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[PriddyBoy]

The only part of your past that exist is in your present mind my friend. A matter of fact if you want to influence your future then think differently about your past. Change your past and a by product will be a better future. If you can't do that start meditating maybe some beginning mindfulness meditation to take some stress of . I have spent many years talking to myself, worrying, creating these 3-party strange conversations between me and people I hate especially when I got mad. I grinded my teeth. High stress bud . I also have felt insecure concerning my physical attributes. Who doesn't ? A matter of fact men who are hung well worry about hurting woman because lots of woman can't stand a huge penis. Bottom line my friend it does not matter what comes at you, what matters is what's coming outta you. And it sounds like a lot of stress is coming outta you. Invest is some serious stress reducing techniques to begin with. Start eating healthy, join a mens group, hit the gym. All the things I use to do as a by product of stress have literally vanished . It's awesome. You are a walking biological metaphysical brainiac and everything on the outside affects you especially your stress cortisol get that under control . And if size mattered so much why are so many beautiful woman bi-sexuals and lesbians ? Just saying .

[IrmaJean]

If I "change my responses, thoughts, and my feelings" about the issues I'd be lying to myself. Looking at the stats, combined with the reactions from women I've been with, and my past sex life is all I need to draw the proper conclusion... that for ME, life is not worth living with a very small penis and at a very short height. It's not the kind of life I want, and it's not the kind of man most women want to be with. 4-6 more inches of height, and 1-2 inches more of penis size and my life would have been normal.

Many of us struggle with self-acceptance. There are lots of ways this might manifest itself in our thoughts and feelings. I have inner critical voices too, but their words are not as loud or as powerful as they have been in the past. How would changing your responses, thoughts and feelings be lying to yourself? There are no black and white simple yes or no right or wrong answers about many things in life, I don't think. Can you see the grays?

I respect your feelings, TL. You are being listened to and heard. I still want you and all members of our community to feel better about themselves. I hope you want that for yourself too.

4-6 more inches of height' date=' and 1-2 inches more of penis size and my life would have been normal.[/quote']

Maybe you could take a further look at this? How would any of this change who you are inside? Would positive changes in your life that occurred actually be from physical dimensions or would this truly be in how you feel about yourself? Isn't the actual battle here with self-acceptance? I understand it isn't easy. All of us, I think, at some point in our lives struggle with self-acceptance and self-love.

Edited March 27, 2012 by IrmaJean
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[flander]

How about lesbians then? Or do you think they all pound eachother with 10 inch strap ons?

well, there is this:

[Wayless]

On 3/18/2012 at 10:44 AM, Lana73 said:

Who would want to pretend that they CAN'T have orgasms???? Usually it is the other way around. A lot of women fake orgasms to make their partners feel good about themselves. And it does not matter whether they have large p or not.

Some women don't know they perhaps could have vaginal orgasms with larger, others pretend they can't so as not to hurt their partner's feelings.  Or, they fake orgasms during penetration..

I've had a few aggressive women ask for oral after I orgasmed. in their very stimulated vagina without them orgasming.   They seemed to have far more profound orgasm that way.  Vaginal?  Seemed I could feel deep vibrations, maybe from contractions unlike like the response from initial clitoral oral?

Seemed like a great experience at first, but seemed to lead to more and more one-sided sex which I eventually rejected in frustration, my penis being "left-out" more and more.  Started to note that female psychological dominance was at play and might have a lot to do with the powerful orgasms achieved without penetration except tongue.

[Wayless]

On 3/26/2012 at 11:10 PM, PriddyBoy said:

The only part of your past that exist is in your present mind my friend. A matter of fact if you want to influence your future then think differently about your past. Change your past and a by product will be a better future. ...... Just saying .

Good grief!  Purposeful lying to self as the answer?  That's what I tried from the get go. . .

[Wayless]

On 3/19/2012 at 4:13 AM, toulouse_lautrec said:

If you're over 5 inches, you have "small penis syndrome", not a small penis. It's all in your mind. I have a 4 inch penis, so I really have a small penis. We have two entirely different problems.

