Small Penis - One Man's Pain

[wirelan]

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[Jessie]

WILLY SIZE- sunday sport

BONNIE: Talking of big boys, do you reckon a lad needs to to be packing a real punch in the trouser department to get your juices flowing?

JASMINE: In a word, yes. I know lot of lads reading this won’t want to hear that, but you’ve got to have at least seven inches to get me going. The best sex I’ve ever had was with this lad who had a nine-inch monster in his pants. When I took it out it nearly knocked me out. It was like a baby’s arm holding an apple! But I just couldn’t stop tugging on it and sucking it. When it was time to give him a ride, it took a while because it was so tight. But once it was in words can’t describe how much pleasure I felt.

BONNIE: Blimey! I’m getting wet just listening to you. My biggest was seven inches but I’ve always wanted to try a massive dong – you know, a real porn star-scale love truncheon.

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I went to Leeds last week - I must have heard size mentioned by drunk girls in pubs about 6-7 times during a pretty short night- all along similar lines as above- I was hoping maybe the girls there would be different from the london ones- but nope. Serves me right for visiting a bar- I was too old and too small.

[Jessie]

KATY: You filthy cow. Mine was with this bloke I pulled on holiday. He was really skinny and he had such a tiny willy that I could hardly feel it going in! I couldn’t get rid of him quick enough!

[Jessie]

This is the fourth series of the 'reality' show in which twelve young men and women live together in a house cut off from reality for nine weeks. Housemates are regularly evicted from the house on the basis of viewers' votes. The survivor wins a cash prize.

Federico Martone was the fourth housemate to be evicted. Immediately after leaving the house, he was interviewed by the show's presenter, Davina McCall. She showed him a clip of three female housemates discussing the size of his penis, and then asked him about it. He affected not to understand the 'winkle/willy' terminology used, but appeared to be embarrassed. Ninety viewers complained, primarily on grounds that this was cruel and humiliating, but also that it was crude and offensive, and sexist insofar as such personal remarks would not have been publicly directed at a woman. Many of the complaints appeared to be part of an orchestrated campaign.

The ITC was satisfied that the remarks about penis size were not inappropriate on grounds of general offence in a programme transmitted between 10 and 10.30pm, well after the watershed.

In deciding whether the remarks had been unfair to Federico Martone or had infringed his privacy, the ITC noted that no complaint had come from Mr Martone himself, a normal prerequisite for complaints to be entertained on such grounds. However, the ITC believed that people who submit themselves for inclusion in a show like Big Brother (now in its fourth series) where participants are filmed 24 hours a day, should be aware of the potential for personal references of this kind.

There had been no breach of the ITC Programme Code.

[Victimorthecrime]

Live at Leeds! Great record by The Who

[wirelan]

that is total bullshit. these women are seriously mentally disturbed. and so are you guys, if you read and believe stuff like this.

i can guarantee you that even women who prefer very large can never resist a good looking guy.

most women are like 'it doesn''t matter as long as its not too big or too small.' most of you are fine.

you guys should not try to get rid of your insecurities, you should become comfortable with the fact that you are insecure.

'A man should not try to rid himself of his complexes, but rather get in accord with them. They are what legitimately drive his conduct in the world.'-Freud

In another words, be proud of what you have, mentally and physically.

[wirelan]

look at Marilyn Manson. apparently, he is massively endowed. and it's public. he's been reduced to dating porn stars and playboy playmates. are these women interesting? not to me. his life is one - dimensional. and he is committed to this. he can't change it.

[wirelan]

I feel similar...

Its been years for me (well apart from a super brief and painful dalliance last year) so I dont know if I could be with anyone again.

The shame and humiliation of being naked is searing - so I find it hard to imagine a solution too.

You seem to have an ok coping strategy loaf- its good to focus on hobbies and other good things in life.

I find notdoenyet's experiences quite inspirational (I cant recall if he's as small as me)- but you have both surved thus far in different ways

Hang in there- I plan too...

