Ladies man with small cock

[Loser84]

Hi guys I haven't posted here for a while but i've lurked here for years and feel the pain of having a small dick it bothers me on a daily bases. The main issue I have is my penis looks so tiny whatever angle I look at it I constantly measure it to see how big it is my honest measurement when standing up is around 6 inches which average my eg is 6 inches as well which is considered big I'd say it's almost the same width of a standard remote control. So at least I have good girth provided I measure correctly, tape measure says 6 inches I feel it can't be right it looks really thin.The only time my dick looks decent is If I stand straight in the mirror only then does it look somewhat big. However looking down at it. it looks so damn small and thin like around 4 inches, no disrespect to anyone here but I can't imagine how i'd feel if my dick was less than average in size or a micropenis, with an "average" penis I barely have any confidence. 

I'm no pimp but I'm a bit of a casanova I like women and I can attract their attention quite often but I don't have the confidence to pursue any of them and feel they can pick up on the vibe that I have a small cock, maybe they're right I do have a tiny one. Perhaps if I get good at fingering and eating pussy they might over look my lack of endowment but I doubt it. I guess you can't be a real ladies man if you're clearly not packing which makes the whole thing more depressing. 

 

 

 

[Nimmo]

If those measurements are right, you're not a ladies man with a small cock but a ladies man with a big cock who's got a complex about their size. Your anxiety vibe might well be apparent but not many women would think a 6" x 6" erection was anything other than 🍆. (That might look small but trust me, it's a long way away and actually it's a beast!)

By the way, and not that anyone asked, but my dick is 7.5" long and a bit over 5.5" around. I also had a complex about my size for many years and in fact still do in some ways. I can assure you it's a waste of time, opportunity and your own natural resources to let these feelings stop you getting out there and enjoying life or at least trying to. Women basically won't give a fuck about the numbers and measurements and all the rest of that.

You might never leave these feelings behind altogether, but somewhere down the line you'll have to face the fact that you're pretty well hung. That might sound ridiculous, but it's true.

[Klingsor]

Pointless.

 

[Nimmo]

Fuck you then KlingBro. You're not exempt from basic human courtesy just because you've got problems and you've made a lot of posts.

[YOTH]

2 hours ago, Nimmo said:

Fuck you then KlingBro. You're not exempt from basic human courtesy just because you've got problems and you've made a lot of posts.

He's got a point though to be fair, it's a different story when you're coming from a 5.5 perspective, pretty hard to cultivate a 'women don't care about numbers' attitude when literally nobody you've ever met believes it to be true. 

[Nimmo]

5 hours ago, YOTH said:

He's got a point though to be fair, it's a different story when you're coming from a 5.5 perspective, pretty hard to cultivate a 'women don't care about numbers' attitude when literally nobody you've ever met believes it to be true. 

Fair enough, but I do know that and was replying specifically to the OP, not to KlingBro or to anyone else. That's why I said won't not don't, and numbers not size, and it's why I wouldn't make any posts of that sort when the OP genuinely has a small penis.

Ok, the response to KlingBro was an overreaction. At the end of the day the OP was either genuine or he's fucking people about. I took it that he might be genuine and responded in kind. Wasn't expecting it to get personal. 

A lot of people have problems in life and like everyone else here I'm one of them. Other people have worse things to deal with but there it is, you only live your own life. I know KlingBro wasn't making any comment on all that and he might not even have read any of my other posts, but it felt like he was, or at least saying none of it matters.

Edit: I take it back about the response to KB being an overreaction. Victimhood olympics FFS.

[Klingsor]

Pointless.

 

 

[Nimmo]

3 hours ago, KlingBro said:

And what authority makes me nonexempt from "basic human courtesy"? To me it's enforced by the same collective social consensus that enforces big dick worship.

No authority, just the fact of being human like the rest of us. Feel free to reject the construct, that's up to you. To me, as someone who doesn't, your post was unnecessary and out of order and I responded in kind.

Obviously posts are personal in the sense of addressing personal issues and relating to individual experiences, but that's all the more reason to show people a bit of respect.

You think I'm running in the victimhood olympics or carrying the torch for it or whatever just because I used the phrase other people have worse things to deal with? And all that shit about manifesting prejudice about mental anguish, all from one phrase that you're quick to judge but don't even understand? Give it up bro, you don't have a clue. 

[Wayless]

If you would be unhappy to wake-up at 4.5 instead of your 7.5, you should be able to understand where we are "cumming" from. . .  