EXACTLY!

[Wayless]

On 3/18/2012 at 4:41 PM, toulouse_lautrec said:

A small penis is a big physical deficiency. To not even be average is a huge blow and makes life mostly meaningless. Plus, I'm short height too, so I really have no reason to live. My mom says to be thankful I can walk or see, etc. But if the only way I can be "happy" is to compare myself to handicapped people, I'm better off dead. And anyway, if I couldn't see, couldn't walk, or had some kind of problem like that, I wouldn't want to live either. I'd rather they just kill me.

Us actually small are handicapped.  But there is more to life than sex.  The problem is being told you are delusional instead of handicapped.  There is no reason a handicap cannot be faced squarely so you can make the most possible out of life, including less than perfect sex if available.

[YOTH]

4 hours ago, lbaker said:

EXACTLY!

A tiny flaccid 2" penis in the showers is a tiny flaccid 2" penis in the showers. I might be 5.5, but only my missus sees that 'regularly'. So to everyone else who hasn't had the pleasure, but has had the pleasure of seeing my unbelievably tiny bulge, I might as well have a micropenis.

Although saying that, I don't completely disagree. I do think men 5+ have more SPS symptoms than guys Under 5. Mainly because we're so close to societies 'norm' that it's a really bitter pill to swallow. I've actually noticed that a lot of even smaller guys -3" etc are more likely to have made peace with their size, I see evidence of this on Reddit forums all the time. 

My issue is and always has been my perceived size. I can shrivel up to the size of an inverted cashew in cold weather or working out, and that's all people care about. The only way to remedy this would be to achieve a full boner and walk around showing everyone my 'statistically average' penis. 

Ultimately, it still affects my day to day life and makes existing almost impossible sometimes. But in a lot of ways I'm lucky, I've never had a problem making my gf cum from sex, it's just about angles/position/foreplay, but you learn that over time. I never have sex unless she has a cushion under her arse, this tilts the vagina and makes it a lot easier to get deeper. I also have my feet to the wall so I have something to push off rather that slipping and sliding on the sheets like a makeshift treadmill. Not to mention, Viagra. The greatest medical discovery in modern history (well, apart from the important stuff) 😄

But I'm also well aware that I need to have everything going in my favour and I don't know if I could do it with less length. That's why I don't like hearing guys who are my size saying they can't make a woman cum, because they can, it just takes practice. It's always overlooked in here, people seem to be under the impression that you either can or you can't. But plenty of big guys can't and plenty of small guys can, you just have to put in the time. I believe you can make a woman cum with an even smaller size if you're willing to take the extra steps to ensure the best *bang* for your buck. 

I hate that any of us have to go through this shit. I don't particularly like judging people full stop, but to judge a guy by something completely out of his control seems ludicrous to me. 

[Klingsor]

@YOTH

I think there is probably a variable minimum for female gratification, dependent on the woman. Some women can achieve satisfaction with 5", for others it may be 8". Ethnological, cultural, and anatomical differences no doubt come into play; not to mention the visual stimulus that I have mentioned before...the "big dick energy". One of the keys to the phallicosis (I like your word better than SPS) enigma is the fact that even when many of us in the 5" range find a compatible woman and are able to satisfy her, the feelings of inadequacy still do not subside. In cases like yours and mine, for example, it is tied directly to our flaccid size - something that bears no direct relevance to sexual intercourse. While I do not have confidence in the official penis size statistics, I do think the internal consistency of the correlations within those sample sets is accurate; and those correlations have proven that there is no statistical relationship between the size of the flaccid dick - even when manually stretched to maximum extent - and the length of the dick at full erection. So a flaccid dick is nothing more than a status symbol; a symbol of animalistic masculinity. That is the root of phallicosis for those of us in the "functionally adequate, but aesthetically deficient" range. For the men whose penises are too small to literally function as a sexual organ, this is a genuine medical infirmity that should be viewed as such; I feel very sorry for those men. They should be the first to receive experimental penis grafts/transplants if it ever becomes viable. 

