bartona Posted August 28, 2013 Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 I have just joined this site and thought I would introduce myself.I "think" I have a small penis and it has been the bain of my life. Although no one has ever said to me that it's small, comparing to others I have seen, it is.I have been married for nearly 40 years and my wife has never said anything other than there's nothing wrong with it.She has actively encouraged me to talk to others about it which is not easy to do. She asked one of her female friends to talk to me which wasn't easy as I felt I was being judged. She did have a look and said that I was worrying over nothing but I just dismissed it as what she wanted me to hear.To me, the size of your penis somehow reflects your masculinity. Having a small one makes you feel less like a man.I did go to counselling for a while but couldn't relate the conversation we were having to dealing with the problem so gave up on it.I know that there are women who are size queens and are interested in big ones and that's fine. We all make choices in life for what we want. What I find strange is that I would never judge a woman because she had large or small breasts or whether she was a size 6 or 16 but I feel that men are judged on the size of their penis. breewhego and wacthd4seiko 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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Jessie Posted August 28, 2013 Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 Maybe Bartona,But you might judge a womens 'hotness' by her weight or figure or face right?Being small is a fundamental turn off...amplified by the fact it's only discovered when the clothes come off.Plus it functionally hampers/ruins intercourse for both partners... especially for the girl.In society having a small one is pathetic and a joke... so alas its difficult for such afflicted guys to be respected. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartona Posted August 28, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 Hi Jessie, I don't think it's as bad as you say. Have you had some form of rejection or comment? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted August 28, 2013 Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 Yeah, I have been kinda unlucky I guess.But the girls in other aspects of my life have regularly scorned the' smaller guy' too so I have it from both sides...I do get your point- men are judged on it and I guess big guys like that and we hate it- if the roles were reversed we would like it too I'm sure.ps its a been a while but in past months we have had some girls come here to say they could overlook a small penis- so I hold on to that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartona Posted August 28, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 Don't know whether I have a problem with this site but I am unable to format replies Hitting return doesn't put the cursor down on the next line. Am I doing something wrong somewhere? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted August 28, 2013 Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 I don't know of any problems like that, bartona. Are you using something unusual for a client, like a phone or an unusual browser? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wastedlife Posted August 28, 2013 Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 Having a small one makes you feel less like a man.This is my main problem. I'm 6'1 210 workout and I feel like a women inside, like I have vagina...how can I ever act like a man with this useless...I don't know what to call it even cause I don't think its a penis, its just to sad for wards... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted August 28, 2013 Report Share Posted August 28, 2013 sorry Wasted... but yeah I feel the same way... what should have been one of the greatest gifts of adult hood but instead we were given stunted embarrassments.sad is the word. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Victimorthecrime Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 I agree totally w the comments above but just want to add that part of being a man is playing the hand that's dealt ya . Just food for thought Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 true.... but you also need someone wiling to accept the cards you might be offering....... they are distinctly thin on the ground....ps yesterday I heard a gay guy on the Tube making the point that as well as all his female friends insisting size was essential he reckoned every major female artist is a size queen and is publicly open about it.He listed off Rhianna, Madonna, Pamela Anderson (not really an artist but still), Lady Gaga, Chrisitina Aguilara, Britney Spears, Hilton, Kardishan etcHe said that these women are role models for children everywhere so will effect sexual preferences going forward.He then said he was glad he was gay and felt sorry for straight men 'not packing'.This of course was met with great mirth from those around him...Personally I failed to see the funny side... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wastedlife Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 Personally I failed to see the funny side...Yep its funny to everyone but guys with the small penis, and the sad part is most of the time they make jokes I have to laugh with them (even though it makes me want to vomit on the inside) or they will know I got a small one...I live in a insane reality, even though part of me loves life and can see potential I really cant wait to finally die and get this over with. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 We both gotta keep fighting Wasted....... And yeah I've had to join in the laughter before now.... My face burning with shame.... Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartona Posted August 29, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 Wow, didn't expect this level of response. It's good to know that I am among like minded people.Firstly, I have. worked out how to make the editor work, you have to click on the edit toggle, then you can presenter to go to the next line. Odd but it works.The guy talking about celebrities - all hearsay and no evidence is there? Anyway, who wants to be involved with women with their reputations!It would be good to have a female view on this forum.Have admin ever considered a photo gallery? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 "Have admin ever considered a photo gallery?"A photo gallery of penises? Not even a little bit.But if you mean a photo of yourself (your face), you can use the avatar, just like I did. But we're not going to have photos of penises, or naked people, or ratings of each other's penises, or anything like that. I think sometimes you guys miss that this is a website for general mental health issues, not just SPS. In fact, this forum gets a lot of leeway as it is, in discussions of sex.Pretty much any public board has difficulties with people trying to post inappropriate pictures, whether it's advertising, porn, or porn advertising. We wouldn't be able to keep up with it, if we allowed it.Besides, if everyone told you that yours was fine, you'd just dismiss it as us telling you what you want to hear. It's built in, because the belief that there's something wrong with you came first. Especially in your case, 'bartona', everyone who's ever seen or had any interaction with yours is fine with it, except you. How is anyone else ever going to overrule your own belief? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 It wasnt always bragging.Anyway even if its them trying to impress they have effected billions of girls world wide- thats the point the Tube guy was saying.And Malign is right- posting pictures here would achieve precisely nothing- its a serious site. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartona Posted August 29, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 Thank you Malign.As a (very) new member here, I am not to up on the ways of working here. As an administrator you will be aware of how new I am to this site. All I did was pose a question and did not expect or need a dressing down!Taking this into account, I find your response harsh and misguided. Up until this point, I was feeling at home with the responses from others, but now, knowing how an administrator has just put me down, I have doubts about staying. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 I'm sorry, bart. I certainly didn't intend it to be a dressing-down. I do recognize that you're new.Would you be willing to talk about what part you felt was insulting? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartona Posted August 29, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 I don't think that this forum is the right place to have a slagging match Malign. You have had you say and I have had mine. But as you have asked, I find this comment extremely insultingBesides, if everyone told you that yours was fine, you'd just dismiss it as us telling you what you want to hear. It's built in, because the belief that there's something wrong with you came first. Especially in your case, 'bartona', everyone who's ever seen or had any interaction with yours is fine with it, except you. How is anyone else ever going to overrule your own belief? You know nothing about me and have no right to make this type of comment Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malign Posted August 29, 2013 Report Share Posted August 29, 2013 You're right: I know next to nothing about you. Except what you told us.If I overstepped that information, I apologize. I didn't intend to be insulting. isoriaSok, DoctorAybolitoff, novieseetig and 3 others 6 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted August 30, 2013 Report Share Posted August 30, 2013 Hello, bartona. I'm sorry you are feeling upset. We want you to feel welcome and supported here.Take care. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartona Posted August 30, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 30, 2013 Well IrmaJean,Lets just say not feeling exactly encouraged by comments made by a certain administrator.rethinking whether this forum is for me now. Never did I expect to be spoken to in that way by an administrator, If I had done something wrong or violated the rules then I would take it on the chin. But not when I have just posed a question. Perhaps I was a little naïve about this forum. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jessie Posted August 30, 2013 Report Share Posted August 30, 2013 Ive always found the forum very supportive.and the admin team always very giving and accepting of guys like me that are depressed and persistent.They have tolerated me for several years and always try their best I feel.Sometimes sharing helps Bartona- and this is the only site that allows that but bars pills salesmen and abuse- so I think highly of it and Malign and Irma are dedicated and caring.But if you have to go, the best of luck from me. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Wastedlife Posted August 30, 2013 Report Share Posted August 30, 2013 Yeah I have to agree with Jessie, I’ve been here for while venting my anger towards this small penis I've been "blessed" with. Irma and Malgin have always been supportive and trying to make me see things in better light. Even though I don’t think we understand each other most of the time I'm really grateful for their persistence and I’m sure they are very nice people. I'm sure whatever they said was done with best intentions. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bartona Posted August 30, 2013 Author Report Share Posted August 30, 2013 Well we shall see what happens. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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