So then I think we're all on the same page here. Be suspicious whether that stranger be a man or a woman

I agree that it's stupid to take ANY risks in situations like that.

Thinking about it, most of the people I've gotten "creeper vibes" from were women.

What it was really about is that many people don't seem to understand that women can be offenders. It's not as uncommon as it once was (or at least appeared to be.)

I don't think anyone thinks women can't be offenders...(recall my mother...)

but i think that statistically more offenders are male and also that men can have a more intimidating physical presence.

Statistically speaking, the law is more forgiving to female offenders. I can't remember the exact numbers, but women had a much higher chance of getting lighter sentences or even getting off completely. Its disgusting.

Not in this country women aint.

Statistically speaking, the law is more forgiving to female offenders. I can't remember the exact numbers, but women had a much higher chance of getting lighter sentences or even getting off completely. Its disgusting.

maybe that's because women are often perceived as weaker and more vulnerable and less able to damage in some way?...i don't know. Any women care to give their input on gender politics here?

I don't think anyone thinks women can't be offenders...(recall my mother...)

but i think that statistically more offenders are male and also that men can have a more intimidating physical presence.

What I've gathered from the anti abuse and charity groups that I've been involved with online, many people don't seem to realize that fact. I think it's a reality that people don't WANT to realize. This group mostly consists of women, and I'm only repeating what they said because I strongly agree with them. I've read far too many TERRIBLE, HEARTBREAKING stories about children being abused physically/sexually/mentally, neglected, and oftentimes murdered. A shocking amount of these people are women.

But I do agree that men appear more intimidating. And yes, I know that the numbers of men who are offenders are statistically higher. That's why I said in my initial post that it was understandable why mothers gather their children when they see a man without his child.

politics... eh.... not my thing

Dont worry about it Inf - politics arent my thing either

Not in this country women aint.

Sue, it seems that in your country, both men AND women get off with minimal punishments. I can't begin to explain how disgusted I am with the way your justice system treats these people. And then once they're released, the citizens have to pay tax dollars to keep them safe by giving them new identities and protection.

I don't know about women here in the US, but men usually get VERY long punishments when convicted of abuse crimes against children. I can only assume that this is also true of women, but I don't actually know.

Dont worry about it Inf - politics arent my thing either

Join the club. Inf and I started it a while back :cool:

I recruited Ehren a few days ago. We're growing in size :cool:

Politics is evil, everyone's corrupt. The only thing you can do is try to pick the lesser of the evils and cross your fingers.

i'm not really into politics either...just trying to find explanations for things.

mm--you did indeed say it was understandable, but you also said it wasn't right...so maybe i can't make sense of that...

i try to keep out of it as much as possible. but on a lighter note, when ehren said "everyone's corrupt" the KORN song "Politics" popped into my head

I think more often than not, people don't get punished at all. This is why i always think it's weird when I see you freaking out about being "caught".

i'm not really into politics either...just trying to find explanations for things.

mm--you did indeed say it was understandable' date=' but you also said it wasn't right...so maybe i can't make sense of that...[/quote']

I guess what I was really getting at with the "not right" thing was that a lot of these mothers fear men, but not other women.

And I see we've recruited you to the anti politics club. We grow more powerful by the minute :cool:!

but unfortunately, the law about these things varies by state, in some states you get nothing but about 7 months, but in ohters (like florida i was reading about) you can get years and years and even have to pay money for each illegal picture you possess.

or you can rape a child for years and as long as you make them too scared to tell, you get off scott free after the statute of limitations is up even if they decide to speak up later.

I think more often than not, people don't get punished at all. This is why i always think it's weird when I see you freaking out about being "caught".

Well, I've been talking about actual abusers here. I think that it's probably more likely for someone who watches the CP to be caught than for the actual molester. My reasoning behind that is that oftentimes, the victim doesn't tell anyone about his/her abuse.

The other reason is that for one incidence of abuse, the pictures/videos can be downloaded thousands of times. That's all traceable. But anyway, I've mostly stopped freaking out about being caught. My therapist told me that from the offenders that he's seen, they all seem to have been caught in the act, and not months after they stopped.

that too is true i am afraid pseud

Its best I dont get up with the 'Justice Systems' we have in this country - as I have a extremely biased view - especially where the secret courts are concerned. :mad:

or you can rape a child for years and as long as you make them too scared to tell, you get off scott free after the statute of limitations is up even if they decide to speak up later.

Zach, I'm sorry. Should we stop talking about this?

I've always thought that was awful. Once someone being abused is old enough to actually report their abuser its too late? Wtf?!?

legally a child can report any kind of abuse at any age - however as most of us who have lived with abuse knows - its not as simple as that.

Sue, I hope we're not upsetting you. I'd hate to do that seeing as you were having a good day.

What's say we just drop the whole conversation?