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[Jessie]

ok- well try and find the g-spot- maybe he could even please you with his penis- that would deeply satisfy his need to be adequate.

As to your 9 inch ex who drove you nuts in the sack- well jeez, even normal guys cannot compete with that.

You must never talk about him- your new BF will think about all the times that big penis will have been inside you- its a torture for the poor guy- so you must act like the ex partner never existed.

And maybe, just maybe he will believe in you.

ps I believed in my 1st partner- and she left me over size. and subsequent girls left me too even though I didnt have the same level of trust. So your guy isnt being a nutter or anything- he's just been burned and needs to protect himself.

I reckon you can make a go of it- Cece seems to be working out ok with her BF too

[Lover]

My current guy, my love, HE does please me with his penis, every time .. I just was talking about this spot that is way the heck up there and did not know what it is called.

So for sure this current guy is penetrating me enough for the g spot. And I am pretty much delirious with lovemaking by the time he puts it in me so I don't know what is going on. He is incredible at foreplay. I begged him to stop the other day. He sends me out of this world and he is a wonderful man and I want to keep him. I don't know anything about G spots I just know I crave him and yeah I am very satisfied with his natural self for that and I am not concerned about girth.

[Lover]

So.. I guess it would not be so weird that I think only toys (and the very few) can get this other spot, but it is very sensitive... they did not have the A spot in popular language the last time I was single so I did not read a thing about it.

I guess I gotta become a cosmo girl again.

[Lover]

Jessie.. did that first girl actually say she left because of size? That is pretty cruel.

I love the new guy ... not all that new I have known him for many years, but new relationship with old friend. He's nervous because he is the older guy and he never got the hardest to get girl loving him before. And now he does...

He had a crush on me years ago but did not dare try .. he treats me like I am out of his league.. l But I am not out of his league I am in love with him.

Sometimes the regular guy with the good sense of humor and all that is preferable to the big man on campus. I think he just does not believe me because he remembers when I had my pick of all the guys ages ago.

[Jessie]

oh- really long story with me. edited version.

My 1st didnt actually give size as a reason but she was a family friend and she fell out with my mom and sis and I think it was about her confessing to them she was not coping with my size.

They have never spoken about it and straight after the row my GF left me.

Im very small and I guess she thought my mom would know the score- they used to be very close.

This happened a long time ago and our families were never friendly again.

Since then I have had 3 relationships and a short fling- all ended explicitly due to my size.

None were cruel- they were all lovely people. And 2 of them were in love with me. They just couldn't get past it.

So I'm in therapy, taking a day at a time- just trying to get through Xmas which is a horrid time for me-

I get the homecoming queen thing- all you can do is keep loving him and hope he accepts it.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

I'd be fine with using the toy in all honesty. The difference between us and the average or well endowed is just a few milliliters of blood and couple of inches of flesh. I empathize with all men that share this problem being the VERY low average myself....most likely below average. However, I'm not opposed to doing whatever is necessary to satisfy my partner. I'm not ultimately secure about my penis, but as I said in several previous posts, I feel like more of a man than my well endowed friends. It takes a big man to approach his flaws with confidence. I have gotten comments about my penis size before and I was not particularly appreciative. However, I did not show any signs of weakness and still do not. My previous relationships ended because I personally ended them and not because of the sex.

[Lover]

Jessie, I am truly sorry. Are you fairly young (like under 30?)

I bet you will soon find a special woman. The older women like me that have been really burned like me are probably looking for the man who has the big heart. So maybe someone who has been through a bad relationship will really be devoted to you.

I have been through 2 and I am not in the mood to repeat any drama.

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I just emotionally want him to feel taken care of, comfortable, safe and trusting. That is why I came looking. I just thought how sad when I read all the heartbreak. I love my guy. I hope he can trust it.

[Lover]

Thermonuclear Warrior.. you saying "It takes a big man to approach his flaws with confidence." I would say that shows that it is not a flaw for you. Confidence is sexier than size. I bet you do just fine.

