Chisholm Posted August 11, 2010 Report Share Posted August 11, 2010 Hi Dr Schwartz, in reply to your post ine the new member forum:I would be most embarrassed myself if I thought I was embarrassing him but other than hint at the fact that I had feelings, I have not been at all forward. His red face has been a continuous feature of late as has been a lot of squirming around in his chair and a general sense of intimacy. His emails have all been very chatty and I guess in some cases flirtatious? He has said that he is unable to be declarative about his "feelings" and has said that he is concerned about the fact that he cannot be impartial any longer and that if I were to be referred, I would be able to "openly discuss" with the new therapist what had occurred betwen us. He also keeps on telling me that I am being "deliberately obtuse" about his feelings.I get the feeling that he is loathe to discuss his feelings as doing so might constitute some sort of "professional misconduct" but I am very much out of my depth in this terrain? He says that although he is not able to be declarative of his feelings, he is able to be authentic about them and that I would be able to pick them up however he says, if they cause me "more distress or make me anxious", we have to discuss what to do. The only reason they make me anxious is that I am not clear on what they are!!! I suspect he has physical feelings but I can't be sure.I would be mortified if I were embarrassing him but I'm hoping this is not the case. I just wish I knew what was going on but perhaps I had better think about the referral?Guess his feelings don't make me feel safe after all?Regards Chisholm Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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