A big penis looks so much fun.

[toulouse_lautrec]

Watching porn with guys with a 6 to 8 inch penis... it looks like sex is so much more fun. A lot more to work with, different positions. A larger penis is the best of both worlds because if the woman can only take half, that's fine. A small penis can only go so far. I really see no benefit to having a small penis. At just over 4", maybe 4.25", sex is extremely limited and a lot less enjoyable for me. I don't know if a woman feels less or not, but I personally don't think it feels too good at all. And with women getting taller, a small penis is a lot more awkward

[AmericanPsycho]

Serisously though, why watch a porn flick knowing it's going to trigger negative feelings:confused:

[Notdoneyet]

AP, I'm wondering just why you choose to post on this particular board? Judging from your posts, it seems likely that you don't really have any problem with your attributes so one is left to wonder what the attraction is to posts by those of us who do have to deal with it.

Although I don't make it a habit to watch porn, it is obvious that the people making the videos are in a far different game than those of us who wouldn't qualify to be one of the actors.

[AmericanPsycho]

I'm plain old everyday average. I've been mentally ill for over 20 years now and have picked up advice through 11 years of therapy. While I don't have this issue, I do have others. I figured I could use what I've learned in therapy to help others.

[Ernold Same]

Toulouse, I know what you mean when you say that men with large penis must have so much fun, and their partners too!

That's exactly how I feel. I'm so envious of them.

I used to have a female roommate, and she was constantly bringing guys over to fuck, mostly black guys. The walls were thin and based on her screams and other sounds coming from her bedroom, some of them must have been really well endowed (but not all of them though).

Anyway, what I'm trying to say is that I knew when a guy had a big cock and when it was the case it sounded like they were having so much fun together! It's like they were shooting porn flicks in her room. Sometimes, I couldn't take it anymore and had to leave the house and take a walk or something. It was reminding me of everything I was missing and everything that I will miss... I can't even say I will miss since I can't make it happening because I have a small penis. It's more like something that I'll never experience and that depresses the shit out of me.

It's through that roommate that I understood why women love large penis so much. It gives them so much pleasure, you can't even be mad at women for preferring big dicks. I totally understand them. I wish I had a large penis so women would love me more.

[AmericanPsycho]

And I'll say AGAIN, It's not how deep you fish but it's realy how you wiggle your worm.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

AP, no amount of therapy can eliminate this problem. You had mental problems, but this is more than that. The posters on this board do not have small penis syndrome, but rather small penises. It's not helpful to give people advice when you do not relate. I have a small penis, under average and I understand where they are coming from. The whole "motion of the ocean" thing is really annoying and does not help us. We don't care that a woman could experience pleasure from a small penis. She could also experience pleasure from a pinky finger..so the "motion of the ocean" thing can be applied to any small cylindrical object. I really hate when people tell me this....they clearly do not relate. A man with a small penis simply cannot perform to the standard of a larger man...simply impossible. The people on this board want to be able to pleasure women through penetration just like the majority of men on this planet. It's really depressing when you have limited movement, and can't enjoy sex and I understand it.

The only good advice I have for people in this situation is to distance yourself from sex as often as you can. I've found that there are many things in life worth living for outside of sex. Sometimes I find society's obsession with sex pathetic. As humans we've gone so far, yet our minds still boil down to our primal instincts. I really would be happy if sex wasn't so popular in the media and all of my social circles.

People in this situation really have no business competing with others There is simply no rationale that can remedy this situation..no therapy. You need to accept the fact that sex will not happen the way that you want it..nobody is perfect. I've accepted other trade offs in my life unrelated to sex. For example, I love cars, but with my current career, I know that I will never have the time or energy to ever do what I want with this hobby. The sexless existence is just another tradeoff I need to accept. I'm still at the poinnt where sex is on my mind often and the reality of the fact is that sex just can't happen as it should. Outside of my penis I'm normal looking and I am no idiot. I really would like to be able to have sex with women that I am sexually attracted to, but unfortunately it just cannot happen since my standards match those of the majority of men that I'm competing with...and all these men are guaranteed to be larger than me due to statistical analysis.

Either way, I feel that people with small penises can still enjoy sex if they change their outlook. Since all the sensation is really within the glans, why would all the porn thrusting motion be necessary? TL, you should be able to enjoy sex as much as any other guy in theory so the movement should not be an issue. Considering you lack of length, you ought to lose weight (you said you were overweight in another thread) and that would give you more thrusting motion. For me part of the pleasure revolves around the partner too.