[Toosmallforcomfort]

On 12/23/2019 at 4:46 AM, Nimmo said:

By the way, and not that anyone asked, but my dick is 7.5" long and a bit over 5.5" around.

Uhh, did I take this quote out of context?  What are you doing here?  This declaration, truth or not, will strike animosity among many here.  You might not have had that intention, but it did anyway.  If you are that big and you feel the need to be here sharing you SPS feelings, I'm sorry.  But I won't understand it short of a full blown body dysmorphic disorder.  If that is true, I hope there is help for you.  

[Nimmo]

48 minutes ago, Toosmallforcomfort said:

Uhh, did I take this quote out of context?  What are you doing here?  This declaration, truth or not, will strike animosity among many here.  You might not have had that intention, but it did anyway.  If you are that big and you feel the need to be here sharing you SPS feelings, I'm sorry.  But I won't understand it short of a full blown body dysmorphic disorder.  If that is true, I hope there is help for you.  

Point taken. Apparently there isn't, btw.

[Toosmallforcomfort]

You know I often wonder about that if I had a 7.5 inch member how my life would have changed.  Would I have been more sexually adventurous? Would I be treated as a piece of meat in college just for the sexual experience of a big dick?Would I have valued education and gone to medical school? Would I have settled down with my wife and have children? Would I be here now discussing the panacea of what ifs? Probably not. The point is that we are what we are, some good and some bad. I'm starting to realize how to live with the perceived bad, but I don't have to be chipper about it.

[Loser84]

I didn't come here to troll far from it in fact I would say I  definitely suffer from SPS . My penis is average in terms of length and girth in my mind average = tiny penis. Seems like my girth isn't as thick as  I thought yes its almost as wide as a remote control but the tape measure says 5 inches thick or just a bit over. I've lost any confidence I've had when it comes to women now or even just the thought of losing my virginity to an escort.  I also feel women can now pick up on the fact I'm lacking because apparently I'm not as "nice" as I used to be.

By way Nimmo I get why you would might feel insecure about you're size, hell even in porn some of the biggest guys can look really small and thin from certain angles weird. Wish I was you're size man you're close to being what most women would consider huge anyway (8 inches). I think just about anybody could have SPS if you think you're dick is small then it is at least to you. I've had this issue as early as my teens, i'm in my mid 30's now.

[Wayless]

On 12/24/2019 at 5:34 PM, Toosmallforcomfort said:

You know I often wonder about that if I had a 7.5 inch member how my life would have changed.  Would I have been more sexually adventurous? Would I be treated as a piece of meat in college just for the sexual experience of a big dick?Would I have valued education and gone to medical school? Would I have settled down with my wife and have children? Would I be here now discussing the panacea of what ifs? Probably not. The point is that we are what we are, some good and some bad. I'm starting to realize how to live with the perceived bad, but I don't have to be chipper about it.

I think the value I put on education was MOSTLY due to my failure to socialize with either men or women because of inferiority feelings related to late puberty and small penis concerns.  Maybe I'm somewhat above average intelligence, but mostly, I could concentrate better than my peers because there was so little to distract me.  Being near the top of each class intellectually compensated for lack of normal social and sexual satisfactions!  A measure of academic success prevented severe depression, too.  

[Victimorthecrime]

On 1/3/2020 at 6:33 AM, uptight outasight said:

Being near the top of each class intellectually

What did you ultimately end up doing?  Just curious, no judgement. 

[Wayless]

2 hours ago, Victimorthecrime said:

What did you ultimately end up doing?  Just curious, no judgement. 

I was an Engineer for 10 years and then ran my father's small contracting business for 20 years.  I could be a delta as an Engineer ok, but running a business didn't suit me very well.  Shouldn't have tried it.  Neither being a leader of employees nor socializing for business came naturally.  I was ok at selling and solving technical issue..

[Victimorthecrime]

I work for an insurance company in an administrative/customer service capacity.  Just thought I would tell you since I asked you.  I was in telecommunications for a lot of years but the part I was in got wiped out by the internet & globalism.  I worry that the same thing is going to happen again.  

