Why are you here?

[flander]

do you think she'd want to have sex if you expressed an interest?

I read somewhere recently that it's easier for a woman to have an orgasm if she's on top facing you. From what I can remember, that was the only way my ex could have an orgasm with me and it took a few years to find that out. I suppose it would be worth a shot for both of you to relearn what she likes after 5 years. This might have been the site, but you could still look into what they're referring to: <http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/best-sex-positions/the-best-sex-positions-to-make-a-woman-orgasm-quicker/>

if she's willing to try, that's a hell of a lot better than what many guys here have: no one

[IrmaJean]

I can see now why you couldn't understand my point about worrying about being your wifes best.

I understood what you were expressing, John. What I was hoping was for you to open up to thinking differently about this.

Sarah was shattered. For some reason she equated not being able have the kids 'naturally' as a huge defeat to her womanhood. She was in her eyes damaged goods. Our kids were perfect. She carried them for all that time' date=' I couldn't have cared less how they actually came out. But she was sure I was disappointed in her and thought so much less of her. It took months for me to bring her around. I was (still am) mystified as to why this was such a make or break point for her.[/quote']

Feeling that way about yourself is painful. This could be very important. I am hoping the two of you can open up to one another and reconsider talking to a professional about this.

Have you ever heard of sensate focus? It just popped into my mind so I returned to mention it. It might be helpful if both of you want to work with this. Take care

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Hi John,

Well isnt there alot of men here who blame themselves for having the size penis they have, they couldnt have any control over that. I think people can come to an understanding of anothers situation without necessarily having to go through the exact kind of expereince themselves.

Ok, I gotta think about that. I don't have to get raped to know it's a bad thing.

John

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do you think she'd want to have sex if you expressed an interest?I read somewhere recently that it's easier for a woman to have an orgasm if she's on top facing you. From what I can remember, that was the only way my ex could have an orgasm with me and it took a few years to find that out. I suppose it would be worth a shot for both of you to relearn what she likes after 5 years. This might have been the site, but you could still look into what they're referring to: <http://www.askdanandjennifer.com/sex-intimacy/best-sex-positions/the-best-sex-positions-to-make-a-woman-orgasm-quicker/>

if she's willing to try, that's a hell of a lot better than what many guys here have: no one

I really have no idea. If she still feels the same way, I could have sex tonight. It'd be under the same situation as before, me enjoying the hell out of myself, her with a look of sweet submission on her face.

BTW, we've tried that. She prefers missionary.

John

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I understood what you were expressing, John. What I was hoping was for you to open up to thinking differently about this.

Feeling that way about yourself is painful. This could be very important. I am hoping the two of you can open up to one another and reconsider talking to a professional about this.

Have you ever heard of sensate focus? It just popped into my mind so I returned to mention it. It might be helpful if both of you want to work with this. Take care

Don't have a clue, I'll look it up.

Thanks!

John

[Loneone]

Sorry, I have been out of town for a few days and just caught up. I did not mean that you are burdening anyone with your problems, John. That is what this board is for. I just always find good love gone sour sad to see. Irma Jean brings up a lot of good points, as she always does in her kind way. I really hope that you can resolve some of this before its too late, because it sounds like you really truly love her. And also, by the way, I don't find mediocrity to be a bad thing at all. I think the true heroes in this world are people who work everyday to raise their family right. I also find nothing shameful about not going to a strip club. I have never been either. I wanted to when I was younger, but I had children early. By the time I got older, my aunt who was a stripper died of an OD, my cousin nearly killed herself working the same job, and I had a friend that followed the same path. I just found it sad, and now, I can't help but think about what makes them choose that life. Please feel free to post as much as you want, we are all listening.