[Wayless]

9 hours ago, YOTH said:

A tiny flaccid 2" penis in the showers is a tiny flaccid 2" penis in the showers. I might be 5.5, but only my missus sees that 'regularly'. So to everyone else who hasn't had the pleasure, but has had the pleasure of seeing my unbelievably tiny bulge, I might as well have a micropenis.

I agree completely.  My flaccid is generally 1" or less and on too frequent occasions retracts completely in to my body.  It did that even when I was a skinny 25 year old  I

t also gets ENTIRELY empty of blood making it very thin flap of skin.  Yes, I'm sure most men assume I have a micro penis.  Though no one has ridiculed me, except for jokes about "finding it to urinate" or "must be really cold" for a long time, I no longer think I am paranoid when I think I'm being patronized after associates find-out.  And, I am quite certain now, though I used to try to deny it, "regular guys" automatically categorize me in an unpleasant way.

At 4-3/8 erect, but pretty thick at 5.5, I'm a mixed bag in bed.  Women don't seem to have much of a problem with me at first, because, I think they feel the thickness and think things will be all right when we adjust to each other.  However, the lack of length seems to mean I cannot get women over the top to vaginal orgasm from penetration which becomes an issue.  Without that extra 1" or 1½" most men have over me the friction disappears like clockwork when things start to get interesting.  Also, women suggest positions which don't work because of how short I am erect.

Their orgasm from extended oral seem very good, but I can't say if they are vaginal orgasms with contractions, or not!

[YOTH]

Unfortunately my Judus of a body isn't loyal, so as soon as I'm moving, the blood is diverted from my penis where it's so desperately needed straight to my heart to keep my fat, lard arse alive. Luckily Viagra works it's magic there, so I can be mid heart attack and breathing like an asthmatic walrus and still saluting the ceiling. It's a wonder drug.

 

[Wayless]

On 12/2/2019 at 6:51 PM, YOTH said:

Unfortunately my Judus of a body isn't loyal, so as soon as I'm moving, the blood is diverted from my penis where it's so desperately needed straight to my heart to keep my fat, lard arse alive. Luckily Viagra works it's magic there, so I can be mid heart attack and breathing like an asthmatic walrus and still saluting the ceiling. It's a wonder drug.

I enjoyed viagra, but women didn't seem to think I was any better.

[YOTH]

2 hours ago, lbaker said:

I enjoyed viagra, but women didn't seem to think I was any better.

They've become a necessity now, luckily I love the fucking things so I'm good with it. Seems to be a lot of shame around them which is weird. 

[Wayless]

On 3/26/2012 at 11:10 PM, PriddyBoy said:

The only part of your past that exist is in your present mind my friend. A matter of fact if you want to influence your future then think differently about your past. 

Deny the past?  Lie about your past?  Where does this advice come from. . . .?

Re-interpreting your past more objectively, from an adult perspective is a good approach.  Interpreting the past without the irrational ideas often imposed by parents and peers is a good approach.

Denial compounds problems in my view.

[Victimorthecrime]

The Past holds a warehouse of data. Those inclined to apply rigor & analysis can find valuable information.  

[Wayless]

On 3/15/2012 at 8:54 AM, toulouse_lautrec said:

Basically when I have a problem in life and talk to my mom about it, even while growing up, she always responds by telling me it's not a problem, it's just in my head, ignore it. I tell her that her lack of understanding makes me even more angry. So we have a very strained relationship.

Yeah, "moms" can be a problem.  "Dads" too!   Many have dreams of what their children will be like, often joint dreams they shared as a couple and were a big part of their relationship.  Maybe the ONLY part of their relationship remaining after a few years!

If they can't adjust to the the true nature of their children, they can be quite damaging to the children by preaching denial!  Parents blame the child for not fulfilling the dreams of the parents!