Edited May 6, 2012 by Thermonuclear Warrior

[AmericanPsycho]

The only good advice I have for people in this situation is to distance yourself from sex as often as you can. I've found that there are many things in life worth living for outside of sex. Sometimes I find society's obsession with sex pathetic. As humans we've gone so far, yet our minds still boil down to our primal instincts. I really would be happy if sex wasn't so popular in the media and all of my social circles.

Distancing yourself from intercourse won't help matters. Quit asking yourself negative questions. You need to ask yourself what can be done to make your problem better and there's solutions. I've NEVER seen a problem that didn't have a solution to it.

It's like swimming in a large river against a fast moving current. You won't get out of the river alive by swimming against the current.

[Wastedlife]

Of course women have more fun with bigger penises, just look up any discussions online and see that they think. Women don’t only care about penetration when it comes to big penis, they also love the way it looks and feels. Women get turned on a lot just by knowing you might have a big penis (someone even have orgasms just thinking about it), and if you pull out a little worm…big disappointment. Plus most man with little worms cant even perform well since there so depressed about their handicap. (put me in this category)

But all that said that’s just life…we cant have what man with big penis can have…just like a ugly person cant be a CK model no matter how much he wants to…

[AmericanPsycho]

Of course women have more fun with bigger penises, just look up any discussions online and see that they think. Women don’t only care about penetration when it comes to big penis, they also love the way it looks and feels. Women get turned on a lot just by knowing you might have a big penis (someone even have orgasms just thinking about it), and if you pull out a little worm…big disappointment.

You actually believe the load of shit you read online:confused: No wonder why you have issues.

[Wastedlife]

You actually believe the load of shit you read online:confused: No wonder why you have issues.

Ok so I should listen to who exactly? You? All you do is dismiss anything thing anyone here believes or has heard without presetting any alternative arguments…plus your average in size…I’m not sure what your purpose here is anyways…

[Damo71]

Ok so I should listen to who exactly?

Hi Wasted(and T/L). Until recently I really stressed about my size. I'm late 30s and never been with anyone apart from experiences with an abuser when I was a boy - which doesn't really count.

Size doesn't consume my life - my days are filled with meaninful other things that are not related to sex or sexuality - but when it came to the crunch - if i contemplate a relationship etc then my "inadequacies" would put a stop to any plans.

I don't wanna sound like I'm a cured man or that I have great wisdom in this area so I'm not sure why I'm typing this even, but I do keep reminding myself of some things which helps for a while. But my observation at looking at this forum is that I'm not sure people really want "help". Perhaps just a sounding board? But what's the point of telling everyone who has answers that they don't understand. Isn't it just possible they could be telling the truth? Or at the very least doesn't our only hope lie in the very real possibility that some women, just some, don't care about size? Sure plenty do even though they say they don't (probably worry about seeming shallow - no pun intended).

But actually, there must be some that don't - and there must, assuming the laws of nature apply to women as well as men, be some women who are small downstairs and actually prefer a smaller penis. Surely? Now I know there's a whole debate raging about whether the lifestyle (and similar) survey is a true reflection of male size... but assuming it is (and I honestly believe its true now) then 50ish percent of men are between 5 & 6, 90 percent are under 7 and the remaining 10 percent being shered between those guys who are bigger or smaller again.

But lets say you fall into the bottom 5 percent. OK? Sure - its depressing. It means that if you're stood in a room with 100 people then at least 95 of them are likely to be bigger than you?

But, again assuming nature dishes things out similarly to women, stand in a room with 100 women, and perhaps 5 of them are anatomically suitable. Furthermore, perhaps several more see sex as an expression of love, and genuinely get off on the romance more than the physical. And, even if the woman thinks it's small - thats obviously not going to be a deal breaker.

If a small willy were a dealbreaker to every woman, then sure hardly any men below the average would ever get sex - but that surely can't be true.

You know, there are other deal breakers too. Though I've been described as pleasant looking and "not ugly", of course I wish I wasn't Mr Average - nobody wants to be at or below average in areas related to what is sexually appealing.

But if women were as shallow as many here seem to think, that too would stop people dating. But next time you walk down a busy street, take a look at the couples you see. Observe them. Take a look at the prety girls - are all of them with handsome men? That's not been my observation. And if you pass a hundred couples - just looking at the ones who seem happy together - do you imagine that all of those men are bigger than you?

