Sweetmom2 Posted March 21, 2010 Report Share Posted March 21, 2010 By myself im cool relaxed and peacefull. Working with my husband and disciplining my 4yr old. Im so frustrated with peoples opinions my opinions my husb opinions. I dnt know if hes avoidant/adhd/odd/just testing hes boundries and asking for it. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetmom2 Posted March 21, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 21, 2010 I tend to make ppl around me angry. I get tired of people. I hate visiting with my kids.its really hard, both emotionally and mentally. After yesterday and today i feel like giving up on my social life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetmom2 Posted March 22, 2010 Author Report Share Posted March 22, 2010 Today was nice. I was in control. I blew only once,when my daughter almost broke my glasses. Even my husb and i handled our conflict well. Naughty chair and tickling helped to discipline our adhd son. Im highly anxious at the moment, wednesday i turn 30! Im not young any more. Im not afraid of death, i see it as a adventure waiting for me. Just the fact that im getting closer is in my head and that makes me anxious. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted March 22, 2010 Report Share Posted March 22, 2010 I'm 48, and I'm still young! :-)It's a number, Mom. It means precisely as much as any other number. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted March 22, 2010 Report Share Posted March 22, 2010 For me, I think of it as being more aware of my age. But being aware of it doesn't have to be a bad thing. It can be a very positive thing as well. I appreciate everything that much more now whereas in the past, I didn't take much notice. Things are more meaningful and more valuable now.Being a mom is a huge challenge, I agree. Try and give yourself a break. Sometimes moms get irritable too. Do you have quiet time to yourself?As much as you might want to pull your hair out sometimes these are precious moments, Sweetmom2. Soon the day will come when your children refer to you as "dude." Sigh. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David O Posted March 22, 2010 Report Share Posted March 22, 2010 Hi Sweetmom,Sounds like much of your day is filled with frustration and anger. In working with parents who have children with ADHD, one thing I've noticed is that the children often also have ODD as a result (not just based on neurobiology and temperament) of the parent being so worn down that there develops an inconsistent parenting style. Parents begin to switch from authoritative to authoritarian, until they get fed up and then just wash their hands of it all and now they're laise faire and eventually almost neglectful (not suggesting you're doing this of course). It then becomes too much and they begin to yell and become authoritarian and the cycle begins again. ADHD is hard to manage at home, but we design specific behavioral management programs for parents that result in nearly an 80-90% reduction in disruptive behavior from their child--- and now everyone sleeps well most of the time. My suggestion is to read the ADD/ADHD Behavior Change Resource Kit-- it's a thick read, but filled with practical advice and recommendations. Secondly, if there is a place you can go to in town or even getting the DVD's from your library, begin to learn progressive relaxation techniques, Yoga, stress reduction and anything else that will teach you how to be calmer when your triggers are pushed. Finally, taking a college course on cooking, learning to speak French, Italian, Russian, etc., or even an art or pottery class can be extremely therapeutic and healing. It may save your relationship with your spouse and child by turning it around, it it may save your sanity.Finally, a fairly easy read and practical book that your local library or even Amazon's used book store may carry, is: Anger Management For Dummies, Good luck and I hope this helps,David Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetmom2 Posted May 9, 2010 Author Report Share Posted May 9, 2010 I blow up when im tired or worn down, when frustrations are swimming in my head and someone just triggers me to snap. Im trying to get advice for all my frustrations here cuz im to shy and non trusting. Ive read many articles on adhd and im playing squash, exercising, taking long drives, sharing to my son that im tired and angry now. Its working bt the frustrations is always there. 1. My parents. I cant talk to them about this stuff cuz my dad has bipolar or chemical depression and my mom gets paranoid,antisosial anxious and has ptsd. 2. My m.i.l who is critical over me and my son. Shes saying that he is abnormal in pottytraining and his behavior. 3. Financial stress cuz im paying bills and groceries and my husb is paying the house for 5 more years 4.my son has adhd 5. Sex isnt nice anymore and even after lubrication it still sore after and so i must c a docter and its making me anxious 6. I dnt have time to go to a psyc cuz who will look after my kids while i go to a town where there is one and im living in a small community and i dnt want ppl or family to know about my problems. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Sweetmom2 Posted May 10, 2010 Author Report Share Posted May 10, 2010 There is a pastor, really nice. Im afraid that after i told him this, it could lead to action and that everytime he'll c me he will think of me differently and i dnt even know how to start! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Lindamomof7 Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Sweetmom, at some point we have to trust someone especially if we need help. We are who we are... and we are even a better person for asking and seeking help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mscat Posted May 11, 2010 Report Share Posted May 11, 2010 Hi there, Trying to deal with everything that you have to deal with has to be very frustrating . Can you get some time for yourself ? MOmmytime ? Just for you where you can unwind and relax? My son was ADHD when little , and he was a handful , I understand how difficult this must be for you . ADHD kids do grow out of a lot of the behaviors though, so their is hope. Hang in there sweetmom , you are a very strong , and I think it is ok to get mad when you are angry. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetmom2 Posted May 14, 2010 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2010 My time is at work. If i go somewhere the kids go with. Theres too much drama if they stay with other ppl and its just not the same. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Sweetmom2 Posted May 14, 2010 Author Report Share Posted May 14, 2010 Of course choclates always does the trick ;-) Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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