[Toosmallforcomfort]

On 1/3/2020 at 6:33 AM, uptight outasight said:

A measure of academic success prevented severe depression, too

I was no Romeo and very sexually anxious and negatively self aware most of my life.  But once I got accepted to medical school (it took me three tries from prior college indescretions), I decided to only focus on school.  Four years later, I graduated at top of the class, got accolades, and a great residency.  The sky was the limit. I was really confident for the first time in my life. I dated, since I knew my stock was high, found my eventual wife, got a great job and the rest as many of you know, is history. So yes, there are other things in life that you can accomplish that will temporarily subvert other areas that are less stellar. However, these are only temporary if you have a sexual inferiority complex. At least for me, this small penis issue has been permeating force that drove my confidence back down to the nether regions and ultimately has led me to this website.  

[smallpurrple]

I never used to pay any attention to the size of my cock until one day  I had a tiff with a girlfriend and she shouted out ''You've got a small cock!' right there in public with a lot of people looking on. Things have never been the same since and I've become pre-occupied with my small cock. You'd think that it would have been obvious because it always felt 'loose' down there  and I was always slipping out but at other times she was tight and I couldn't get in-I can see now that must have been because she wasn't  very interested. Even so we had sex about 6 days a week and she'd always climax-but looking back, perhaps all, or some of it was fake. Also, never had oral sex except once, when I came in her mouth, she was really annoyed and spat it out. The only positive thing she said was that the dreaded  'cute' and only the once at that. And to make matters worse my next g/f told me straight out that she liked a guy to '8-9'inches! It's little consolation that I later discovered  that before my small cock poked its way into their lives they had both been with a guy who was about 9 inches. And with her it was the opposite of the size queen before: instead of all sex and no oral it was all oral and no sex; I don't think she ever had an orgasm.Scouring the internet for women who like a small penis harder than finding a gushing river on Mars although I did come across one who said loved a small penis and thought hubby at 5.5'' was too big! I used to send her photos;she was a big gal and if I had ever met her my small penis would have looked even smaller. Maybe go to China but wouldn't the women expect a western guy to have a big penis? It might be worse. For the record I'm 7'' erect, 5.5'' girth, hang soft at 6'''' when aroused-and large round pants filling balls and a cockhead that has been regularly described as 'perfect'. 

[YOTH]

On 1/10/2020 at 6:55 PM, smallpurrple said:

For the record I'm 7'' erect, 5.5'' girth, hang soft at 6'''' when aroused-and large round pants filling balls and a cockhead that has been regularly described as 'perfect'. 

She said that shit to hurt you, plain and simple. Women know it's the one thing we overthink about and when they're upset and feeling weak some women like to see if it hurts us. I'd stop wasting your time worrying about your size and start building your confidence back up with logical thinking rather than irrational thinking which seems to go hand in hand with size issues. You are well above average, and she knew it. The bucket of insecurities was filled one drop at a time, so empty it one drop at a time and work towards sanity. I'd kill for your stats

[Wayless]

8 hours ago, YOTH said:

She said that shit to hurt you, plain and simple. Women know it's the one thing we overthink about and when they're upset and feeling weak some women like to see if it hurts us. I'd stop wasting your time worrying about your size and start building your confidence back up with logical thinking rather than irrational thinking which seems to go hand in hand with size issues. You are well above average, and she knew it. The bucket of insecurities was filled one drop at a time, so empty it one drop at a time and work towards sanity. I'd kill for your stats

I can only 2nd Yoth and scratch my head.  

[smallpurrple]

i appreciate  what you say and I'm sure you're right; there was more to it; and because it was in public there was the shock thing too, although some distance from home. But the thing is it got me into SPH-there's always bigger guys then there's that 'perfect' 8x6''  which you think you  know  she's experienced or dreaming of all of the time.  The thing is she was never really interested anyway and only had oral sex once in the 7 years knew her. Time to move on.

[Wayless]

9 hours ago, smallpurrple said:

i appreciate  what you say and I'm sure you're right; there was more to it; and because it was in public there was the shock thing too, although some distance from home. But the thing is it got me into SPH-there's always bigger guys then there's that 'perfect' 8x6''  which you think you  know  she's experienced or dreaming of all of the time.  The thing is she was never really interested anyway and only had oral sex once in the 7 years knew her. Time to move on.

You don't say how many women you have been with.  Sounds like not very many.  I think you will find she is not typical and, as you said, perhaps not that interested in sex though she accommodated you.

Your focus on oral sex is interesting.  I was always disappointed none of my sex partners seemed interested in my penis.  However, I might have discouraged some from showing interest by being negative about it myself.

[bigjackthomas]

thanks for sharing your thoughts