Thanks for saying you would do what it takes.

I am mostly trying to be ready for the emotional part of whatever is going on.. being commitment shy, afraid I will dump him for someone better... I don't even know the whole story and it might not mostly be about his size, it might just be a really bad relationship with a liar. I know she lied to him. I know he asked her to move in and I know she lied, that's about all I know. So my thoughts are more on the how to help him feel safe to take a risk than sexual things.. he is good in bed, I enjoy him.

I am not sure I will ever hear the story from him.

The new guy thinks before he speaks and he is hard to pin down but maybe he will voluntarily relax and go with it. It is hard to tell. Right now it is come close, run away, come close, run away.

i know he loves me a little at least but it scares the crap out of him. Not just because of his issues, because of mine. I have baggage.

[Thermonuclear Warrior]

I used to blame my penis for my problems. Sure, being at the bottom of the bell curve didn't help things, but my reason for failure with women is completely unrelated. Fortunately for me, my confidence in the bedroom isn't a huge problem. I do not place as much emphasis on sex as other men do. I figure if I am a terrible lover, I'm still good at other things.

Anyway, as I stated previously, I've gotten negative comments and I wasn't even that affected by them. I'd be happy to use my fist on a woman if that's what turned her on...so I don't have a major complex over my size anymore. As long as I am not being exploited for having a 'weakness' and as long as I am still acting dominantly, I do not care.I would never assume a passive role like most smaller endowed men seem to do. Smaller dudes are usually passive and feel weak...and thanks to the Internet, they only exacerbate things for themselves by seeking out porn and small penis humiliation related videos/stories. I am fine with my size, but my main problem in real life is the social aspect. I am stuck in the wrong decade mentally and I can't relate to people...and quite honestly, I do not even know where I would find a woman with mutual interests or someone that could tolerate my personality/behavior. I'm not a bad person, but I'm really particular with my interests to a point where it's difficult for me to talk to people. Anyway.....this is for a different forum haha.

[Lover]

I used to blame my penis for my problems. Sure, being at the bottom of the bell curve didn't help things, but my reason for failure with women is completely unrelated. Fortunately for me, my confidence in the bedroom isn't a huge problem. I do not place as much emphasis on sex as other men do. I figure if I am a terrible lover, I'm still good at other things.

Anyway, as I stated previously, I've gotten negative comments and I wasn't even that affected by them. I'd be happy to use my fist on a woman if that's what turned her on...so I don't have a major complex over my size anymore. As long as I am not being exploited for having a 'weakness' and as long as I am still acting dominantly, I do not care.I would never assume a passive role like most smaller endowed men seem to do. Smaller dudes are usually passive and feel weak...and thanks to the Internet, they only exacerbate things for themselves by seeking out porn and small penis humiliation related videos/stories. I am fine with my size, but my main problem in real life is the social aspect. I am stuck in the wrong decade mentally and I can't relate to people...and quite honestly, I do not even know where I would find a woman with mutual interests or someone that could tolerate my personality/behavior. I'm not a bad person, but I'm really particular with my interests to a point where it's difficult for me to talk to people. Anyway.....this is for a different forum haha.

T Warrior-

Well... it sounds like you are a smart guy and you have outgrown a bad mindset. That is really to be commended. I never hung out in this forum until the last two days and don't have enough experience with this to even consider if a guy would usually be passive.

I doubt I would have met a guy that is passive and gotten far enough to figure out he is concerned about that. So I am only meeting very confident men, even if their size bothers them because I really don't meet people online. I have never dated a stranger. So I think the guys I met with this issue are confident enough to go to parties and chat up girls and have a good time and then suddenly when in a relationship they have rejection issues. Maybe not realizing that almost EVERYONE has rejection issues.

I don't know what your interests are, but it seems in this digital age you can certainly find someone to chat with along your interests, maybe through plenty of fish or something. Even a guy with a personality problem can find love.

[Cece.dedesl]

My ex husband wanted nothing to do with any external sex aids. He didn't even want me to masturbate. He needed to know he was the only one giving me pleasure. Which was fine when he was putting forth the effort to give me pleasure.

