goose Posted November 14, 2009 Report Share Posted November 14, 2009 When I look at my Dad, I don't see an 82 year old man. I just see my Dad. He should be invincible and immortal - well to me anyway, I couldn't bear to lose him.He had hip replacement today and is now critically ill on a ventilator in Intensive Care. The family were all called in, my brother is coming home from Japan and 2 others are on their way from England.If you still have your Dad or Mam and they are precious to you, phone them, call to them, they won't be there for ever.Goose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetSue Posted November 14, 2009 Report Share Posted November 14, 2009 Hey Goose,Im sorry to hear that your Dad is so very poorly right now. My heart goes out to you and your family, I truely hope that he recovers from his opperation.You must be going through all types of pain and worry right now, and just wanted to say that well we are here for you and that we do care.take caresue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Donna Posted November 14, 2009 Report Share Posted November 14, 2009 Hi goose,Im sorry your dads ill, it must be really hard for you , Recently my dad showed me where all the paper work for insurance etc was for when my parents die, until then i had thought of my parents as immortal too and it gave me a bit of a jolt and it made me stop and think, i cant imagine what you must be going through.I hope your family can help you get through this, and your dad too.All the best, Donna. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted November 14, 2009 Report Share Posted November 14, 2009 Goose, I'm so sorry to hear that your father's health is not good at this time. Having family with you will hopefully offer you some comfort and support during this difficult time. Take care.Beth Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goose Posted November 15, 2009 Author Report Share Posted November 15, 2009 Thank you for all your kind comments. My Dad is still unconscious and on a ventalator in ICU. However he is stable at the moment.Goose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetSue Posted November 15, 2009 Report Share Posted November 15, 2009 Hey Goose,Im sorry to hear your dad is still in ICU. How are you holding up hun ?I cant imagine how upset you are at the moment, and well just wanted you to know that we all care about you, and my thoughts are with you and your family at this very difficult time.Take caresue Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goose Posted December 30, 2009 Author Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 Well my Dad has come a long way since ICU. 7 weeks on he is still in hospital, had multiple strokes after his hip operation. Has regained his speech and the power in his right arm, still cannot eat or drink - his swallow is not working.He is on an ordinary ward now, we have been told that he will never come home ( he doesn't know that yet) - we make sure he has a visitor everyday, twice a day - even so he never wants us to leave him, he cries when we do ( so not like him).Many of his older grandchildren have been in to see him, this cheered him up considerably. It is very difficult to get used to seeing him this way as he was so independent a short few weeks ago.Goose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluerose Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 Goose,So sorry to hear about your dad.Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest ASchwartz Posted December 30, 2009 Report Share Posted December 30, 2009 Hey Goose,I want to add my voice to all of us who are thinking of you and your dad. May the New Year bring health and happiness.Allan Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symora Posted December 31, 2009 Report Share Posted December 31, 2009 Me too, my heart goes out to you. I just lost my dad and my grandma recently and that's when you really realize how precious they are to you... Blessings! Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluerose Posted January 3, 2010 Report Share Posted January 3, 2010 How are things, Goose? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
shana Posted February 5, 2010 Report Share Posted February 5, 2010 Goose,So sorry to read that your father is still doing poorly all my prayers are with you and your family in this moment.I know how hard it is to see a father suffering.Hugs, shana Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goose Posted February 5, 2010 Author Report Share Posted February 5, 2010 Thank you for your concern.The update on my Dad is, that he is quite stable. He is on 24 hour oxygen, and is being partly fed through a tube in his stomach.He is getting less and less confused so can now carry out a conversation.He is awaiting transfer to a specialist rehab unit for stroke victims for intensive therapy.The outlook is not as bleak as it was previously.Goose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted February 5, 2010 Report Share Posted February 5, 2010 "Not as bleak", eh? :-PSounds like he's doing pretty well for a stroke victim who was in a coma for an extended period. :-) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluerose Posted February 6, 2010 Report Share Posted February 6, 2010 Glad to hear the news, goose.Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Symora Posted February 6, 2010 Report Share Posted February 6, 2010 Hi Goose. My grandmother was 94 when she had a stroke that prevented her from talking and within months she had recuperated enough to speak again, walk again and function again. She always had a bit of a hard time finding her words after that, but there is hope for recovery. It just takes more time at that age, the body is weaker. How is his morale? How is he dealing with this? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goose Posted April 25, 2010 Author Report Share Posted April 25, 2010 Well I am pleased to say the my Dad is doing very well at the moment. He has been transferred to the Specialist Stroke Unit this week , he seems quite settled there. It is situated within a large national park, so it is very likely that he will wake up to see deer looking in the window at him.Despite his best efforts to hide the fact that it was his 83rd birthday yesterday, the nurses and other patients presented him with a cake last night. I think he was secretly pleased.There is still some debate within the family whether we can care for him at home, my brother who lives with him is prepared to be a fulltime carer for him - with some input from the rest of us. Whereas my youngest brother feels that this is unrealistic - we will wait and see.We hope that they can get him walking, his swallow has improved and the power in his right arm is not too bad.All in all a great improvement on 5 months ago.Goose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SweetSue Posted April 25, 2010 Report Share Posted April 25, 2010 Hey Goose Thats good news about your dad, Im pleased that he is making progress Take care hun Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goose Posted July 16, 2010 Author Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 My Dad has recovered so well that he will be going home soon. He is very frail but is a very determined man, he will have a trial overnight stay at home tomorrow night.My brother will be his full time carer and the rest of us will help out whenever we can. It has been 8 months since he went into hospital and it is great to see him coming home now. We are under no illusion that he is prone to infection and falls - so we will take each day as it comes.Goose Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 No other way to take 'em, really. You can't buy in bulk. :-)But I bet it makes him feel better about the future, to be as self-sufficient as he can be. And isn't that the point: to make his remaining time as happy as possible? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted July 16, 2010 Report Share Posted July 16, 2010 That is wonderful news, Goose! I hope all goes well when your father returns home. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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