If we want bigger penises and nothing anyones says will make a difference... then get surgery. But if youre not willing to do that then what choice do we have but to come to terms with it.

Sure, our choices may well be limited as some girls decide they want a bigger man - but life can be crappy. So go ona dating site or something and just say you've got a small willy so no time-wasters please...

It turns out for me that my willy is in the mid-average range (according to the lifestyle report - I always assumed the average was 7+ and porn probably hasn't helped with that perception). But I'm a fair chunk over 6 foot and I'm very broad. the fact is that, on me, an average-size willy looks small - really small in my estimation. I'm learning not to trust my estimation.

If I do eventually find a girl (I have other big obstacles in the way of that) and she looks and laughs (or says something in a sympathetic tone) then I guess it'll be painful - and I'll have to move on.

[IrmaJean]

I first want to say that I respect everyone here and never wish to minimize anyone's pain. I do think it's important to express your feelings, but there is also a place to consider new thoughts and challenge thoughts that are bringing you pain.

I wish I had a large penis so women would love me more.

This is not what any meaningful kind of love is about. You deserve to be loved as a human being.

A man with a small penis simply cannot perform to the standard of a larger man...simply impossible.

This is a black and white statement. There is room for grays. Why such an emphasis on performance? What of closeness and bond? Everyone is different and has different needs.

Of course women have more fun with bigger penises, just look up any discussions online and see that they think. Women don’t only care about penetration when it comes to big penis, they also love the way it looks and feels. Women get turned on a lot just by knowing you might have a big penis (someone even have orgasms just thinking about it), and if you pull out a little worm…big disappointment.

This is a generalization and does not apply to all women.

Try giving some power to the positive.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

Irma, I'm just making deductions based on fact and experience. If a woman was presented with a pool of men of equal passion, care, and love but different endowment, the smaller of the group would be weeded out of the competition. The gray would be the small percentage of women that prefer smaller or do not have any sensation in their vagina or clitoris and thus do not feel anything from penetration regardless of size. So for the few women that are unable to enjoy penetrative sex, than penis size would be a non issue. The posters in this board (including myself) simply want to have the luxury that the majority of people on Earth have. Although several of the posters here have shallow or illogical reasons for wanting a larger penis, I don't blame them. It's best to accept that sex will not happen according to your fantasies. I've distanced myself from sex temporarily because I need to filter out the years of distorted views and fantasies my brain has absorbed thanks to the Internet and overall media. If I had a caring partner, I would have sex as often as mutually needed so it's not like I am telling people to be asexual.

The problem with most of us on this board is that we have distorted views of ourselves and do not consider ourselves normal. I've only recently begun to consider myself normal and I feel that this is a start. Unlike T/L I do not feel handicapped by my length because I still can enjoy sex and feel the same sensations as any larger man would. And to repeat this, I am 1 inch taller than the OP and 1/2 inch longer in length. I bet hardly any women would sense the difference..Luckily enough, most of us on this board are still within the normal range and shouldn't feel as handicapped as we do.

Edited May 7, 2012 by Thermonuclear Warrior

[AmericanPsycho]

Ok so I should listen to who exactly? You? All you do is dismiss anything thing anyone here believes or has heard without presetting any alternative arguments…plus your average in size…I’m not sure what your purpose here is anyways…

Why not go to the Library and check out some books. You can also buy books online. I dismiss the information for the simple fact that it's untrue.

Must guys here have got it into their minds that a huge dong makes a man. Go do some REAL research. make sure to cover everything. Start with the biology of females. Ask women what length they prefer. Notice how I said WOMEN not woman, and not any sluts on Craigslist. Talk to your family doctor.

[Bundy]

This is a black and white statement. There is room for grays. Why such an emphasis on performance? What of closeness and bond? Everyone is different and has different needs.

Nobody is denying that. The only thing is, IrmaJean, that not everybody is looking for a loving partner all the time. We men enjoy sex much more, because the simple fact that we just need to ejaculate, It's a great feeling of pleasure of lust that don't necessarily has to be connected to love. Women give it their all, they try to create a conformable atmosphere, bring emotions into it, and just overall make it a worthwhile experience. While men also can appreciate that, we are also more aware of our hedonistic characteristics, and we would like to get rid of these urges the way It would pleasure us.

