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Around what size does it really become an issue in a relationship?


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I know every girl/women has a different opinion, and this question is probably best to ask to females anyway. But, I would like to know what you guys think from your experience. I'm 20, and have never been in a relationship, and I'm pretty much avoiding it at this point.

Also, how do you cope with your size? I'm really insecure and depressed because of mine. Any advice/feedback is much appreciated.

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Every girl is different so it's impossible to say. Girth is more important than length. But anything 4x4 and higher should be fine with most girls. Under that and some girls may not find it the best, but that's where it comes in handy to be good with your mouth and fingers (my nickname is fastest fingers in the west, no joke)

As for how I cope, I openly joke about it with friends. And most times before bangin a chick I subtly let them know that I'm not packing much.

Of course on the inside I'm still depressed, but it helps (though it doesn't help that all my close friends are above average size)

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Every girl is different so it's impossible to say. Girth is more important than length. But anything 4x4 and higher should be fine with most girls. Under that and some girls may not find it the best, but that's where it comes in handy to be good with your mouth and fingers (my nickname is fastest fingers in the west, no joke)

As for how I cope, I openly joke about it with friends. And most times before bangin a chick I subtly let them know that I'm not packing much.

Of course on the inside I'm still depressed, but it helps (though it doesn't help that all my close friends are above average size)

i've been here long enough to know that most guys here would disagree with those figures.

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of course.. those figures are way off…

a v large survey showed 16% of women unhappy with their partners size

and thats exactly the % of guys who are small- what a surprise.

NBP white average erect is 5.5 x 5 with ranges (5-6) x (4.7-5.3) (this gives the 68% in the middle)

so any guy less than 5L or less than 4.7W is too small.

4x4 is volume wise much less than 5x4.7.

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of course.. those figures are way off…

a v large survey showed 16% of women unhappy with their partners size

and thats exactly the % of guys who are small- what a surprise.

NBP white average erect is 5.5 x 5 with ranges (5-6) x (4.7-5.3) (this gives the 68% in the middle)

so any guy less than 5L or less than 4.7W is too small.

4x4 is volume wise much less than 5x4.7.

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Sorry, still trying to figure out how to reply to other posts directly. But I agree Jessie, those numbers seem about right. My problem is, although I fall into the average statistically, it seems most women want something 6-7 inches. I do realise in the long run, plenty of women fall for guys who do not meet their preferences. But just that reality of never being the "ideal size" or even a good size, is really depressing.

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Sorry, still trying to figure out how to reply to other posts directly. But I agree Jessie, those numbers seem about right. My problem is, although I fall into the average statistically, it seems most women want something 6-7 inches. I do realise in the long run, plenty of women fall for guys who do not meet their preferences. But just that reality of never being the "ideal size" or even a good size, is really depressing.

You shouldn't pay to much attention to what you think most women want, but rather on what you think you can offer to a girl. Confidence is a major turn on I believe. If you're an average guy you really don't have much to worry about. Sure some girls will think that you're small, but other girls will think that you're big. It's just a matter of perspective and experience.

Are there other things, except the size of your penis, that make you insecure around women?

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I agree with what Skynight says, but I also want to add that, no matter who you are or what body type, some women will find a way to put you down. There's a whole bunch of men on penis enlargement sites with perfectly normal or even BIG penises that have SPS and I've observed enough insecure women in real life to know that often they will use your own insecurities against you, in order to feel "more than you" or better about their own weight, appearance or whatever else.

This is a not a hating woman thing, it's just human nature. Men are just as bad. Point being, obviously it's harder the smaller you are - in many ways, but people are going to mess with you whether you like it or not, prepare for the worst but hope for the best, I would say.

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I openly joke about it with friends. And most times before bangin a chick I subtly let them know that I'm not packing much.

We're all different, and maybe that helps you, but I believe that if you're at least average in size, the best thing is to act as if you have no idea whether anyone in the world is larger or smaller than you. So, don't event hint to a woman that you're not packing what you think she "really" wants. When it is time for sex, just go for it. Be attentive to her, enjoy foreplay, and then give her your average bratwurst. I have done this to women who have been with big kielbasa before, and they preferred sex with me.

All the fear and depression I had is put to rest. Wish I woke up to this reality much earlier in my life.

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I agree. There are some people (such as the guy alluded to in my earlier post above) who are insecure even though they are actually well above average size! And I think this insecurity communicates itself to women in all sorts of subtle ways - even if it remains unspoken.

