How not to feel bitter?

[Perseverance]

And what I was saying from the beginning in the last

Post. You need just one positive experience to build from. And all of these shitty thoughts can change. Make it happen.

[Cece.dedesl]

Time is too slow for those who wait, too swift for those who fear, too long for those who grieve, too short for those who rejoice, but for those who love, time is eternity.

Henry Van Dyke

[dvnJ22]

I accept being sad and lonely for the rest of my life, it isn't preferable and that's why eventually I will off myself. And I really don't think love exist. I think for the most part it's lie.

[Perseverance]

So you're going to off yourself based off of one aspect of life? One? Dude I don't feel sorry for you if you don't try. How old are you by the way? You know much it pisses me off that dudes want to off themselves because they're told by the media and a few cunty women that they're worthless. Porn and media have put that thought into womens heads bigger is better. It's not normal and it's something WE have to fight against. We can be good lovers too. You need to get the fuck off your ass and make some shit happen. People around the world have it far worse than we do. Wether it's not having any food, living in North Korea, or being in an abusive relationship or being neglected by your family. Dude I get down just like everyone else on this board. But giving up is a bunch of bullshit. I always said to myself if I fail at satisfying women sexually and could not hold a relationship. I'd quit my job and travel. Bike across the country. Accomplish goals. Hustle and live abroad. Fuck it. You can't kill yourself because your dick is small. It's a loss for all of us fighting this shitty hand we've been dealt. I want to add. My dick is 4.5 inches. May be an inch bigger than yours but my ex wanted to marry me. She loved me to death and I'm sure she still would have been with me if my dick was 3 inches. In fact I'm sure of it. I ruined the relationship. I became miserable and not fun to be around. She couldn't take me anymore. She was a wonderful girl. I fucked up. Those girls exist. She admitted her exes were bigger. But she wanted to marry me. Fuck man. Get your shit together. Get out and move around. Get in the gym, start running. Go to Starbucks and read a book have some tea and maybe talk to a girl. If anything ever comes up sexually be honest with the person. "This is what I have to offer in that department." If they have a problem with it move on. Fuck em'. No perfect woman is just going to show up knocking on your door. Nothing worth having is easy. I told you before all you need is that one moment to turn everything around. Fight and go get it. Coming on this board and just straight up bitching is going to do nothing to change your life. We are here to support each other. People have helped me out if anything I can just vent to get out my shitty thoughts or frustrations. All you have to do is change your attitude and your life will change. If you think there isn't one woman in the world you can share your life with you're an idiot. I'm sorry but there are billions of people on this planet. Get up do some squats eat a bowl of oatmeal and seize the fucking day.

[Wastedlife]

Love does exist but its just basically impossible to find for someone with 3 inch penis.

[Perseverance]

Yea you're right. No man in the history of the world has ever fell in love with a woman and had a happy marriage with a 3 inch penis. It's never happened before. Considering most reliable science says women mainly feel the first 3 inches anyways and that the most stimulation come from clitoral stimulation. Do we have a harder hill to climb? Yea we do. The sight of a big penis is impressive. Hell I'm impressed. I believe I can satisfy a woman. To the extent of a guy with a bigger dick. Not so sure. That's why I'm here. The only thing I can't do is "fill up" a girls vagina. That's it! I can literally do anything else. I'm really not interested in length. It doesn't really hold up against girth. That's my only flaw. And it's a flaw I see in myself. My girlfriend might see it a completely different way. If I have to introduce toys at some point to save my relationship well then fuck it. I was so against it just a few months ago. I doubt it would come to it but if it did I'd be down for it. The end game is pleasing your woman. How it happens really doesn't matter. Just as long as it doesn't result in her fucking another guy. Most normal girls I'm sure would be thrilled with someone being so open. I have my demons but this defeatist attitude has to stop. I've read numerous comments on threads where chicks bust on guys for little dicks and just as many who don't care. They have the eat my pussy stimulate my clit attitude where penetration is more for him anyways. Regardless of dick size. Killing yourself ? Really? You have no fight or hope in you. It's insane. I bet most women would tell you even worse that it would be stupid to do. I really think most women think its a joke because they really have no clue how bad this really hurts. It's devastating beyond words in any language to describe how earth shattering it is to feel rejected or made fun of due to penis size. Most people are followers and do things without even thinking. This is no different. Fuck man this topic has pissed me off

[malign]

So if love doesn't exist why are any of you trying to support each other on a billboard?

Love includes caring for anyone, in any way. It probably includes caring for pets. It's a concept that's entirely penis-free.

I realize that most of you are using "love" as shorthand to mean your own particular version of a meaningful sexual relationship, but I did feel it useful to put that into its proper perspective. There are lots of ways to love.