Stand up comedian Louis C.K. pretty much nailed it with one comment, where he said that for us, we pretty much just need to empty the vault, so that we don't axe murder anyone.

Of course, that's an exaggeration, but I hope you get my point. Actually, comments like these can be even more devastating when you are a male teen, since you couldn't care less about emotionality and your chances for a deep and meaningful relationship in the future. You are young, you want to make experiences, just like your friends, so that you don't become the socially awkward one. I have been robbed of my youth and been treated like clown by my social environment, and I'm fucking pissed about it.

Which brings me to my next point, people like IrmaJean and AP trying to bring something positive into these discussion. I'm well aware that there is no malicious intend behind any of these two posters, but guys, you really ought to be more sensible in these matters, since not everybody of us here is the same. Advices have to be tailored towards the person, so that they can actually help.

What good is it to post the same phrase for hundred of times, just differently written, to a guy who at least heard it a thousand times?

Don't you think that your little pep rally might actually just depress these people more, since It also seems that you are not really listening to them, since they got the 08/15 advise that they may even have heard for years know?

Personally, I believe this is a typical scenario of shit happens, and you've got to deal with it. I have a small penis, but I'm not as gloomy or misogynistic about it like many guys hear. I don't hate women or myself, or my small penis.

I hate society for treating me like shit, I hate the guys who tormented me because of this, I hate the fact that I'm not allowed to do anything effective, like beating them to a bloody pulp with a steel pipe. Also, I try to be not to whiny about it, since I just know too many people that went through really horrible shit, like living in a dictatorship, being raped as a child, or even worse stuff.

This is really embarrassing, but I kind of always wanted to live a sheen-esque lifestyle, just completely indulge in my fleshly fantasies. But I accepted that this need or wish of mine will never happen, so I'm just trying to live my life until death finally frees me. Sometimes you just have to drop your needs to able to life more effectively. I gave the idea of an exciting and fun sex life up, and I'm mainly concentrating myself on other things that catch my interest. Because, in the end, Isn't the whole idea of life to...live it and somehow keep you sanity, isn't it?

I'm just saying, I'm by far not "okay" with this whole thing, I don't want to look like the guy here who has seen "the truth", but once I accepted this I have been able to live more clearly. I'm not really happy with it, but I'm not miserable all the time, which honestly, I just a feeling nobody should experience.

Sometimes I see guys post here who flat out say that they are worthless and want to die, which is just flat out wrong.

Your worth is in no way defined by how small or big certain body parts of you are, or what other call you. Every human being is equal, even if he had third eye and grew multiple limbs. Thousand years from now on, nobody will remember the successful playboy, It's people like Socrates, Tesla or Da Vinci that actually made life on this harsh planet better, people that actually contribute to important stuff.

As much as I would like to have an exciting sex life, believe me, this really is not the most important thing in life. It certainly sucks, and I'm not going to bombard you with meaningless phrases, but just consider the fact that you still may find some joy in life that isn't ultimately based on acquiring a family or satisfying your sexual wishes.

[Wastedlife]

Nobody is denying that. The only thing is, IrmaJean, that not everybody is looking for a loving partner all the time.

Exactly, this is what people don’t understand. I don’t want to fall in love and have a nice family unit from day one with 1.5 kids a little white house and all the “feelings“…I want to go pick up a hot confident women in a bar and have wild crazy night with her. You cant have that life with less then 5 inches….because that’s not what women who are interested in one night stands are looking for.

I want to live my life before I settle down…but guys with small worms are denied that pleasure completely, we have to settle in most cases for someone who will “accept” us. As I agree that women who are done with their “wild experimenting years” and just want to have kids and “normal” family unit are more accepting of out short comings…

Edited May 7, 2012 by Wastedlife

[Bundy]

You cant have that life with less then 5 inches….because that’s not what women who are interested in one night stands are looking for.

Well, It's not impossible, good friend of mine with similar equipment also has a normal sex life, even did some wild things like sex in public, in exchange for occasional humiliation, but I guess that is the price men have to pay when they are brave enough to try. Unfortunately, I really can't take stuff like this. Not even because insults actually hurt me as a person, I know that my actual worth as human person is not deniable or arguable in anyway, I honestly think It would trigger an aneurysma and I would drop dead, so It's more a concern of safety.