Is it possible that the shame and humiliation is just a part of your self-image? Also, seriously, don't strip and reveal yourself like that. Just get in bed, strip naked to have sex.

[Perseverance]

I don't get why Jessie continues to post this negative shit. Dude you need to get out. You're lucky. You're single. That's opportunity right there. Maybe you need to get the hell out of England. You complain about the women enough.

Still confused over here why I have no trouble finding women. I'm nothing special by any means. If anything I'm a decently fit, sort of humorous, employed, I'd say I have a heart, can be an asshole and I have a small dick. Not sure what makes people like me. But I find its not too hard to meet women. Again, I don't seek out black chicks who are always getting their hair and nails done to have sex with. Lol if you get my drift. Use your head when you try and meet girls. I met my gf out in public during the day. Not at a bar.

Plus there's dating websites now. I'd be more comfortable talking to someone online and letting them know I was small to save myself the pain if I was worse than I am about it.

I opt for the terrifying reveal. I'm prob the smallest my gf has been with and now she's talking about getting a place together.

I know nothing works when I come on here but w.e. hate the hopelessness.

My dick even looks skinnier lately I'm just like w.e...

If my gf ever broke up with me I'd be devestated and if I felt like it I'm sure I could find and fuck a new girl in a week. Hope it never comes to that though.

4.5 skinny inches of just enough satisfaction over here!!! Lol. Ahhh fuck turn it around guys. I'm a mess but I try to manage it the best I can.

[wirelan]

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[Jeep]

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[EricDavis2]

I am the original poster on this thread. Just when I think it can't get any worse, guess what? It did.

I finally got up the nerve to post my pic on a dating website, and post a profile. Now, I am a good writer, so that part went well. I ended up sending a message to a woman on the site, she and I texted back and forth, and I talked to her on the phone. So far, so good, right?

Well we agreed to meet near her place (50 miles away from me). BUT, I got cold feet as usual and texted her to say I'm not ready and that we're going to have to end it before it even really started. I didn't go thru with it for 2 reasons. 1) Im somewhat overweight and was afraid she'd take one look at me and say "forget it". But the biggest reason was I decided what's the use of going thru all this when I know my shame about my small penis would stop me from even making advances toward her at some point sexually. I just can't face the possibility that she would reject me when she sees how small it is.

I've since deleted my profile and pictures of myself. I just don't have it in me to go after a woman - even as badly as I need the affection, body contact, and love a woman could provide. Once again I've proven Im not good enough to go on - not good enough for her and not good enough for myself.

I've been crying about my failure to act once again. I'm so messed up in my head, I can't stand it. I'm going to be 60 years old next year, and I'm afraid of woman. What a pathetic loser.

[Resolute]

hi eric.

don't be so hard on yourself.

i can't really give you any advice, since i'm not better off than you.

and i know exactly what you mean about needing affection,love,sex etc., and just having to make do without them.

take care.

[IrmaJean]

Maybe you can try again, Eric, to contact her? I think so many of us are afraid of being close with others, no matter how much we wish and want for it, because of a fear of rejection. It's frightening, I hear you. I'm sorry you are feeling so hard on yourself. All of us human beings feel scared at times. I hope you can be gentle with yourself.

[woteva]

Irma, I know you're trying to be nice and do the right thing but being rejected and being rejected because of the size of your penis are two different things. If I had a normal penis and I was rejected I could use that experience to grow and develop. When I'm rejected because of something totally out of my control I feel like utter crap and not worthy of life.

[woteva]

I am the original poster on this thread. Just when I think it can't get any worse, guess what? It did.

I finally got up the nerve to post my pic on a dating website, and post a profile. Now, I am a good writer, so that part went well. I ended up sending a message to a woman on the site, she and I texted back and forth, and I talked to her on the phone. So far, so good, right?