My current bf just wants me to feel pleasure anyway I can. My sexual satisfaction is his top priority. He always goes the extra mile to make sure I am smiling from ear to ear when we've finished making love.

I believe anybody, male or female, who puts forth the effort to arouse and stimulate their partner will ultimately reap the reward of an amazing sex life.

[Lover]

ok- well try and find the g-spot- maybe he could even please you with his penis- that would deeply satisfy his need to be adequate.

As to your (well endowed) ex who drove you nuts in the sack- well jeez, even normal guys cannot compete with that.

You must never talk about him- your new BF will think about all the times that big ... will have been inside you- its a torture for the poor guy- so you must act like the ex partner never existed.

And maybe, just maybe he will believe in you.

ps I believed in my 1st partner- and she left me over size. and subsequent girls left me too even though I didnt have the same level of trust. So your guy isnt being a nutter or anything- he's just been burned and needs to protect himself.

I reckon you can make a go of it- Cece seems to be working out ok with her BF too

Jessie-

The very sad thing about this commentary... the whole thing .. is it got hijacked into a size and technique discussion when the real thing going on is all about feelings. I was very much in love with the well endowed man for years. I lost touch with him for many years when he married someone else. He is one of my best friends again now. He has a boatload of problems, a live in girlfriend and I do frequently try and distance myself from his problems and his life because he has boundaries issues. His mom, his ex wife and I are united to practice tough love with him and hope he goes to AA and therapy. But none of this is about either of their skills in bed. I am not really into the comparison of that.

I am into figuring out how to facilitate getting to really know a man (my new guy) who has been deeply hurt and helping him to trust me and open up and give real intimacy a chance. But part of him trusting me, is that I am in a crisis he needs to see me handle properly in order for him to trust me.

Meanwhile, he is super wise, gives me very good advice and makes me laugh. So... definitely it is not all problems and emotional drek. He is a rock in my life there is no question about it. I just have to stop panicking that i might lose him when he is just a guy who needs a lot of space.

He knows all about the alcoholic (out of the bedroom). He knows I loved and still love the alcoholic. I know he still has love for an ex GF. It is messy. The emotional stuff often is messy. The sex stuff is way way easier than the emotional stuff. Basically I am an open and playful person and if I am with an open and playful person we have a good time. That's it. It is the emotional stuff I am trying to figure out.

My new guy, if I can only be patient with him, has an amazing wisdom and maturity. Just because he has only had a single one year LTR intimate relationship with one woman, does not mean that he has not had a lot of shorter term things and he has many, many very close friends and a caring family. I am friends with a few of his friends. They are stellar people. That is why I gave him a chance, even though he is older than me and an admitted commitment phobe. I see the red flags, I see he has never committed except to one woman who lied to him and he may never commit again so be prepared for possible heartbreak. I got the warning. I came to this forum wondering okay.. cruel things have been said by someone to him... is that the reason? I don't know yet.

I do really pause to even consider getting involved with someone my age or older who is not divorced or something. But there is really something about him that makes me think that he is worth the effort and patience. Yes he did commit to monogamy to me, but the rest is undefined. I won't make love without that commitment. I did not know I was going to fall for him. I totally did.

Patience is the key. I am so isolated in my work right now, it is hard for me to have the perspective of someone who is in an office setting and out in the world. I will be on this isolated project about 3 months. Then I will race to the office setting, believe me, I have to get back out in the world. I was working in another setting last month, but it was also isolating. I know I need to get a people job when I am done with these projects.

My ex husband is very isolated too, and I think that is why he starts so many ridiculous skirmishes trying to engage me in fights. I wish he would go work in an office and leave me alone.

I must say, one thing cool about this forum from my perspective is it is guaranteed to have men in it. I always appreciate a guy's perspective. I have a bunch of girlfriends and they give a very different perspective than the guys do.

