females views etc (Trigger Warning!)

[Jessie]

http://thoughtcatalog.com/lucy-wine/2015/07/my-3-most-horrible-and-hilarious-sexual-encounters/

and I will take your link and raise you thus….

[Jessie]

http://thoughtcatalog.com/amanda-chatel/2015/08/this-is-what-it-actually-feels-like-to-have-sex-with-someone-with-a-small-penis/

[Resolute]

see what you started victim?

[Jessie]

haha- sorry Im done…. reality check over,,,,,

[Resolute]

i'm glad it's out of your system... at least till the end of the year.

[themike]

I've read all the posts about penis size on this blog...and they are too stupid. One is about laughing at small penis and wanting bigger. Another is blaming guys with big penis because they hurts and ending with the pleasure with small/average guys.

And finally, many female readers have posted bad comments, about the cruelty and lack of sense to think a male is a penis. The are commenting that the blogger thinks like a child.

So, a total y waste of time for my part. I've seen always the same. Size matters? Perhaps

[Jessie]

every real woman in real life that i have heard talk about small penises have indicated revulsion.

e.g."its so sad/horrid if its tiny"

of those that didnt specify a precise opinion they inferred that size was an issue indirectly.

e.g "size isn't that important,…. unless its too small"

Sometimes people dont want to accept the truth right in front of them… meh… maybe thats for the best….

[Victimorthecrime]

I hope you can put it out of your mind once in a while Jessie and enjoy your life.

[Jessie]

Off the beat: Cut the dick shaming

BY CATHERINE STRAUS | STAFF LAST UPDATED MAY 13, 2015

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“Is it still redeemable? Third time’s the charm” read the message I sent to a guy in my building whom I’d turned down twice before. I then immediately shut off my phone for 10 minutes for fear of the rejection that might follow. If I hadn’t, I would have been tempted to check it every 30 seconds for a reply, or even for just the ellipse typing bubble. Not having sex in a week and a half was enough to constitute a college dry spell for me, and I felt like I was revirginizing. I could not allow that to happen and had to get rid of those spider webs growing in my vagina ASAP. The “sure, I’ll come down right now!” reply was all it took for me to find my solace once again.

In the 15 minutes that followed, I had an anticlimactic college sexual experience so unemotional that even making eye contact would have been deemed inappropriate for the situation. Neither the pretense nor the activity itself were charming, which was why I felt justified in discussing it with my closest friends, penis size and all.

Because my friends and I openly discuss every one of our sexual encounters like high schoolers in a locker room, I had to give them a full breakdown of the mishaps. I had never considered penis size as a factor when deciding whether or not to sleep with someone. As soon as my sexual partner’s penis size became an issue of incompatibility during sex, however, I began to reflect upon dick lengths, even though the idea of dismissing someone because his or her genitalia isn’t mainstream porn-worthy clearly seemed absurd and unrealistic. “At least you didn’t choke, right?” my friend joked as we continued our conversation about ideal penis sizes.

It is hard not to be unsettled by how problematic body shaming has become in our society. Still, I felt comfortable talking about my latest sexual partner’s “mediocrity,“ insulting him based on his penis size. But as my one-night stand walked past me a couple of days later, I got a sick feeling in the pit of my stomach, realizing how ridiculously superficial and cruel all my comments were.

In “Discipline and Punish,” Michel Foucault determines that there is a preconceived notion that we are constantly being watched and judged by society. And boy, is that a fucking difficult way to live. Not only that, but society also propagates what constitutes “good” and whether or not we fit into that category. It has the power to designate whether or not we are worthy and to alter the value we place on ourselves. Because of the emphasis society places on appearances, how others perceive us becomes how we perceive ourselves. Foucault put it best when he wrote, “He who is subjected to a field of visibility … becomes the principle of his own subjection.” We should not imprison ourselves, and we should not determine our worth by how others perceive us, especially if that perception is based purely on physical attributes. No one’s physique should be what is primarily evaluated — not Jen Selter’s butt and certainly not someone’s dick size.

