Yesterday I met a nice guy 'R'. He was pretty cool and we had a nice talk. But I don't want to get any further because I am still into C. He is not very athletic. He does ski a bit but not that much and in the summer, he doesn't do any sports. I don't know if that matters to me more than being able to talk a lot. Ah! Also, C texted me on Friday. I was surprised. He texted at 10:50 pm. Don't know if he was drunk or what. He just asked what I was up to...I said I was out, about 45 min. Then nothi
beyond the obvious health risks, it sucks! -makes my breath stink for days -makes me look old -makes me lethargic -makes me smell bad -makes my self esteem go down, really down i'll add to this...
In an effort to "unstuck" myself, I am reading "Learned Optimism". I am convinced that I can learn this. The author talk about 'explanatory style', which means how you interpret events that happen to you, and how it leads to a sort of concrete optimism or pessimism. What I like about the book is it is based on a lot of experiments, and debunks a lot of preconceived pessimistic beliefs that you can build up over time. Another very interesting thing that is perhaps a bit frightening, but gives ho
So today, I finally got a hold of a therapist that sounds good. A friend recommended her to me. She also is willing to let me pay what I can pay now, and reimburse the balance when I have a job. So that's good news. She can only start with me in two weeks so, I think I can hold of for a little bit. In other news, wow. I made a post to try and help another poster and got sort of bashed. Mmm. Well, I realize that my post may not have been totally perfect, but heck, no one responded to this person
Testing beliefs such as, "I am worthless. I am useless. I am a burden to my family." The therapist transformed those ideas into hypotheses about self that could be tested. Perfectionism A mixture of compulsive and narcissistic features. The patient put tremendous emphasis on achievement, systems, high productivity, efficiency, and perfectionism. At first, we regarded those values as normal, healthy, and adaptive, but came to see self as driven by beliefs relevant to the necessity for high-level
What is dependent personality disorder? Dependent personality disorder (DPD) is one of a group of conditions called anxious personality disorders, which are marked by feelings of nervousness and fear. DPD also is marked by helplessness, submissiveness, a need to be taken care of and for constant reassurance, and an inability to make decisions. DPD is one of the most frequently diagnosed personality disorders. It appears to occur equally in men and women, and usually appears in early to middle ad
I think I may have found what is going on with me lately. I think I am a bit dependent or needy. I think, to some extent, I have what buddy "Moore", called "Obsessive Love Disorder".... I am posting several link so I don't forget what I've looked at. Definition/Symtoms http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Obsessive_love Hodgkinson believes several factors create a climate for obsessive love. * Leisure, because obsessive love almost always coincides with boredom >> well I don't have a freakin job,
I will update this list as I find new stuff... Physical style 5 1] Well built, athletic 5 2] Eats mostly healthfully 5 3] exercise regularly 5 4] good looking 5 5] cares about appearance 5 6] keeps clean 3 7] no addictions 4 8] dresses well 37/40=93 Emotional Style 2 1] very affectionate, likes touching, kissing, holding me 2 2] supportive of me and my dreams 3 3] Expresses feelings easily 3 4] makes romantic gestures 4 5] committed 4 6] faithful, devoted 3 7] sentimental about special occasions
I have so much time on my hands right now. Most of it is spent surfing the net. I look for answers and can't seem to find them. I am so broke that I can go to a therapist. Yesterday, I went to a concert with friends. It was somewhat fun, I mean considering I am all depressed. Then an ex-lover was insisting on telling me how sorry he was that he didn't called. Blablabla. To tell the truth, I didn't really care. I mean, I want him to be happy but I am not thinking about him like that at all. He k