Well we agreed to meet near her place (50 miles away from me). BUT, I got cold feet as usual and texted her to say I'm not ready and that we're going to have to end it before it even really started. I didn't go thru with it for 2 reasons. 1) Im somewhat overweight and was afraid she'd take one look at me and say "forget it". But the biggest reason was I decided what's the use of going thru all this when I know my shame about my small penis would stop me from even making advances toward her at some point sexually. I just can't face the possibility that she would reject me when she sees how small it is.

I've since deleted my profile and pictures of myself. I just don't have it in me to go after a woman - even as badly as I need the affection, body contact, and love a woman could provide. Once again I've proven Im not good enough to go on - not good enough for her and not good enough for myself.

I've been crying about my failure to act once again. I'm so messed up in my head, I can't stand it. I'm going to be 60 years old next year, and I'm afraid of woman. What a pathetic loser.

I haven't read through the entire thread (just the opening couple of posts and this page) so I don't know what has been written, which issues have been covered etc. All I know Eric is that you finally have to make the trade-off that all men with small penises make - if they want to live a normal life. You have to get rid of the idealized vision of yourself (that you built up very early on in your life) and accept the fact that you will be rejected, probably countless times, before, if ever, finding the "right" woman. The trade-off is your pride and ego. You have to swallow a large chunk of it in order to function in this word the only way a man with a small penis can function. We just have to accept our inadequacy and take the hits when they come.

[IrmaJean]

Irma, I know you're trying to be nice and do the right thing but being rejected and being rejected because of the size of your penis are two different things. If I had a normal penis and I was rejected I could use that experience to grow and develop. When I'm rejected because of something totally out of my control I feel like utter crap and not worthy of life.

I hear you. I can only imagine how painful that must be.

I wish you as well as Eric healing.

[EricDavis2]

Irma Jean, you must be a saint. To keep giving the encouraging words and amazing compassion you have for all of us here, really speaks to your character and inner beauty. I thank you for that. It's got to be difficult to continually support people who have difficulty helping themselves and speak so negatively about their lives.

If I can ever get to the point where I feel good about myself, stop the mental assault I give to myself, and find a woman that fulfills my dreams of a successful relationship, YOU will be the first person I will thank.

Therefore, I will now make one promise - and this is not an easy thing for me to do. I will not give up hope. I will start being kinder to myself, stop wallowing in my self pity, and start believing in me for a change. Irma Jean, I'm doing this for 2 reasons ... 1) I deserve for better things to happen for me, and 2) I owe you this much so all your efforts will not go to waste. It's a win-win situation, right?

[Victimorthecrime]

Irma Jean, you must be a saint. To keep giving the encouraging words and amazing compassion you have for all of us here, really speaks to your character and inner beauty. I thank you for that. It's got to be difficult to continually support people who have difficulty helping themselves and speak so negatively about their lives.

If I can ever get to the point where I feel good about myself, stop the mental assault I give to myself, and find a woman that fulfills my dreams of a successful relationship, YOU will be the first person I will thank.

Therefore, I will now make one promise - and this is not an easy thing for me to do. I will not give up hope. I will start being kinder to myself, stop wallowing in my self pity, and start believing in me for a change. Irma Jean, I'm doing this for 2 reasons ... 1) I deserve for better things to happen for me, and 2) I owe you this much so all your efforts will not go to waste. It's a win-win situation, right?

Irma Jean is a saint. Truly.

I really hope things work out for you EricDavis2. You are a good guy. I am gonna join you in the effort for positivity.

[EricDavis2]

One message to all the posters out there: Please do not attack those that are trying to give constructive advice and emotional support. Not only is it not fair, it's just not right!

I feel your pain, I hear your despair, heartache, and hopelessness. I know it all too well. I've been dealing with my own demons, too. Maybe the person responding doesn't understand your situation fully. Maybe they don't express themselves in a way that sounds supportive. Who knows.

But those that genuinely try to help are NOT the enemy. In most cases, WE are our own worse enemy. So please be careful not to abuse others with your comments. We all have enough on our plate than to suffer more hurt than we already have. Thank you.

