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I have just joined this site and thought I would introduce myself.

I "think" I have a small penis and it has been the bain of my life. Although no one has ever said to me that it's small, comparing to others I have seen, it is.

I have been married for nearly 40 years and my wife has never said anything other than there's nothing wrong with it.

She has actively encouraged me to talk to others about it which is not easy to do. She asked one of her female friends to talk to me which wasn't easy as I felt I was being judged. She did have a look and said that I was worrying over nothing but I just dismissed it as what she wanted me to hear.

To me, the size of your penis somehow reflects your masculinity. Having a small one makes you feel less like a man.

I did go to counselling for a while but couldn't relate the conversation we were having to dealing with the problem so gave up on it.

I know that there are women who are size queens and are interested in big ones and that's fine. We all make choices in life for what we want.

What I find strange is that I would never judge a woman because she had large or small breasts or whether she was a size 6 or 16 but I feel that men are judged on the size of their penis.

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Maybe Bartona,

But you might judge a womens 'hotness' by her weight or figure or face right?

Being small is a fundamental turn off...amplified by the fact it's only discovered when the clothes come off.

Plus it functionally hampers/ruins intercourse for both partners... especially for the girl.

In society having a small one is pathetic and a joke... so alas its difficult for such afflicted guys to be respected.

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Yeah, I have been kinda unlucky I guess.

But the girls in other aspects of my life have regularly scorned the' smaller guy' too so I have it from both sides...

I do get your point- men are judged on it and I guess big guys like that and we hate it- if the roles were reversed we would like it too I'm sure.

ps its a been a while but in past months we have had some girls come here to say they could overlook a small penis- so I hold on to that.

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true.... but you also need someone wiling to accept the cards you might be offering....

... they are distinctly thin on the ground....

ps yesterday I heard a gay guy on the Tube making the point that as well as all his female friends insisting size was essential he reckoned every major female artist is a size queen and is publicly open about it.

He listed off Rhianna, Madonna, Pamela Anderson (not really an artist but still), Lady Gaga, Chrisitina Aguilara, Britney Spears, Hilton, Kardishan etc

He said that these women are role models for children everywhere so will effect sexual preferences going forward.

He then said he was glad he was gay and felt sorry for straight men 'not packing'.

This of course was met with great mirth from those around him...

Personally I failed to see the funny side...

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Personally I failed to see the funny side...

Yep its funny to everyone but guys with the small penis, and the sad part is most of the time they make jokes I have to laugh with them (even though it makes me want to vomit on the inside) or they will know I got a small one...I live in a insane reality, even though part of me loves life and can see potential I really cant wait to finally die and get this over with.

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Wow, didn't expect this level of response. It's good to know that I am among like minded people.

Firstly, I have. worked out how to make the editor work, you have to click on the edit toggle, then you can presenter to go to the next line. Odd but it works.

The guy talking about celebrities - all hearsay and no evidence is there? Anyway, who wants to be involved with women with their reputations!

It would be good to have a female view on this forum.

Have admin ever considered a photo gallery?

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"Have admin ever considered a photo gallery?"

A photo gallery of penises? Not even a little bit.

But if you mean a photo of yourself (your face), you can use the avatar, just like I did. But we're not going to have photos of penises, or naked people, or ratings of each other's penises, or anything like that. I think sometimes you guys miss that this is a website for general mental health issues, not just SPS. In fact, this forum gets a lot of leeway as it is, in discussions of sex.

Pretty much any public board has difficulties with people trying to post inappropriate pictures, whether it's advertising, porn, or porn advertising. We wouldn't be able to keep up with it, if we allowed it.

Besides, if everyone told you that yours was fine, you'd just dismiss it as us telling you what you want to hear. It's built in, because the belief that there's something wrong with you came first. Especially in your case, 'bartona', everyone who's ever seen or had any interaction with yours is fine with it, except you. How is anyone else ever going to overrule your own belief?

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Thank you Malign.

As a (very) new member here, I am not to up on the ways of working here. As an administrator you will be aware of how new I am to this site. All I did was pose a question and did not expect or need a dressing down!

Taking this into account, I find your response harsh and misguided. Up until this point, I was feeling at home with the responses from others, but now, knowing how an administrator has just put me down, I have doubts about staying.

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I don't think that this forum is the right place to have a slagging match Malign. You have had you say and I have had mine. But as you have asked, I find this comment extremely insulting

Besides, if everyone told you that yours was fine, you'd just dismiss it as us telling you what you want to hear. It's built in, because the belief that there's something wrong with you came first. Especially in your case, 'bartona', everyone who's ever seen or had any interaction with yours is fine with it, except you. How is anyone else ever going to overrule your own belief?

You know nothing about me and have no right to make this type of comment

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Well IrmaJean,

Lets just say not feeling exactly encouraged by comments made by a certain administrator.

rethinking whether this forum is for me now. Never did I expect to be spoken to in that way by an administrator, If I had done something wrong or violated the rules then I would take it on the chin. But not when I have just posed a question. Perhaps I was a little naïve about this forum.

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Ive always found the forum very supportive.

and the admin team always very giving and accepting of guys like me that are depressed and persistent.

They have tolerated me for several years and always try their best I feel.

Sometimes sharing helps Bartona- and this is the only site that allows that but bars pills salesmen and abuse- so I think highly of it and Malign and Irma are dedicated and caring.

But if you have to go, the best of luck from me. :)

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Yeah I have to agree with Jessie, I’ve been here for while venting my anger towards this small penis I've been "blessed" with. Irma and Malgin have always been supportive and trying to make me see things in better light. Even though I don’t think we understand each other most of the time I'm really grateful for their persistence and I’m sure they are very nice people. I'm sure whatever they said was done with best intentions.

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