[AmericanPsycho]

What about one of those realistic cyberskin virtual girl love dolls for $426. It's as close as it gets without being a living person. You'll be able to hump her brains out anytime, anywhere, or anyway you want and she won't complain, not even the littlest bit.

We're offering you sound advice but you don't want anything to do with it.

[Wastedlife]

What about one of those realistic cyberskin virtual girl love dolls for $426. It's as close as it gets without being a living person. You'll be able to hump her brains out anytime, anywhere, or anyway you want and she won't complain, not even the littlest bit.

We're offering you sound advice but you don't want anything to do with it.

So just let me understand your logic…basically if a man is not in “love” with a women then she is no better then a rubber doll? If that’s correct then I’m not sure if you ever had sex in your life…cause even though I have pathetic penis I do have sex and I can tell you women can be more sexual and wild in bed then most man weather they “love” you or not, and no sex doll or whatever your talking about can substitute for that. (difference is I have to pay for that wild side, if I had big penis I wouldn’t have to pay)

People with small penises don’t want advice, there is nothing you can say that will make any type of difference unless you can invent penis enlargement procedure that works. I’m here to vent my frustration once in a while and to know that I’m not alone with this condition…nothing more.

Edited May 7, 2012 by Wastedlife

[AmericanPsycho]

So just let me understand your logic…basically if a man is not in “love” with a women then she is no better then a rubber doll? If that’s correct then I’m not sure if you ever had sex in your life…cause even though I have pathetic penis I do have sex and I can tell you women can be more sexual and wild in bed then most man weather they “love” you or not, and no sex doll or whatever your talking about can substitute for that. (difference is I have to pay for that wild side, if I had big penis I wouldn’t have to pay)

People with small penises don’t want advice, there is nothing you can say that will make any type of difference unless you can invent penis enlargement procedure that works. I’m here to vent my frustration once in a while and to know that I’m not alone with this condition…nothing more.

FACEPALM:rolleyes: You could always tie a brick to it. That's what Tribes do in India.

[Damo71]

actually, I for one came here for help. People with smaller than average willies don’t have the monopoly on anxiety over size, I've spent most of my life thinking that mine was smaller than average, and that was compounded by the fact that most men aren't as tall or broad as I am. it was humiliating to think that many people who were in the low 5ft were more hung than me.

the site is called Mental Help, and many people with this issue probably browse this site looking for some peace of mind. So when people like IrmaJean come offering sound insight into how others may or may not be thinking, how the heck does anyone here have the right to tell her to shut up.

if you came here to rant, fine - that helps sometimes, but don’t presume that you represent the feelings of all men who are not happy with their penises.

don’t know how to operate the quote system, sorry about that, but someone said "line up a group of men with equal shares of good qualities, and THEN the ones with small willies won’t stand a chance". Well, based on other comments in similar threads here, if women secretly prefer bigger willies, then even the average boys won’t get a look in.

but it doesn’t work like that because (thankfully) women don’t usually pick their friends from a line up. Secondly, women have plenty of confidence issues of their own, and so will not always assume that they'll be worthy of the "best".

thirdly, the example is flawed for a very real reason that should help us men who want the help. Put an ugly hung guy next to a smaller but stunning guy, then what? Some will go for the big boy, some will go for the model. In other words, though the girl may have a preference for big boys, she may also have a preference for looks. If she chooses the model, then that means something significant - it means that she is willing to make the trade-off.

stay with me on this one... So the idea that someone could look at our penis and say "it'll do" rather than "phwoar!" is humiliating, but it definitely isn’t the end of the world. If something had to be just perfect before you’d contemplate going with it, nobody would have sex.

anyway, back to the line-up. I used an obvious example with size vs. looks, but in the hypothetical line-up offered in a previous post, it wasn’t looks on offer but personality characteristics. And the reality is that no two men are the same, and no two women find the same mix of qualities equally attractive.

and therefore, if the line-up suggested was more lifelike, and the women saw all the men naked but also had insight into their emotions and qualities, then some women would definitely choose a smaller man over a bigger one. And even if I were to concede that all women preferred larger penises, some would still pick you and me in spite of my willy. and it doesn’t mean that she’ll be thinking "I want this guy for everything except sex" no, I believe she may well think, the sex won’t be AS amazing as it could be, but it’ll still be nice.

so, I hear you guys who say I’m missing the point because women who want one night stands want different things. But perhaps what you desire is more of the problem than your willy you can’t choose your willy, but you can choose your lifestyle.