As of Sunday, there are 73,050 Instagram posts with the hashtag “bodygoals.” Clearly, there is a social media trend of users worshiping particular body types. But you should know that even though you may post a picture of your favorite celeb’s body and hashtag it as “goals,” you are probably never going to look like that, and that’s all right. We all have our own unique perfections to achieve, and attempting to look like someone else is an impossible mission. All any one of us can do is strive to be the best version of ourself, and that best version is not going to be the same as any specific celebrity’s. How ridiculous would it be for my hookup to post a picture of a pornstar’s penis with the hashtag #dickgoals?

It is never OK to shame anyone’s gender or body. It is no more acceptable for me to place a value on someone based on his penis than it is for anyone to insult a female’s physique. According to the National Association for Anorexia Nervosa and Associated Disorders, “women are much more likely than men to develop an eating disorder. Only an estimated 5 to 15 percent of people with anorexia or bulimia are male.” Even though there is a larger societal opposition to body-shaming women, body-shaming men is just as inappropriate and certainly just as hurtful. I never commented directly to the person whose penis size I discussed, but the effects of the comments remain as influential as ever. By playing into societal norms of judgment, I have increased the acceptability of trash-talking. As in Foucault’s idea of self-subjection and self-imprisonment, by imprisoning others, we are creating a prison in which we will ultimately trap ourselves. By not denouncing body shaming, I allow it to continue to exist and grow. Even in a private conversation, mutual respect should be maintained, free of labels and metaphorical prison bars.

Whether or not you choose to judge others by society’s conception of ideal body image is what’s important at the end of the day, not dick size. Lowering someone’s self-esteem through thoughtless and insensitive comments — that, my friends, is unredeemable.

================ Manforthetimes • 7 months ago

It sounds to me like Catherine absolutely thinks that a small penis are a bad thing and never, ever wants to experience another! She also sounds like she wants a big old feminist pat on the back for stating that she felt bad or rather guilty for feeling that way. She does not enjoy the feeling a small penis [something a guy cannot control] and wrote this article to remind all small dicked men that fact. Perhaps she is so angry that her hookup wasted her time with his small dick that she wrote this for just to remind him how useless he is. Catherine goes on to ask for sympathy for some woman who pasted her perfect ass all over the internet fishing for compliments. Catherine embodies the essence of a "body shamer" and has chosen "to judge others by society’s conception of ideal body image". Hopefully this young lady meets her dream man he'll reconsider a relationship with her for someone who doesn't have a minimum requirement.

[Jessie]

read her article and then the comment……. interesting….

[notbad]

lol, these people in the video are a bit like school kids (I mean all the giggling).

I was wondering, what do lesbian girls/ transgender people think about penises?

I mean they have relationships in which the other person doesn't have a penis.

Do they miss something like that?

Surely it's just normal for a lesbiancouple to use hands/ dildos.

Guess I don't get an answer from a lesbian girl in this forum.

I hate this example with lesbians.

Lesbians don't like penis. they do NOT expect to see a dick. straight girls like penis, they want see a penis' . Thats why lesbians have lots of fun and orgams without a penis . Straight woman need a penis . (ok, many orgams with oral sex etc , but a penis is still important )

[notbad]

haha- sorry Im done…. reality check over,,,,,

I like reading this links you usually post here. Its reality .

I think we have more chances to fix our problems, or try to improve in areas that we can't fix, when we face the truth, instead of trying to be denial about it .

[notbad]

Anyone here ask to partners what her feel/think about your penis size ? Whats their answers in real life ?

I never asked to normal girls, but many times I asked this to prostitutes, and always received good/ok answers, but I always think they are lying to me because Im paying and they don't care about me.

[Victimorthecrime]

^^WURD^^

[Victimorthecrime]

Jessie, have you seen this one? It's not long:

[Victimorthecrime]

I know right.

[Victimorthecrime]

I know Jessie and maybe a few others get a kick out of this sort of thing so I thought I would toss it up there. I was curious if he had seen it. Not trying to make any deep statement about life or rock anyone's boat.

