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When I look at my Dad, I don't see an 82 year old man. I just see my Dad. He should be invincible and immortal - well to me anyway, I couldn't bear to lose him.

He had hip replacement today and is now critically ill on a ventilator in Intensive Care. The family were all called in, my brother is coming home from Japan and 2 others are on their way from England.

If you still have your Dad or Mam and they are precious to you, phone them, call to them, they won't be there for ever.

Goose

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Hey Goose,

Im sorry to hear that your Dad is so very poorly right now. My heart goes out to you and your family, I truely hope that he recovers from his opperation.

You must be going through all types of pain and worry right now, and just wanted to say that well we are here for you and that we do care.

take care

sue

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Hi goose,

Im sorry your dads ill, it must be really hard for you ,

Recently my dad showed me where all the paper work for insurance etc was for when my parents die, until then i had thought of my parents as immortal too and it gave me a bit of a jolt and it made me stop and think, i cant imagine what you must be going through.

I hope your family can help you get through this, and your dad too.

All the best, Donna.

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  • 1 month later...

Well my Dad has come a long way since ICU. 7 weeks on he is still in hospital, had multiple strokes after his hip operation.

Has regained his speech and the power in his right arm, still cannot eat or drink - his swallow is not working.

He is on an ordinary ward now, we have been told that he will never come home ( he doesn't know that yet) - we make sure he has a visitor everyday, twice a day - even so he never wants us to leave him, he cries when we do ( so not like him).

Many of his older grandchildren have been in to see him, this cheered him up considerably. It is very difficult to get used to seeing him this way as he was so independent a short few weeks ago.

Goose

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  • 1 month later...

Thank you for your concern.

The update on my Dad is, that he is quite stable. He is on 24 hour oxygen, and is being partly fed through a tube in his stomach.

He is getting less and less confused so can now carry out a conversation.

He is awaiting transfer to a specialist rehab unit for stroke victims for intensive therapy.

The outlook is not as bleak as it was previously.

Goose

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Hi Goose. My grandmother was 94 when she had a stroke that prevented her from talking and within months she had recuperated enough to speak again, walk again and function again. She always had a bit of a hard time finding her words after that, but there is hope for recovery. It just takes more time at that age, the body is weaker.

How is his morale? How is he dealing with this?

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Well I am pleased to say the my Dad is doing very well at the moment. He has been transferred to the Specialist Stroke Unit this week , he seems quite settled there. It is situated within a large national park, so it is very likely that he will wake up to see deer looking in the window at him.

Despite his best efforts to hide the fact that it was his 83rd birthday yesterday, the nurses and other patients presented him with a cake last night. I think he was secretly pleased.

There is still some debate within the family whether we can care for him at home, my brother who lives with him is prepared to be a fulltime carer for him - with some input from the rest of us. Whereas my youngest brother feels that this is unrealistic - we will wait and see.

We hope that they can get him walking, his swallow has improved and the power in his right arm is not too bad.

All in all a great improvement on 5 months ago.

Goose

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My Dad has recovered so well that he will be going home soon. He is very frail but is a very determined man, he will have a trial overnight stay at home tomorrow night.

My brother will be his full time carer and the rest of us will help out whenever we can. It has been 8 months since he went into hospital and it is great to see him coming home now. We are under no illusion that he is prone to infection and falls - so we will take each day as it comes.:)

Goose

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No other way to take 'em, really. You can't buy in bulk. :-)

But I bet it makes him feel better about the future, to be as self-sufficient as he can be. And isn't that the point: to make his remaining time as happy as possible?

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