This man I fell in love with is a no drama, right to the point kind of guy sometimes. I admire him. Clearly he is struggling a little with if he even wants to be involved with me.. I am in a divorce crisis. Divorce causes a lot of problems and I have legal problems up the wazoo and a ton of baggage and an ex who won't leave me alone. It is even more complicated than that, but I won't go into it in a public forum. So even though I am already divorced, the legal problems are dragging on and on.

I can see why a man who has avoided entanglements for all these years may have pause. But there is something about him that is unique and helps me relax. My heart is really full and open around him and I know I love him. I don't know if he loves me. Time will tell. I know we will be friends forever. But right now I want more daily contact with him. He is not used to that.

I need to really sit on my hands an be patient. Work out my own problems and hope he is still by my side. If not, I seem to do pretty well everywhere I go some guy is always trying to talk to me. But this guy is special. I might be patient enough to really uncover the greatest gem of my life. Seriously, I could use a break and just be blessed with a great relationship.

But we have definitely different time frames. A common thing. It has been said girls want things like 5 times faster than guys. Men think not calling for 3 days is okay. Women are going bananas the whole time waiting for the call. Dating books tell you to pretend you were too busy to notice he took 3 days. I think the guys know that is bullshit. One dating book says guys don't call on purpose to see what you do.

It is weird to be in that situation with someone I am sleeping with. He runs away a few days but he has always comes back. I am learning patience. I am just happy to have a trustworthy man. He is not sleeping with other people he is watching football, and hanging out with friends, taking care of business,etc. I know for sure that is true.

If we do work out as long term lovers, it will be because I learn to sit on my hands, not email the hell out of everything and have patience and give him space.

The other guy, the alcoholic, he was clingy in fact. Always in my refrigerator, never going home. He wanted to move in. I said no way in hell. But he is great at that daily support that women crave. He just does not manage his own life well. My new guy, manages his own life well. I am sure he is waiting emotionally to see how I handle my considerable legal issues, to see if I manage my crisis well. if I handle it well then I think he will move in much closer. But he is smart like that. He does not want me to rely on him too much, he knows I want to have the satisfaction of solving my own problems and standing on my own two feet after a terrible marriage. He knows I need to be the one to find my own strength and not rely on someone else too much.

There are a lot of very wise reasons to be standoffish. He might actually love me like I suspect but really want me to handle this stuff on my own. He is a good team builder. He has a background in coaching. It is like an athlete that has to run their own 40 yards, the coach cannot do the run for the receiver.

[Bundy]

Most sexperts say even fingers can reach the g-spot as its only 3 inches up.

You know, I'm slowly starting to think that sexperts are just inherently full of denial, there are so many conflicting studies and reactions that leads me to think this way.

I think it's mostly an age thing; I remember seeing this video with a sex therapeut and some television personality called Olivia Munn, who was fairly young. The topic came up, and the guy immediately insisted that size doesn't matter, while the younger, sexually confident and experienced woman just said that it matters. Now, this is only one opinion, but I have often seen the same sentiment in other topics which feature this issue, and I really noticed how many older folks insist on size not being important, while most women and gay guys who admit to an illustrious and diverse sex life say that it matters to some degree.

I suspect the reason for this is the attitude and morality towards sex of every existing generation of people; a women above 50 might say that size doesn't matter and actually mean it, because sex never really was that big of a deal to her anyway. She knows that in her days, women who engaged in sexual activies outside the frame of marriage and relationship would have been labeled as a harlot, so size didn't matter because she only had an embarassingly amount of encounters to begin with, there isn't even a point of reference. Interestingly the same kind of women, when I ask them about how they view people who engage in a sex life without emotional responsibility, say that they think it's kind of immoral and juvenile, sometimes even religiously motivated. That's really interesting to me, because my conclusion is that only self-hating dogmatic women say size doesn't matter, because even if size did matter in terms of overall sexual stimuli, they wouldn't admit to it because of their zealous spirituality.

On the other hand, I can't even begin to count how many times I've heard in real life and the net how size matters to young women. Someone who actually uses sex as a hobby, and really relishes in this kind of life style, will be hard-pressed to work with a penis the size of childs.

