paste as plain text instead

  Only 75 emoji are allowed.

×   Your link has been automatically embedded.   Display as a link instead

×   Your previous content has been restored.   Clear editor

×   You cannot paste images directly. Upload or insert images from URL.

Loading...
 Share

×
×
  • Create New...