WhydoIhavetobethisway Posted February 1, 2014 Report Share Posted February 1, 2014 I am a Virtuous Pedophile. Never have offended but I really want to die. I am 26 years old and had these feeling sense I was a kid. I like boys 11 to 14. I just wish I could be normal. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dvnJ22 Posted February 1, 2014 Report Share Posted February 1, 2014 You've never offended though. Don't be so hard on yourself LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Musicman Posted February 2, 2014 Report Share Posted February 2, 2014 I am also a virtuous pedophile. I imagine that because you used that specific term, you're a member of VirPed? I am.You've never hurt anyone, and you should feel proud of that. Why do you want to die so badly? LaLa 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhydoIhavetobethisway Posted February 2, 2014 Author Report Share Posted February 2, 2014 I am also a virtuous pedophile. I imagine that because you used that specific term, you're a member of VirPed? I am.You've never hurt anyone, and you should feel proud of that. Why do you want to die so badly?Yes I am a member of VirPed.Mainly because I have no reason to live and most people think all pedophiles are bad or will offend sooner or later. I don't want to live a lie anymore. No I do not want to offend but I want to be able to have boys as friends. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Musicman Posted February 2, 2014 Report Share Posted February 2, 2014 Listen to what you're saying, though. You don't want to live because people are largely misinformed and ignorant about what pedophilia is and isn't, and you're (currently) not able to be close to any kids. I know that this will not be a popular opinion here, but honestly, pedophilia does not mean that you can never be close with any kids. It depends on the individual and how in control of his desires he is. I wouldn't simply recommend that you just go out and meet some kids, but there are some of us that can handle those sorts of situations (personally, I don't know if I can or can't, so I'm playing it safe until I know myself better). Many of us even have our own children who we don't abuse. I believe that both Nick and Ethan of VirPed have grown children now. Once again, some can handle it and some can't. Does this really make you want to die? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Musicman Posted February 5, 2014 Report Share Posted February 5, 2014 Senior penor, aside from the fact that I take major offense to your post, it's riddled with inaccuracies disguised as facts. According to the DSM, a person never needs to engage or attempt to engage in sexual activity with a child. A person doesn't need to have ever watched child pornography to be considered a pedophile. Pedophilia refers to an intense sexual attraction to prepubescent children. Nothing more and nothing less. You're equating attraction and thoughts to action. Since when are they synonymous? Furthermore, my understanding is that statistically speaking, the overwhelming majority of pedophiles never hurt children. And not just that, but the overwhelming majority of people who sexually abuse children are not pedophiles according to the clinical definition, but situational offenders. They may molest children because they get a thrill out of the taboo aspect. They may do it because children are simply easy targets. There are any number of reasons a person may sexually abuse a child. However, if an individual is not equally or more attracted to children than he is adults, he is not a pedophile.I implore that you refrain from making these "common sense" claims when they couldn't be further from the truth. All it serves to do is stigmatize and demonize a class of people who did not choose and cannot control who they are attracted to. You seem to feel that a person who is sexually attracted to children is incapable of maintaining morals, but it's baseless. Most men are straight. Some men rape women. Are you, therefore, going to make the claim that no straight men can be trusted? That they're all animals waiting to claim their next victims? What about guys who are virgins?For what it's worth, the OP is clearly not suffering with POCD. An individual suffering with POCD related to pedophilia is not sexually attracted to children. Rather, he constantly questions himself as to whether he's attracted to children, and oftentimes, will try to "test" his level of sexual arousal towards children by thinking of children or viewing images while masturbating. It's a disorder largely made up of what-if questions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jman Posted February 13, 2014 Report Share Posted February 13, 2014 What's this VirPed website ? (I'm new here aswell so hello everyone) and I am also a (at least I think but hope not pedofile in question). I know about OCD and how it can make people believe that they are pedofiles but I am not sure where I stand because I am OCD about other things but I'm also sure that I'm attracted to young boys while never wanting to act on or harm a child in any way, as you know where you stand, any help and/or advice ? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LaLa Posted February 13, 2014 Report Share Posted February 13, 2014 Jman, it's true; OCD can cause a lot of confusion also about your sexuality, so before "labelling" yourself, it's necessary to deal successfully with the OCD. Have you considered professional help? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Musicman Posted February 13, 2014 Report Share Posted February 13, 2014 What's this VirPed website ? (I'm new here aswell so hello everyone) and I am also a (at least I think but hope not pedofile in question). I know about OCD and how it can make people believe that they are pedofiles but I am not sure where I stand because I am OCD about other things but I'm also sure that I'm attracted to young boys while never wanting to act on or harm a child in any way, as you know where you stand, any help and/or advice ?It is true that POCD can cause one to repeatedly question himself as to whether he's a pedophile or not. However, from what I've seen, most people who suffer with POCD related to pedophilia will insist that they're not actually attracted to children. The fact that you say that you know you're attracted to children makes me wonder if this is more than POCD.Here's the VirPed link. If you think the place is right for you, send them an email. Also, I invite you to chat with me here if you want. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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