It's the almost the same situation with parents who can't admit to themselves that their daughter really looks like a cross between sasquatch and the swamp thing; they see how their daughter gets bullied because she can't live up to some disgusting standard, and try to console her with how it doesn't matter and nobody is really ugly or heinous looking, .while every single person who read this now knows it's a lie. People just aren't nice - not necessarily evil, but we are an extremely shallow race, who likes to sugercoat and sweet talk things, so we don't have to face some of our worst and disgusting character traits.

The humanity of the 21st century prides itself with being socially advanced and morally just, spending a great deal of effort to defeat vile human ideologies like racism and homophobia, while not really being that advanced to how we treat people who have been dealt a bad card in life, be it a hideous face or a pathetically small penis. Because of our pride in seeing us as the most morally righteous incaration of humanity, we like to look at the superficialites through rose-tinted spectacles, and say things like looks, money, social status and size don't matter, just to feel good about ourselves.

That's exactly why we still have <edit>removed example website that lists things people are still "allowed" to make fun of</edit>

The only possible way to counter this atrocity is to reintroduce teaching children about empathy and sympathy to our society, to actually give an effort at raising decent people. It just can't be acceptable that the only folks who really care about how they treat people, are the same ones who suffered because of bullying and humiliation. Does a guy with a small penis have to do the same thing as Adam Lanza so that people will see that it's wrong to treat people like this?

That's why I don't completely like the sentiment of "It's all in our head, the only one who makes it a problem is you."...I'm sorry, but just no. This is a social problem that needs to be tackled, you can't just tell someone who has been treated like shit their entire life that it's really only your problem.

Anyway, that was my rant...

Edited December 18, 2012 by malign
Removed link to avoid improving its search score

[malign]

Here's my thought: given that the world is full of hateful websites, how about we not increase their search engine scores by linking back to them? (I took care of this one.)

I agree that we don't tell people who've been treated like shit that it's "only" their problem. But until we can give everybody a shit-free world, I still think it's important to tell people that even if they have been treated like shit, there's still a lot they can do about how they deal with that.

And please don't try to think of a "reason" to justify what Lanza did. No reason possibly could. He didn't "show" anything to anybody; certainly nothing about empathy or sympathy.

[Bundy]

Here's my thought: given that the world is full of hateful websites, how about we not increase their search engine scores by linking back to them? (I took care of this one.)

I agree that we don't tell people who've been treated like shit that it's "only" their problem. But until we can give everybody a shit-free world, I still think it's important to tell people that even if they have been treated like shit, there's still a lot they can do about how they deal with that.

And please don't try to think of a "reason" to justify what Lanza did. No reason possibly could. He didn't "show" anything to anybody; certainly nothing about empathy or sympathy.

It might have been a good idea to actually see what my site is about, instead of immediately seeing it as some kind of provocation? It's a site that lists all kinds of media cliches for all media buffs, and that just happened to be a list of things that get noticable attention in the media; the idea of the list isn't to show what people are allowed to be made fun of, it even had examples of which series and movies have examples of such behavior. I'm completely flabbergasted to see someone call fucking TVtropes a hateful site.

Lanza was a bad example, I just randomly picked the first name of a mass killer. How about the countless teenage mass shooters who thought making everyone pay who wronged them, is that an example you can live with?

[malign]

I did look at the site you listed, though admittedly it was in haste. Among the items that I saw was an entry for mental illness. To me, that's hateful, though there might be all sorts of mitigating content there as well. It still isn't something I feel a need for this site to advertise, which is essentially what happens to any link we cite. The search robots increase that site's score based on the number of people who link back to it.

And no, there are no mass killers that I would suggest anyone emulate. You say you want a world of empathy, but that the way to make your point of having been wronged is to go around killing those who did it. Sorry, that's not justice. Or even useful: which mass killers would you list as people society has learned empathy from?