[EricDavis2]

Outstanding, "victim"!! We've got to try to end our cycle of despair, God knows we need to try something else, because what we've done before this sure as hell hasn't worked. Take care, my friend.

[Guest glennj]

I am the original poster on this thread. Just when I think it can't get any worse, guess what? It did.

I finally got up the nerve to post my pic on a dating website, and post a profile. Now, I am a good writer, so that part went well. I ended up sending a message to a woman on the site, she and I texted back and forth, and I talked to her on the phone. So far, so good, right?

Well we agreed to meet near her place (50 miles away from me). BUT, I got cold feet as usual and texted her to say I'm not ready and that we're going to have to end it before it even really started. I didn't go thru with it for 2 reasons. 1) Im somewhat overweight and was afraid she'd take one look at me and say "forget it". But the biggest reason was I decided what's the use of going thru all this when I know my shame about my small penis would stop me from even making advances toward her at some point sexually. I just can't face the possibility that she would reject me when she sees how small it is.

I've since deleted my profile and pictures of myself. I just don't have it in me to go after a woman - even as badly as I need the affection, body contact, and love a woman could provide. Once again I've proven Im not good enough to go on - not good enough for her and not good enough for myself.

I've been crying about my failure to act once again. I'm so messed up in my head, I can't stand it. I'm going to be 60 years old next year, and I'm afraid of woman. What a pathetic loser.

You sound just like me.

[IrmaJean]

Irma Jean, you must be a saint. To keep giving the encouraging words and amazing compassion you have for all of us here, really speaks to your character and inner beauty. I thank you for that. It's got to be difficult to continually support people who have difficulty helping themselves and speak so negatively about their lives.

If I can ever get to the point where I feel good about myself, stop the mental assault I give to myself, and find a woman that fulfills my dreams of a successful relationship, YOU will be the first person I will thank.

Therefore, I will now make one promise - and this is not an easy thing for me to do. I will not give up hope. I will start being kinder to myself, stop wallowing in my self pity, and start believing in me for a change. Irma Jean, I'm doing this for 2 reasons ... 1) I deserve for better things to happen for me, and 2) I owe you this much so all your efforts will not go to waste. It's a win-win situation, right?

Nah, not a saint. I definitely have my moments... I do really want to make a positive difference, though. Your post teared me up, Eric. Thank you for noticing and accepting my care. It means so much to me. I'm so happy to know you will not give up hope and you will be kinder to yourself!! That is the first step on a healing path, I believe. You do deserve better things to happen for you! Good for you, Eric. I wish you and Victim and everyone here all the best. Take gentle care of you.

[EricDavis2]

It's been almost a year since my last post. I tried to be more positive about myself and not give up hope. But, I'm afraid, my attempts at that were short-lived. I am now 60 years old and haven't even had a date in over 2 years. The closest I came was an online connection in which I was to meet up with a woman I was in touch with on P.O.F.

However, in typical fashion, I chickened out. My self-confidence goes away quickly. I'm not as worried about striking up conversations with women as I did when I was younger, but when I think there's any chance of physical contact, my fears and same about my small penis scares me from following through.

I'm so ashamed of myself. I even feel that if the woman did not react negatively to my small penis, my lack of experience having sex makes me feel inferior. If you have a small penis like I do, than you better goddamn well be good at pleasing a woman. I don't even have confidence about that.

I get so down about what I've become in life. My head (both of them) are so messed up, I'd need a miracle worker to help me.

So, that's it. Stlll alone. Still ashamed. Still afraid of taking a chance. It's a joke I'm still screwed up at my age. And no friend can help me out of this. I need to do it myself, but I just can't. Hope other guys are doing better than I am. Take care.

[Resolute]

ya, it's been a while since you've been around here. sorry to here that things haven't improved. for what it's worth, i was rooting for you.

anyway, take care, man.