Not much else goes on on this forum besides the SPS stuff. I have tried countless times and just crickets. No one here except Beth gives a fuck about mental health or spirituality or being positive or trying to make changes and when I try I get nothing or even mocked so fuck it if it's small dicks they want it's small dicks they are gonna get!

[Victimorthecrime]

Exactly. Every guy here is pissed off ostensibly because his dick is small and if you so much as suggest reframing that or otherwise coping you get attacked so if you can't beat 'em join 'em.

I really liked what you said about the feminization of Western civilization. That was spot on.

[Victimorthecrime]

On FB I subscribe to a number of pages that are ostensibly about dating but every single article is about how the man can better please the woman physically and emotionally with the implied threat that failure to do so will result in your getting dumped.

[Victimorthecrime]

Yeah I have stated here before that if big ones are so rare how come every woman has a story or multiple stories of encountering a big one? What about the millions of porn and amateur porn? What did every big guy do a porn movie? No of course not. The fact is it is not rare at all.

[Small]

This might sound a bit silly but please humour me. We have length and girth which make up volume. What about penis density? Are some penises fuller, heavier and more dense than others? Does this play a big factor in it's desirability? Like most people here I've seen my fair share of porn and there seems to be a substantial difference between the general size of a penis and it's fullness within such parameters and apparent density.

I would guess that a slightly smaller penis with a greater density and fullness is more desirable than it's counterpart? This was an absolutely useless post with no real point so just ignore it. Trying not to delete my entries here so I'll leave it up. haha.

[Small]

Here's something I've only heard Victim mention but it generally seems to be ignored. How important is:

1) Erection strength

2) Sexual Stamina

3) Sex drive

4) Ejaculate Volume

5) Size of testes

When compared to penis size, surely some of the above are more important? What do you guys think?

[Resolute]

'penis density' lmao. that's a new one.

i'll let jessie address your last post. he is the expert after all.

[Small]

'penis density' lmao. that's a new one.

i'll let jessie address your last post. he is the expert after all.

Well there's bone density why not boner density lol! If you spent half your time playing with dildos the way I do you'd totally get it. Haha. Yah though, Jessie is the bona fide penis expert imo. I look forward to his ruling.

[notbad]

Yeah I have stated here before that if big ones are so rare how come every woman has a story or multiple stories of encountering a big one? What about the millions of porn and amateur porn? What did every big guy do a porn movie? No of course not. The fact is it is not rare at all.

Why you don't trust studys ? Why scientist would lye ?

Few posts above, you posted a video where a girl says 6inch is big in her opinion . Every woman has a story with encountering a big one, because they lye, or because they thinks its big, but its average/slight above average. The amateur porn, guy with 7inch penis is more likely to want to film himself during sex, than a guy with 5inch penis .

Its like a wave... have you ever see a 10feet wave on tv ? Seems normal/big, but not that big. Have you ever see a 10feet wave in the ocean, while you surf ? Its fucking huge, you get scared !!!

Also, unfortunally for us, most people (girls and guys) thinks big penis is good status, power etc . Thats why people lye. Normal people has a reason to lye, scientists don't have a reason to lye. Theres some variance in the numbers, but its right numbers. (In the past I didn't trust studys, nowadays I trust)

I read on another forum, a history from a guy with 4inch penis . (can I post link from another forum here? ) He was at one party, with friends guys and girls, and drunk people started saying about penis size. Every guy was saying their size, and he said he was 6inch . Later , he started dating one girl who was in that conversation, and he openned the thread because he was scared about her finding he lyed about his penis size . Some comments in thread were like this ''well, not that bad you lye about your penis size, everyone does this. You should have said 5inch, saying 6inch she might notice, but she wouldn't if you have said 5inch'' .

Why I am saying this ? If the average was 7inch, we would be in worse shape. But the average being 5.5inch, means a 4inch penis isn't that far away from the average. I know, 1.5inch makes a diference in a penis , but still, better have a 1.5inch diference to average, than 3inch .