I want to adjust my attitude and my inclinations. My goal is to have a relationship with someone I love and who loves me. I want to concentrate on pleasing her, not myself (I know I’ll get pleasure from that) I want her to enjoy the sex because the one she loves is inside her, not because she’s focussing on a piece of meat.

IrmaJean: thanks for your reassurances. At least on the matter of penis size I find them helpful.to those who tell her "you don’t know what it’s like so stop trying to help" well, assuming Irma IS a woman, we don’t know how she feels, yet we're writing off her comments as though we men have a better idea of how women work.

smell the coffee

[Wastedlife]

Secondly, women have plenty of confidence issues of their own, and so will not always assume that they'll be worthy of the "best".

Yeah this is what man with small penises can aim for right? Women who have “issues”…well I don’t want women who will settle for me because she’s damaged in some way like me and has low self esteem…I want self confident, good looking, accomplished women who know what they want, and those type of women don’t want man with small dicks…

Looks man you can talk yourself into believing your small penis is the next best thing next to sliced bread if that’s makes make you feel better, more power to you…but I tend to look at the facts of life. I’m surrounded by women from personal life to professional and I know what they talk about and how they think, so I’m only basing my decisions making on that fact.

But I did say the wrong thing in including other guys with small penises not coming here for support, I’m sorry for that. I’m sure a lot come here just for that fact. I will not make generalized statements like that again, my comments only reflect my point of view.

Edited May 8, 2012 by Wastedlife

[Damo71]

Yeah this is what man with small penises can aim for right? Women who have “issues”…

That's not what I said. Nor did I say you were damaged. You are kinda stating the obvious tho... What you're really saying is "I got a small dick, and I want sex width women who hate small dicks" well, go figure why you're frustrated, but there are people with small dicks who want a viable solution to their confidence issues. And for them, it might be helpful to remember that women have confidence issues too. Not - as you have taken it - because such women will themselves settle for "second best" -ergo, the crap gets the crap. But because women with confidence issues may themselves have worked through their problems, reevaluated what's important to them, and decided that there are worse things in life than a dick that's a few millimetres shorter than the average. And if the very thing your complaining about is that your written off because of your problem, how haven't you learned not to write off people with similare issues (real or imagined)?

Look man you can talk yourself into believing your small penis is the next best thing next to sliced bread if that’s makes make you feel better, more power to you…

Well comments like that probably won't help will they...

but I tend to look at the facts of life.

you don't strike me as a man that does. You seem more like a man that selects only the facts that reinforce your Issues. I mean, it sucks to be small AND wrong about things.

I’m surrounded by women from personal life to professional and I know what they talk about and how they think, so I’m only basing my decisions making on that fact.

whereas I live in a monastery? I'd say perhaps you should surround yourself with women who care more about people than meat. But I forget, you want a woman who hates small penises, so that's out of the question I guess.

But I did say the wrong thing in including other guys with small penises not coming here for support, I’m sorry for that.

yet you say "Look man you can talk yourself into believing your small penis is the next best thing next to sliced bread if that’s makes make you feel better"

Wasted, I haven't gone from "I'm tiny" to "my dick is the nicest object in the universe". I don't suddenly believe it is all in my mind and that actually all women want me to bed them right now. I know there are women who fit your profile. But you must have an exaggerated sense of your own wisdom if you believe that all confident women like big dicks and the only ones who don't are damaged. Surely confidence implies a woman who can make her own mind up about these things? So yes, I choose to believe that my dick will be able to bring a woman pleasure. I choose that because I don't assume that every woman tht says otherwise is a liar or that all men with small members who say that they have satisfying sex lives are liars.

On balance, I'd say the most likely reason for the difference between what you say and they say is that you're probably mistaken.

[IrmaJean]

Damo, I'm glad to know you have found my thoughts reassuring.

I have been posting in this area of the forum for nearly 3 years now and I promise I want to help. I understand that presenting different thoughts can bring up strong emotions at times. I always want to respect everyone's feelings and experiences. I'm patient. I have always felt compelled to help in part because I do relate to having feelings of sexual inadequacy (I suffered nerve damage from childbirth). There is a lot of negativity in these threads and I have wanted to offer a positive voice. I often read cognitive distortions in the responses here. All of us do this at times (I do too). Having an awareness of this offers a place to begin making positive change.

I wish all of you well.