And let's be honest: there are probably some guys in the world who are simply rubbish in bed - and would be even if they had a porn-sized penis! There are some guys who are always going to be more or less unattractive to women for a whole variety of reasons. Penis size is always only one part of the equation, in my opinion.

I agree. IMHO, the unspoken assumption being that you possess enough arrogance to pretend as though you aren't insecure regardless of reality. Got a small dick, no problem, ACT like you don't. Got a wart on your face, no problem, ACT like you don't. Do your fingernails slough off when you eat boiled eggs, no problem, ACT like you don't. Does your face make people wonder if your mother was raped by a pug? No problem, ACT like she wasn't. Are you a conceited, arrogant asshole who has never had to deal with anything more stressful than sidestepping a pile of dog shit on the sidewalk on your way to the polo field? Great! Be yourself!

If you cannot play the GAME that is sexual dynamics, that is, if you are unable to LIE about what you have to offer and don't have the ability ponce around and pretend you are "all that and much, much more" because you have a pretty face and wear Abercrombie, well then you're just this:

Organ grinder

an effeminate and sexually repulsive white male seen publicly with a simian Indian gf. Nearly all organ grinders have an ambiguous eunuch-like appearance which has caused them to continuously fail in social competition for a beautiful or sexy girl... until one day they accept their limitations and an aboriginal East Indian gf.

These guys are commonly very weak-willed and have yet to outgrow the "mama's boy" stage. Thus, their need to be cared for by a female is sostrong that they will mate with an anthropoidwoman because it means having someone to cling onto.

I wish I had said something about Steve's lowself-esteem issues earlier on because that could have prevented him from becoming an organ grinder by settling for Priya.

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You shouldn't pay to much attention to what you think most women want, but rather on what you think you can offer to a girl. Confidence is a major turn on I believe. If you're an average guy you really don't have much to worry about. Sure some girls will think that you're small, but other girls will think that you're big. It's just a matter of perspective and experience.

Are there other things, except the size of your penis, that make you insecure around women?

Actually, That's really my only insecurity. I don't have a problem around women, I mean I'm no silver tongue devil, but I don't have a problem having a conversation. It's just getting intimate where I fold like a tent.

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I know every girl/women has a different opinion, and this question is probably best to ask to females anyway. But, I would like to know what you guys think from your experience. I'm 20, and have never been in a relationship, and I'm pretty much avoiding it at this point.

Also, how do you cope with your size? I'm really insecure and depressed because of mine. Any advice/feedback is much appreciated.

I'm 4.75 x 4.75 and I get by. I've come to the conclusion I have a mental problem. I have never had a problem getting pussy but I obsess over trying to be a girls number one lay. Being this size is probably always going to suck but what I've put myself through over the years is literally killing me.

Dude, don't avoid relationships. Be up front and own what you have. That's your only shot. Obviously you have to be smart where you meet girls but really thats for you to learn. Chances are if you're actually small you're prob going to have to deal with some shitty experiences, but through my experiences there are actually good women out there.

This shit just gets old. I'm never going to be 'happy' with what I have but im caring less and less. I'm to the point where i'm about to tell my GF if she ever feels like shes missing something to go bang another guy. I really dont care, im tired of feeing guilty. If she doesnt ever want to take my offer then fine. We have a good relationship, we do everything together and have a lot of fun.

Society sucks too, theres not a whole lot you can do to change it. Just try and surround yourself with good people.

Personally i'm worn out and I don't know how you guys still do it.

My advice... Try and enjoy what you have the best you can, don't suppress your urges, smoke a bowl and chill the fuck out. In fact, meet a girl who does smoke weed or even is into lsd. These people are less likely to be shitty people and are more accepting...

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My advice... Try and enjoy what you have the best you can, don't suppress your urges, smoke a bowl and chill the fuck out. In fact, meet a girl who does smoke weed or even is into lsd. These people are less likely to be shitty people and are more accepting...

i really don't wanna make you feel unwelcome after your long absence,but this is just really bad advice bro.

what's wrong with suppressing urges,if one must?

and smoking weed? really?

finding a chick who smokes weed? or lsd? are you on crack,lol?

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i really don't wanna make you feel unwelcome after your long absence,but this is just really bad advice bro.

what's wrong with suppressing urges,if one must?

and smoking weed? really?

finding a chick who smokes weed? or lsd? are you on crack,lol?

I think he means find a woman that is easy going, open minded and not too judgemental. Well that's my intepretation, anyway.

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