Guest glennj Posted January 7, 2015 Report Share Posted January 7, 2015 I came across this. Posted by one of those horrible females."I would just like to say to the girls who laugh at guys for their dick size or are rude to them about their performance in bed - FUCK YOU, grow up, and learn to communicate in a healthy and positive way. My last boyfriend was still fucked up in the head about sex and his dick (which I was always a huge fan of and which was not at all too small) from the shit his college girlfriend had given him 5 years before, and I had to deal with the messy, emotional, complicated aftermath of attempting to have a healthy sexual relationship with this guy. There is absolutely no reason for ANYONE, EVER, to criticize another person's naked body - whether you are male, female, trans, gay, straight, platonic friends, or lovers - nobody is perfect, and we ALL live in glass houses. Sex is primitive and fraught with emotion for most everyone - not every sexual encounter is, no, but our sexualities and how we define ourselves as sexual beings are deeply personal and emotional, and NOBODY, ANYWHERE, EVER has the right to criticize someone else over their sexual proclivities, their nakedness, or their sexual prowess - or lack thereof. How dare you hurt someone when they are at their most vulnerable? Shame on you." Jessie and Anonymous2014 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous2014 Posted January 7, 2015 Report Share Posted January 7, 2015 WOW!that wasn't sarcastic, just somewhat surprising that this particular female can actually empathize.She saw firsthand what kind of damage this can do, and she seemed really pissed that the previousgirlfriend damaged this guy, possibly beyond repair. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 7, 2015 Report Share Posted January 7, 2015 I disagree with her choice of word "criticize ". I think everyone has the right to criticize what they want. However, It's one thing to be critical and another to be a complete ass, which is the latter for these women who make fun of a guy over his penis size.I think her point was that there is a time and place to be critical if that's indeed the way you want to go. She was saying that doing it when they are "at their most vulnerable" is shameful. Resolute 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous2014 Posted January 7, 2015 Report Share Posted January 7, 2015 She addressed girls who laugh at guys for their dick size. This I why some of the people on this forum are reluctant topursue intimate relationships with women. This is the closest example of a female empathizing with the people of thisforum I have come across to date (excluding female moderators, of course) Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 Another variable to keep in mind is shyness. I've always been a shy person. Not chronically shy like Aspergers shy but still enough to prevent me from socializing to a normal degree. Whether this shyness is tied to my feelings of penis insecurity I don't know but I feel my shyness has been my biggest hurdle in forming relationships or meeting women.Shyness is definitely something you can work on. I was always very shy too, but I'm much less so now. Therapy and working in retail for so many years has helped a lot. I'm an introvert and that won't change, I'll never be the life of the party, but I'm able to talk freely and small talk now without so much fear of judgment.What helped? Acceptance of self, as is, and feeling okay in my own skin, (still working on this, but definite improvement) knowing that others are just as human as I am and also have insecurities, projecting confidence (good posture, try to make eye contact, smile), and lots of opportunity to practice (putting myself in social situations and challenging myself to interact). Also, I often try to start conversations about subject matter I'm knowledgeable in. This can help to break the ice a bit and build confidence. I'm still not the best at verbal interaction (the pace is too fast for me, I think), but I feel much more comfortable in social situations than I did for the first 30+ years of my life. It's also easier for me to make friends. Things can get better!I hope you will continue to try, Glenn. Best wishes. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
IrmaJean Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 I came across this. Posted by one of those horrible females."I would just like to say to the girls who laugh at guys for their dick size or are rude to them about their performance in bed - FUCK YOU, grow up, and learn to communicate in a healthy and positive way. My last boyfriend was still fucked up in the head about sex and his dick (which I was always a huge fan of and which was not at all too small) from the shit his college girlfriend had given him 5 years before, and I had to deal with the messy, emotional, complicated aftermath of attempting to have a healthy sexual relationship with this guy. There is absolutely no reason for ANYONE, EVER, to criticize another person's naked body - whether you are male, female, trans, gay, straight, platonic friends, or lovers - nobody is perfect, and we ALL live in glass houses. Sex is primitive and fraught with emotion for most everyone - not every sexual encounter is, no, but our sexualities and how we define ourselves as sexual beings are deeply personal and emotional, and NOBODY, ANYWHERE, EVER has the right to criticize someone else over their sexual proclivities, their nakedness, or their sexual prowess - or lack thereof. How dare you hurt someone when they are at their most vulnerable? Shame on you."I can relate to her feelings here. I feel protective of people's vulnerabilities and always want to respect and take care with that. That point of revealed vulnerability is when a person has opened himself or herself up to another and can easily be hurt. It's also a place where there can be deep human connection and closeness. All of us are vulnerable, really, and when a person chooses to share that vulnerability with another person, I would hope they would be treated gently and with respect. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 Shyness is definitely something you can work on. I was always very shy too, but I'm much less so now. Therapy and working in retail for so many years has helped a lot. I'm an introvert and that won't change, I'll never be the life of the party, but I'm able to talk freely and small talk now without so much fear of judgment.What helped? Acceptance of self, as is, and feeling okay in my own skin, (still working on this, but definite improvement) knowing that others are just as human as I am and also have insecurities, projecting confidence (good posture, try to make eye contact, smile), and lots of opportunity to practice (putting myself in social situations and challenging myself to interact). Also, I often try to start conversations about subject matter I'm knowledgeable in. This can help to break the ice a bit and build confidence. I'm still not the best at verbal interaction (the pace is too fast for me, I think), but I feel much more comfortable in social situations than I did for the first 30+ years of my life. It's also easier for me to make friends. Things can get better!I hope you will continue to try, Glenn. Best wishes.I work in retail too and this is the first job where I've been able to work around women to any great degree. It sure has changed my confidence in being able to talk to women and people in general. I'm still not very sociable though. People keep telling me I should get out more, join a club, volunteer etc but I just don't have the will to do it.As much as I hate being alone and want to find someone to share my life with I do find a good deal of comfort in being by myself.Thanks for your concern. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 People keep telling me I should get out more, join a club, volunteer etc but I just don't have the will to do it.As much as I hate being alone and want to find someone to share my life with I do find a good deal of comfort in being by myself.i really don't get this "you should get out more" b.s. people never cease to amaze me at how stupid they are, by saying things like that.how many of a person's real problems can "getting out more" actually fix? probably zero. now put that against all the discomfort and/or anxiety "getting out more" causes some people, and one can easily deduce that "getting out more" isn't for everyone, and it certainly isn't a cure-all.this isn't directed at you, glenn, it's just one of the many things that bug me about stupid people, which is most people. and since most people are so dense and thick (no pun), do you blame some of us for not wanting to "get out more"? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 Well I can see why they say that. Being around people is pretty much the only way you can meet people. I spent most of my adult life alone sitting in my room listening to music or watching movies while other guys were out meeting girls and getting laid. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 Well I can see why they say that. Being around people is pretty much the only way you can meet people. I spent most of my adult life alone sitting in my room listening to music or watching movies while other guys were out meeting girls and getting laid.maybe it doesn't apply to you, but for some people, the chances of them "getting laid" are pretty slim, regardless of how many people they meet. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous2014 Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 i really don't get this "you should get out more" b.s. people never cease to amaze me at how stupid they are, by saying things like that.how many of a person's real problems can "getting out more" actually fix? probably zero. now put that against all the discomfort and/or anxiety "getting out more" causes some people, and one can easily deduce that "getting out more" isn't for everyone, and it certainly isn't a cure-all.this isn't directed at you, glenn, it's just one of the many things that bug me about stupid people, which is most people. and since most people are so dense and thick (no pun), do you blame some of us for not wanting to "get out more"?I agree.These are the same stupid people who tell people who are suffering Major Depressive Disorderto "just snap out of it" IQ is normally distributed with a mean of 100 and standard deviation between 15 and 20The more social, outgoing extraverts are likely to make these statements, and their IQ's are generallyto the left of the mean on the Bell (Normal) curve.(50% of the population by symmetry). I have never done any statistical testing to confirm this, but I suspect that a randomly chosenintrovert will usually have a higher IQ than a randomly chosen extrovert. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 maybe it doesn't apply to you, but for some people, the chances of them "getting laid" are pretty slim, regardless of how many people they meet.Why? Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 Why?many reasons, some of which i won't get into. but for starters: looks, wealth, "success", health, penis size, luck (for lack of a better word), and other factors. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 I agree.These are the same stupid people who tell people who are suffering Major Depressive Disorderto "just snap out of it" IQ is normally distributed with a mean of 100 and standard deviation between 15 and 20The more social, outgoing extraverts are likely to make these statements, and their IQ's are generallyto the left of the mean on the Bell (Normal) curve.(50% of the population by symmetry).you know, i might actually be an outgoing extravert at heart, but that's if i had the proper tools (and circumstances) at my disposal. and since i don't, i'd rather be alone than endure the endless stupidity and senselessness of people, with their stupid questions, "solutions", suggestions, etc.. like "snap out of it", "why don't you get out more?", or "what problems can you possibly have?" and so on. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous2014 Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 Well I can see why they say that. Being around people is pretty much the only way you can meet people. I spent most of my adult life alone sitting in my room listening to music or watching movies while other guys were out meeting girls and getting laid.But now we have the internet, and escorts will come to your door. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous2014 Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 you know, i might actually be an outgoing extravert at heart, but that's if i had the proper tools (and circumstances) at my disposal. and since i don't, i'd rather be alone than endure the endless stupidity and senselessness of people, with their stupid questions, "solutions", suggestions, etc.. like "snap out of it", "why don't you get out more?", or "what problems can you possibly have?" and so on.I hear what you are saying and a lot of people I've spoken to cited the same reasons for "not wantingto get out more"....the stupidity of the people they encounter."The more powerful and original a mind, the more it will incline toward the religion of solitude"-Aldous Huxley Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 many reasons, some of which i won't get into. but for starters: looks, wealth, "success", health, penis size, luck (for lack of a better word), and other factors.Most people are not that good lookingMost people are not wealthy or even close to it.Most people are not that successfulMost people have some kind of health issueMost people are not that luckySeems to me you would be in good company.as for penis size, unless you're going to walk around naked nobody will know. Even if they did it's unlikely they would care. The size of other guys dicks is not a priority for most people. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 But now we have the internet, and escorts will come to your door.If you have the money. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 Most people are not that good lookingMost people are not wealthy or even close to it.Most people are not that successfulMost people have some kind of health issueMost people are not that luckySeems to me you would be in good company.as for penis size, unless you're going to walk around naked nobody will know. Even if they did it's unlikely they would care. The size of other guys dicks is not a priority for most people.it depends on what one is seeking. if you're seeking an ugly chick, shouldn't be that difficult. on the other hand, if you want the babes, you gotta be able to get their attention with something, and some of us don't have that. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 If you can't get "babes" now then having a bigger dick ain't going to help. They have no idea how big your dick is.Plus there's a whole world of women between "ugly" and "babe" Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 1- If you can't get "babes" now then having a bigger dick ain't going to help. They have no idea how big your dick is.2- Plus there's a whole world of women between "ugly" and "babe"1- i wasn't just talking about dick size. it's about the whole package (no pun); i call it a person's "overall score". if your overall score is low, doesn't matter too much what good quality you have. if your score is high enough, your golden, as long as you don't fall below a certain threshold or "the minimum limit" in any category.2- what matters are the babes, and those in the same vicinity as the babes. the rest won't cut it (no offense to anyone). Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Resolute Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 i must mention that whatever i talk about doesn't apply to prostitutes, eskorts, etc.. and personally i wouldn't wanna be with prostitutes even if they were super hot and someone else picked up the tab. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 1- i wasn't just talking about dick size. it's about the whole package (no pun); i call it a person's "overall score". if your overall score is low, doesn't matter too much what good quality you have. if your score is high enough, your golden, as long as you don't fall below a certain threshold or "the minimum limit" in any category.2- what matters are the babes, and those in the same vicinity as the babes. the rest won't cut it (no offense to anyone).Yeah well welcome to the club. It's a club that includes the vast majority of the guys in the world. Let's face it the % of women that fit the "babe" label is very small. They pretty much get to choose who they want to be with and of course they are going to choose the best guys. The other 80% of us guys have to settle for gorgeous and below.It sucks but that's the way it is. I'm sure there just as many girls out there that would love to date the hot guys but they can't either.Just because you can't get the hottest girls that's it you quit? you really do sound like that Elliot kid I posted about in the other thread.What's wrong with just cute or nice girls? I bet if you did get one of those babes you'd be so sick of her by the end of week one you'll be ready to jump off the nearest bridge. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anonymous2014 Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 i must mention that whatever i talk about doesn't apply to prostitutes, eskorts, etc.. and personally i wouldn't wanna be with prostitutes even if they were super hot and someone else picked up the tab.I hear you. I used them to hone my skills in the bedroom. Now that I have learned certain techniques,I will go after the babes, but otherwise I share your all-or-nothing mentality. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest glennj Posted January 9, 2015 Report Share Posted January 9, 2015 It doesn't matter to me. A woman is a woman. I'd prefer to get it free but if I have to pay then fine. By utilizing escorts I can get access to girls I could never hope to get especially at my age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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