[Bundy]

And no, there are no mass killers that I would suggest anyone emulate. You say you want a world of empathy, but that the way to make your point of having been wronged is to go around killing those who did it. Sorry, that's not justice. Or even useful: which mass killers would you list as people society has learned empathy from?

I'm not gloryfing these killers and I'm extremely offended that you would even insinuate this. I'm not saying that a guy with a small penis should go on a killing spree/turn into a serial killer, I'm just saying that people like this are born through this extremely disgusting behavior reflected towards them.

Maybe you remember the movie Red Dragon with Edward Norton, where someone turns into a serial killer because he was teased for his cleft palate his entire life? There is a nice line from the movie:

"As a child, my heart bleeds for him. As an adult, he's irredeemable. "

For a society as developed as ours, It's completely unacceptable that we are still like this; that the only reason for people to act decent is out of fear from eachother, that's just shameful. At least that's the impression I get from the observations I made through my short life; that people are only decent if they know what it's like to be wronged.

I'm just completely sick and tired of humanity.

[malign]

Well, leaving aside the serial killers as not the primary issue ...

My personal feeling is that people are quite often decent because they're decent. I know I'm not trying to help people here because I'm afraid of them. Now, maybe, it's because I know what it's like to be wronged. But I'm not sure it's within the range of human fallibility to create a world where no one is wronged; that sounds like the definition of a perfect world, to me. I agree we need to keep striving, though.

I don't agree, though, that there's a direct cause and effect relation between someone who does bad things as an adult "because" of bad things that happened to them when they were younger. I think it's more complicated than that. For one thing, you'd have to explain the difference between them and those who don't do bad things as an adult. Somewhere, at least some personal choice is involved ...

[Bundy]

My personal feeling is that people are quite often decent because they're decent. I know I'm not trying to help people here because I'm afraid of them. Now, maybe, it's because I know what it's like to be wronged. But I'm not sure it's within the range of human fallibility to create a world where no one is wronged; that sounds like the definition of a perfect world, to me. I agree we need to keep striving, though.

I don't agree, though, that there's a direct cause and effect relation between someone who does bad things as an adult "because" of bad things that happened to them when they were younger. I think it's more complicated than that. For one thing, you'd have to explain the difference between them and those who don't do bad things as an adult. Somewhere, at least some personal choice is involved ...

well, no point in arguing against your personal feelings, If that's how you see people, I'm glad for you, but I can't, I have grown completely sour of this world, but I agree on the point that the idea of an utopia where everyhing is fine and dandy is insane, that's just not in the cards. My wish is just a world where unactrative/unfortunate people can grow up in without having a guaranteed godawful cruel childhood, because I sincerely believe that a lot of stuff that happens to us in our youth is incredibly important latter on. The kids and teenage phase is where a lot of our defining character and personality traits are being developed, and it should be status quo that you can pass this stage of life without developing a major mental problem.

I can only take myself as an example, when I was a pre-teen I used to be a very passionate and good-hearted kid, the sort of person who when he walked by a homeless man, would feel incredibly bad about his situation, even heartbroken. I loved animals with all my heart, and things like fighting racism, nationalism and homophobia were very important to me.

Then I reached the teenage years, which lead to me being beaten up because of my nationality, being humiliated because I, as a fifteen year old male, believed that we shouldn't hate sexually different folks and didn't hide that opinion, while also watching how some of my friends who had small penises were mercilessly teased, both of them now being completely broken people who just weren't strong enough to endure all this cruelty.

Now I'm a hate-filled and pessimistic grown-up, who constantly fantasizes about homicide and destruction, constantly daydreaming about revenge and just the annihaltion of the human race. Which may sound reasonable if was a sociopath or psychopath, but I'm not. This is what the treatment of my fellow human beings turned me to.

[malign]

Sounds to me as if you're still passionate and good-hearted. I bet you still love animals, and that fighting injustice is still part of your personality.

I'm sorry that you're left with so much anger, as well. And I know you're not a sociopath; if you were, you probably wouldn't care at all.

