That’s a very tough place to be, Jenna. I hope you know you have support here if nothing else. A christmas birthday, huh? Tell your daughter to be prepared to hear the phrase “oh, you’re a christmas baby” every time she fills out a form for anything or has to show her ID . I hope you can trust that things will work out and children don’t hate their parents for being poor. If you love your kids and can show them that—then that’s more important than anything. I know being a parent is filled with things that make you feel guilty at every turn. But in a way, sometimes that in and of itself is a sign that you love them. Can I make a suggestion? Do with it what you will, because I don’t really know enough about your relationship with your husband to be imparting advice, I’m only speaking from a personal past experience, but… It sounds like you are the one left making things happen and he isn’t pulling his weight. Is that correct? Sometimes, it’s almost easier to be a single parent. I’m not saying to leave him, but sometimes if you let go of feeling responsible for doing things for him (applying for jobs for him and etc), and instead just think of yourself as being responsible for you and your kids only, then you might find relief of a burden and he just might get his act together. I know the difficult part of that is that you NEED him to get his act together. But the question to ask is—is doing it for him working and what is it doing to you? Can you let go enough to let him deal with the consequences of his own actions (or inactions?) If he is not contributing, then you are already getting by without his help anyway. I’m sure you’ve gone down the list of ways to get assistance…but, have you tried WIC? Food stamps? Anything like that yet? I’m not sure what else to suggest. Sometimes there are free things to do with kids for the holidays—a holiday parade, looking at christmas lights, things like that. Just being with your kids can be a gift to them. Or entrust them with something sentimental that belongs to you for a gift. Things like that can mean more than stuff from a store. You’re not in an easy place at all. I am sorry you have to endure this. You’ve got my sympathy, for sure. Hang in there. YOU WILL GET THROUGH THIS.