[Perseverance]

I've spent the day scouring the Internet for evidence to support my case. I found plenty of comments and articles with women saying it doesn't matter. Even your three incher. The girls are out there. It's pretty clear some chicks love big cocks and some don't care just as long as its not too small. Then there's women who straight up don't give a shit. Who are willing to make it work just as long as the guy fun to be around and interesting. I'm really worked up about this self fulfilling prophecy society has bestowed upon us. Small dick? Kill yourself. It's insane. I'm going to say right now this post has helped me out. We have to own our bodies and make it work. You know I used to play online shooters. Sometimes I'd run out of ammo and I'd be left with a knife. And I have the fucking flag? How the fuck am I making it back to base. Well I improvised. Most of the time I'd die but once and a while I'd score. If you're not using every possible way to improve yourself and give yourself any kind of appealing advantage your only fucking yourself over. I'm growing a lot from being on here and just trying overall to better my life. The more I spend time with my girlfriend the more I learn the kind of person she is. She's with me still. She loves me and probably my penis too. We all need to stand together on this. Knock down the penis jokes and support other men in our own circle even outside if necessary. Im all in on this. I'm going to be dead sooner than later and I'm riding out this body for the deteriorating piece of meat it is. You're dead either way. Why the fuck quit?

[dvnJ22]

some don't care just as long as its not too small.

that's my whole point. I don't think that all girls want one really big, but they dont want really small one either.0.5% to 0.7% have my size ( according to what chart you use). i have the development of a 12 year old boy, i am not joking or exaggerating. What went wrong during puberty i dont have a clue, everything else went ok. Somtimes I wish i did have some sort of hormone disorder because it would at least explain my problem.

i am going to take your advice, but i have a child's penis what use is that to normally developed human? I can't honestly say with 100% certainty, but I can say what is probable....

[Perseverance]

My advice isn't a month or a years goal. It's a lifetime. You have to change your entire attitude. Maybe something did go wrong during puberty. Can you get hard and ejaculate? If you can then youre good. Go can make babies and be a good husband. If that's what you want. You can find a girl. I truely believe that. Girls nowadays I think are little fucked up from the web tv media etc but not all of them. Look in places where you wouldn't expect to meet a bunch of cunts. Because there is plenty of them just like douchebag men. No clubs bars. Pick a hobby. Get passionate about something and you can probably meet a good chick. Dude. Suicide. Cut that shit out. Dig down deep and figure this shit out. Stop letting people walk all over you. I'm done with it myself. The world doesn't stop spinning sure as hell ain't going to stop for any of us.

[Perseverance]

Yesterday and today I googled "small penis shaming" and I found some good pages maybe three about the topic. The comments were revealing. Plenty of women on there gave responses from "I prefer big but would never turn away a small guy" to "penis size does not matter to me at all big medium small" discussing in depth the problem with both men and women shaming each others bodies.

Some girls mentioned how much more enjoyable it was go blow a small penis and the same comment say how they loved oral above anything. That's a win for all of us in my opinion. You think that's the only girl in the world that feels that way. Then I've seen comments where women are turned off by a guys shitty attitude even though he's above average in size. There was a healthy dose of positivity towards every spectrum of light. Which was very nice to read. But the shaming put on men is a problem. The comments from women being surprised they enjoyed sex with a small man was like "what!?" You were SUPRISED? Well of course you were. You've been told bigger is better all your life and us small men get laughed. It's not as cut and dry as we think. There are women out there who will love you and your body. Women generally decide on many other important factors before you even sleep with them. By the time a true bond is formed a better chance they won't care will be there. Frustration sure. It's hard work sometimes if you are actively looking for a girl. When I was single I was looking and they all failed. Once I chilled out and started just doing my thing I stumbled upon my GF. It was different than when I was just putting myself out there trying to find a GF. Here's another thing I just thought of. When I ran into my ex who did porn she was asking how I was. I said I was fine and that I was single she was like "if you want I would set you up with some of my freinds." I declined the offer but maybe it says something about my ability or maybe just the fact she knows I'm fun to be around. Of having a small dick was the worst thing in the world that would be pretty fucked up to do to one of her freinds. Just a thought. DvnJ22 I hope you can come up with a game plan to set yourself up like I said before. Better yourself the best you can and see what happens. You have to try. Like I said before pussy is way to good and at the worst at least you can "get yours" for a brief time until you find a girl that works for you.

[Cece.dedesl]

I accept being sad and lonely for the rest of my life, it isn't preferable and that's why eventually I will off myself. And I really don't think love exist. I think for the most part it's lie.

Love exists, it's just easier to find when you learn to love yourself.

[dvnJ22]

i dont even know what it means to love oneself. it's a very foreign concept. cant really commit suicide anyway, paranoid somthing would go wrong. i might have as well try it, never done it before. going to see a therpist today also.

[malign]

I hope you mean, "might as well try" loving yourself? What you said is kind of open to interpretation ...

Is there anyone in your life that you love, dvn? Parent, pet, teacher, anyone? Because loving yourself is somewhat like that, only, inward.

Some of the things people feel about a loved one are: a desire to protect them and comfort them when they hurt, an appreciation for their value as an individual, and a willingness to help them grow. Those are all things that a person can feel for themselves, as well.

