Sorry it didn't go well. I hope you can get out of the class.

Yeah, it's probably best that pedophiles don't go into child psychology. Assuming that he she didn't take advantage of the child, and assuming that his sexual tension wasn't too high, I think that most all pedophiles probably suffer with cognitive distortions to a certain extent.

i hope so too, but i must admit that it does look like a nice class, i mean they had an entire playroom and a playground and everything i would've never expected that.

i agree, even if you think that you are totally in control, it's just not a good thing to do to yourself.

You shouldn't need to put up with a teacher like that. Truthfully, it makes me wonder how well she knows child psychology when she still seems to be under the impression that males can't effectively care for children...

yeah i agree, but its just not my place to be the one to prove her wrong, but i can't help getting a bit inflamed about the fact about my possible leaving will lead her to believe that she will be being proved right, and that i chickened out of it or something like that. i just still hope that i can get out of it, i already have to get a test done involving needles for this... and i hate needles

That's so weird. I'm used to other people (like my dad) believing that guys who work with kids are creepers but I've never met someone in the field who believed that. Granted, I'm talking about college, but still, that's weird.

Dudes, you ever walk through a park with a playground? All the mothers immediately start getting up and finding their children while giving you the evil eye.

I know, but I just find it weird that someone in the field would be all weird about it. One of my high schools had a program like this and there were a few guys in it. No one seemed to think it was weird at all.

Inf, I agree that this is NOT your place to prove her wrong, no matter how much you may want to, and no matter how much she may deserve it. It's not worth putting yourself through the stress, and if I may be perfectly honest, I think that until a pedophile has undergone extensive therapy and is deemed to not be a threat, he has no business being around a lot of children. Not that I'm saying you're a threat. You did manage to deny that boy, after all. It's just that what we were talking about a while back, things can easily progress without you noticing, and it can be very easy to justify it to yourself.

Dudes, you ever walk through a park with a playground? All the mothers immediately start getting up and finding their children while giving you the evil eye.

It's understandable why the mothers would act this way, but it's just not right. Statically speaking, there are many more convicted sex offenders who are males than are females. It just seems so impossible to so many people that women can abuse. Who knows, maybe at one point, that was mostly true? But today, it happens.

i just want to get away from her and that class as a whole, im going to try to transfer into the computer class i was looking at.

Computer class ought to be fun. What exactly do they teach?

I'm taking web design seconds semester. That and guitar. That means that only two classes each day will actually require any real work, while the other two will just be fun

It's understandable why the mothers would act this way, but it's just not right. Statically speaking, there are many more convicted sex offenders who are males than are females. It just seems so impossible to so many people that women can abuse. Who knows, maybe at one point, that was mostly true? But today, it happens.

Why is it just not right ?

When I used to take my four kids to the park, I'd be pushing the babies in the swings, and the older ones would go off and play, but if a stranger - more so if unaccompanied by children came into the park I would round up my children and keep them near to me.

Its natural to protect your children - Im not ashamed of it either.

that sounds nice mm

the one i am looking at is kind of like programming i guess, although it delves into other things as well but seems to center around programming

Are you sure you weren't fearing mean stares? Seems odd to me for a teacher to behave this way with a student. I hope things get better for you.

i don't think so, she told me that she hopes im not like the other male student she had last year that only slept in class and let the girls do all of the work.

Why is it just not right ?

When I used to take my four kids to the park' date=' I'd be pushing the babies in the swings, and the older ones would go off and play, but if a stranger - more so if unaccompanied by children came into the park I would round up my children and keep them near to me.

Its natural to protect your children - Im not ashamed of it either.[/quote']

Sue, I don't think we're seeing eye to eye here. My problem isn't that these mothers round up their kids, but that they only seem to do it when a man is near by -- NOT another woman. The real point of my comment was to say that it's a very common belief that men are incapable of taking care of children, and it's also a common belief that a man who is around a child unattended is a child molester.

Women have every right to protect their children when they sense danger. I respect that. I guess what I was saying is that a lot of these people sense danger when there is none, and yet when there actually could be, they're too blind to see it.

But anyway, I'm not looking to start a debate on this.

And I hope you're still doing well. Have you gotten to eat any chocolate yet?

MM, did you notice how I didnt state what gender the stranger was - just said the word stranger. Pedophiles can be of either sex.

I wasnt debating MM, just stating how I was as a Mama.

Im :cool: thankyou

Ooops Hi Inf

Be honest with yourself though, mm. Imagine you were taking care of a toddler at the park and you saw a childless man walking around near the child. Would you just ignore it, or maybe stand a little closer to the child jsut to make sure?

I think MM is talking generally while Sue is talking specifically about the park thing. I think we can all agree that if a random guy (or girl) came and started watching kids at the park for no apparent reason we'd all get really creeped out.

sue's got a good point--if a childless woman were also hovering nearby, it might make you nervous as well, though often women seem less physically threatening than men.

as a over protective moma (which I was) I was always on my guard - especially after my son got snatched by his father.

Theres a lot of horror stories - about kids getting snatched in this country - not just coz of pedophilia, but for other reasons too.

So my motto always was stranger beware.

Wasnt trying to start a debate - sorry Inf.

all good points people, hello sue

its fine sue, if i had a kid and i saw anyone walking up too close to them in the park (male of female), i would get scared too.

sue's got a good point--if a childless woman were also hovering nearby, it might make you nervous as well, though often women seem less physically threatening than men.

That's where my point lies .

I'm not saying that there's no need to feel a need to be overprotective in public situations such as being at the park. Hell, assuming I can get past all of this and have a kid someday, I'd probably do the same thing.

What it was really about is that many people don't seem to understand that women can be offenders. It's not as uncommon as it once was (or at least appeared to be.)

I've always been crazy protective over kids, I watch way too much Criminal Minds, haha