The question I would put to you, as I would to many people who have suffered similarly: are you going to let them win? You're still you. There's no reason you shouldn't fight injustice, just like you've always wanted. Just ... not with assault weapons (which I know you don't intend.) There are so many other ways to fight, peaceful ways even. Maybe you'll only make a difference in a small area near you, but maybe that's as much as anyone gets to do ...

[Jessie]

Jessie, I am truly sorry. Are you fairly young (like under 30?)

I bet you will soon find a special woman. The older women like me that have been really burned like me are probably looking for the man who has the big heart. So maybe someone who has been through a bad relationship will really be devoted to you.

I have been through 2 and I am not in the mood to repeat any drama.

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I just emotionally want him to feel taken care of, comfortable, safe and trusting. That is why I came looking. I just thought how sad when I read all the heartbreak. I love my guy. I hope he can trust it.

Hi again,

I dont wish to give my exact age but you are not far off.

although I have read that many women can be turned off by 'nice guys' and can be turned on by more alpha types, I cannot help but be nice- its just who I am.

I hope a girl could like my generosity and love someday- Im realistic- I think such women do exist- there are 3 on this site- but I know I have to be patient- it may be many years before it works out for me.

Of course if/when I do I will be haunted by the idea that my partner could have a warm guy PLUS a good penis but I will just have to do my best to bury those feelings which can be quite toxic.

[Lover]

At whoever persists on defining people, even themselves by their physicality or allows the words of a bully of the past to define who they think they are today:

The man I am dating is one of the kindest men anyone would run across and he literally has thousands of people who would say so. He is very well known because of service he does for others. Would you suggest he does not deserve my adoration, just because of his physicality? I find the thought just really ridiculous. So I must say, size may matter in the following case:

http://beta.photobuc...s/grinch heart/

To anyone who was bullied: I hope the best for you, I am so sorry you were bullied. But don't allow yourself to continue to be the victim of that terrible bully. You have free choice every day to be who you want to be in attitude. That is why the sun sets every night and rises fresh in the morning. So you don't have to be who you were yesterday. It is a good thing, because one day last week I was truly unbearable. I was obnoxious a few times a few days last week too. And.. I was totally sweet some other days. Which day is which depends upon the observer.

Do your future girlfriend a favor,..rent the Charlie Brown Christmas Special or something.. and give yourself a little reminder of what you were like as a child

before you knew anything about women and size and just allow yourself to be that guy for a few days at Christmas time?

If you do, you may start to feel the really playful and funny type of spirit my guy has and that is what attracted a gorgeous and kind woman to that man. No, he is not rich. He is greatly endowed in his reallly big heart. His positive attitude that he continually displays in a crisis to me has captured my love.

If you remember your own joys, before you worried about all of this.. and follow that ... i hope it gives you a new perspective and a woman who can appreciate your great analytical skills comes along and is able to play with you and get you to not think yourself in circles. I used to think myself in circles and then get kind of isolated. It lead to depression. So I don't do it. Now I think a little bit and then take a walk and a deep breath, or go dancing. Come back to the thinking a bit . I don't try to tackle it all at once. I try to focus on what I can control in my own very small world and let go of the rest.

I cannot stop a talk show host from saying .. "hey ladies do you want to be rescued by a well hung fireman without pants on?" and the women from screaming "yes!" but most of them are going to just enjoy that fantasy in their head for a moment and go home to love whoever they chose based upon other interests, emotional support, etc. not what is in his Calvins.

Merry Hollidays.. I hope the mistletoe brings me the guy with the big heart

[Lover]

@ Jessie-

Cece would probably join me in believing that someday, maybe in 2013, some guy will be watching your future girlfriend singing

So, keep believing in goodness and love will find you.

[Jessie]

That's very sweet Lover- brought a real smile

Thank you...

[Jessie]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oOP4e6zWiUU

Happy Xmas Janet.

Thanks for your comments at 16:00 mins- this used to be my fave TV program.

With the laughter (from men and women alike) and indeed, rapturous applause, its clear you are right to despise us.

I can only apologise. God bless.