[dvnJ22]

that's what i meant, i just never treid it before. so why not?

[Habitually Self Loathing]

Hey I'm new here, I just wanted to express my feelings regarding misery and hostility. I hate myself for having such a tiny penis. I hate women for craving such enormous cocks, which I will never have.

[Victimorthecrime]

Hey Hab, welcome & feel free to express, it helps. I am on the small side too & have other troubles along with it & have not had a relationship in a long time & it's sad. But let me say this - studies have shown women favor a slightly above average penis in the 7" range but that girth matters more than length & strong long lasting erections w good technique really seal the deal. Many enormous guys have trouble getting hard, these porn guys gobble Viagra & Cealis. So the small point this: there is hope for small to average size guys, despite what Internet trolls type. I personally believe it is masculinity that attracts women and that is based on everything I have seen.

Lastly, life is short my friend & there are other things to enjoy so have at it. I love running, working out, Phish, beer, comedy, Internet, getting things done & having success in other areas of life career & home, etc.

[Habitually Self Loathing]

Thanks for the feedback victim. I still feel very depressed though. All I feel is pain. I am no longer going to log on this website anymore. I believe that my depression is getting worse just from looking at all the posts. God, people are.stuck in a perpetual state of misery. I'm sorry but I don't think this website is helping me because their is no solution here. People seem to be stuck in the problem. We are all normal. I am blessed to have a penis I can use for my own satisfaction. I have no expectations, and if other people do that's their problem. I was not put on this earth to please other people. I was not put on this earth to constantly seek validation from others. I am no less and no better than any other man. All men are susceptible to death in the end. I'm am grateful I have a penis. Don't believe everything you hear or read on the internet. Im grateful I don't have a microscopic penis . I am grateful I can get an erection and insert it into a vagina without any problems. I am grateful for have the ability to reproduce. Keep it simple everyone, there are millions of women out there. Please enjoy sex, use your penis. Lifes not that bad.

[Victimorthecrime]

Well said Hab. I hope you can find your way out of depression. I agree w everything you wrote above & on some other posts. All any of us can do is to try to enjoy life as much as possible. We can't change the world. I think this site helps by showing people that others feel the same way.

[EricDavis2]

I fully understand the despair, shame, embarrassment, and self-loathing guy with a small penis feel on a daily basis. It's a pain that few people can really understand.

I am as guilty as the next guy on this site for feeling that life with a small dick is hopeless. I've spent my whole life beating myself up over this. Hell, I'm 58 goddamn years old, have only had 3 girlfriends, and only had sex with one of them. There's not much more pathetic an existence as that. I'm ashamed to be with other friends that all have either a wife or a girlfriend. I see couples walking down the street hand-in-hand in love and being angry that it's them and not me.

But I think maybe a light has finally gone off in my head. This mental beating I've been giving myself has got to stop. No one but me can really do something about it. Posters on this site are well-meaning, caring, sincere individuals that try to help. Counselors, therapists, and psychologists can only do so much. I've gotta stop feeling sorry for myself! It sure as hell hasn't done me any good all these years, has it?

I'm at a crossroads. As painful and difficult as the road ahead will be, it can't POSSIBLY be worse than the pain I've inflicted on myself. I better change my attitude RIGHT FUCKING NOW. They say that an alcoholic has to hit rock bottom before he can get help. Well, I've been at rock bottom on the scale of intimacy for a long, long, LONG time. I'm gonna change .... I've GOT to change. I've backed myself into a corner; I've told myself that I'm worthless; that nobody wants me; that I'm no good to anyone....

Well, that's BULLSHIT!!!!! I'm a really good person - I've actually known that deep down before. I deserve happiness. I deserve to be loved. I deserve to have sex. I want it all and I'm sick and tired of telling myself I can't have it. It's about time I went after it. If the broad wasn't expecting a guy with a small dick like I have, then too fucking bad ... I'm in bed with you NOW, bitch!!!! If she's not into me, that's fine. She can dump me and I'll go after someone else.

Here's a true fact: today is my birthday, July 8th. But guess what, it's my independance day too, my friends. I'm done cowering in a corner, afraid to dance 'cause I'm overweight; afraid to fuck because I have a small dick. No more. I know I'm not for everybody, but there's got a be SOME woman out there that wants a fun-loving, caring, considerate, great guy with a good sense of humor willing to do whatever it takes to please a woman. You want me to eat you, finger you, lick you, penetrate you with a dildo, I don't give a shit. I'll do it. And while I'm at it, give my little friend down below some attention too!!!

[dvnJ22]

I'm happy for you Eric.

[Victimorthecrime]

Happy B-Day Eric. Good stuff for sure, I can totally relate. A lot of people know how you feel & are going thru similar experiences. I can tell you this too, not every guy who has a wife is happy. Some would much prefer to be single again. It all depends on the circumstances.

That said, a relationship is certainly desireable and I wish you well in finding one. A lot of it in my opinion comes down to time, energy and money.

Stay positive, it is the best way to live.